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Mini
11-05-2003, 06:24 PM
I have known this one guy for a very long time(since middle school, maybe elementary) and he's always been just a friend. About a year ago he asked me out and I never really answered him(long story) well one day last week we were talking and out of the blue he asked me out, well I thought ok sure(I didn't like him like that at the time but I thought I would) Well, since then he's wrote me 3 notes(we don't see each other alot during the day) and in all of them he says he loves me and calls me baby and apologizes for stupid stuff he shouldn't. Don't get me wrong I like him as a friend but I just don't like him as anything more because I thought once we got together I would start to like him but that's not happening(i know it's only been a few days) I don't want to hurt him because apparently according to him he's liked me for a long time and I know I should have never said yes but..I don't know what to tell him..And did i meantion..he's already bought me a birthday present..

Angelseyes28
11-05-2003, 07:03 PM
The only advice I can give you is to be upfront and honest with him now instead of stringing him along. Good luck:)

Dolly<3
11-05-2003, 07:07 PM
Blech! I feel suffocated just reading that. I feel for you Mini. I don't know what to do. I've been in the same position and I just ignored them until they went away. (Not very nice, I know) I wasn't in school with any of them though.

Even if you liked him the same way, being with someone that clingy isn't a good idea.

Oh, and be careful. It sounds like he's obsessed with you and that alone makes it possible he could become a stalker (if he isn't already). I don't mean to scare you - you just never know.

Danny
11-05-2003, 08:07 PM
Be honest with him (preferably in a public place)
A little hurt now may circumvent a bigger hurt later.

Good luck

schsa
11-06-2003, 07:57 AM
Please let him know that you don't feel the same. His heart is going to be broken but better that than having him think that you feel the same.

Poor guy. He's probably been in love with you for ages and now he thinks that he has a real chance. Let him down as easy as possible but stop this before it really gets out of hand.

Kelsey1224
11-06-2003, 09:05 AM
I agree that you need to be honest with him. If you don't feel comfortable telling him personally...since he has communicated with you with notes...perhaps you could do the same for him.

Be kind...tell him how much you value his friendship. But tell him that you don't feel the same way about him as he apparently feels about you. Also tell him that while you don't want to lose him as a friend, if he would feel better not being around you...you will understand.

How old are you, by the way?

Mini
11-06-2003, 08:05 PM
I got it taken care of(not sure if hes mad or what..) but it's all good. And I will be 17 tomorrow or today whenever you read this(the 7th)

Kelsey1224
11-07-2003, 08:03 AM
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

Nimue
11-07-2003, 08:18 AM
Happy Birthday!

I would be honest with him and let him know that you only have feelings for him as a friend. He may be hurt at first but it will be alot easier now than if he keeps thinking it for along time. (if that makes sense!)

christianw27
11-07-2003, 06:56 PM
that might be a little creepy, jmo