small irrelevent vent ... just ignore.. lol..

[sahmsfreeb]

ok i made these realy cute marshmallow pops for all of my kids... i am class mom for my older son who is in second grade.
http://www.parents.com/slideshows/halloween.jsp
Monster Mash-Mallows



i am soooo angry... i was so happy about making these for the kids and someone ( an adult i presume ) ruined it for my youngest son.

:{ when my kindergartener came home i looked in his bookbag. he had goodie bags from other kids and so i said "well wheres yours?" (meaning the pops i made for all the classroom kids and put in a goodie bag with a mcdonalds coupon)... and he goes... and this breaks my heart cause he had the saddest look... "we didnt have enough so i didnt get one." well mind you i called the class mom on thursday to get a head count to make sure that didnt happen. 21 children so i sent in 23. as im talking to my son some more i find out that some moms brought their little children into the classroom. so i can only assume that my sons pop (which i didnt let him have any at home becuase i made just enough) was given to a visiting child. i guess im really mad because when i wanted to volunteer for my older son when he was in kindergarten i was told NO because i had a 3 year old at the time and he wasnt allowed in the room. i know if i call the class mom or the teacher over this im being a ***** but geeze this was my kid... and he was so sad... so sad that his older brother (who wants nothing to do with his lil brother) gave him his... yet again another example of adults ruining things for others... i know im blowing this one way way out of proportion but im mad cause my kids feelings were hurt. its not about the money or my time... that i can easily forgive...i know im being a brat about this... i sooo want to talk to the class mom about this but i know how id feel if a mom called me about this....

ty fro the vent.... i feel a lil bit better... now all i want is a house... another vent... lol... not enough room for that one!!!!!

[unicorn9149]

We all need to vent now and again. Give your son a big hug from me.

[cch]

It was the same here, I brought my son only because I'm breastfeeding and he's only 6 weeks old so I knew he'd sleep in his carseat and wouldn't be a problem, but in my 2nd grader's class there were 4 - 3 or 4 year old kids running around. I only stayed a few minutes then went to my kindergartner's class before I said something and got tossed out.

[aimefisher]

Call the teacher and have her ( him ) call you back. Let them know how you feel.

[BeanieLuvR]

That is so not right. I would complain. I`m so sorry that your little guys heart was broken.

[ckerr4]

Well, actually, I don't blame you for venting. The party was for the kids in the class - not for the extra kids that the other parents brought. I understand that the littler kids had to come with their parents, but the party was for the class - the treats should have been given to the kids in the class, and THEN if there were leftovers, the leftovers could have been given to the other kids.

Personally, I think that other kids shouldn't have been in the classroom. Normally that sort of thing is not encouraged. As a classroom teacher, I would have been appalled if a parent came in with several more kids for an extended period of time! I'm responsible for all the kids in my class, and if you already have 21 - add five or six more, plus the adults - that's a very crowded classroom. Even with other adults to supervise, in a party atmosphere, it's a bit hairy, ya know? And ultimately, it's the teacher's responsibility.

That's just my opinion. I do understand why parents bring their other kids, and I can understand them wanting to visit their older kids - that's admirable, but I also can see the issue of classroom discipline from the teacher's point of view. And I wonder who passed the treats out - the teacher or a parent (who actually gave the treats to one of their own younger kids)?

[sahmsfreeb]

from what my 5 year old told me was that he passed out the treats.... to everyone and then i guess he realized that he didnt have any for himself... pretty selfless kid... he just passed them out to everyone else... and then when he didnt have any for himself an adult ( teacher or parent) must have told him that he wasnt going to get one....

but see this is what i dont get....

why were they letting a 5 year old pass out treats?...


well i have to pick up my kids today at school because we have religion... soooo im gonna ask the teacher like this...

'How many kids are in the classroom?" (with a nice smile and tone) and then when she says how many then im going to tell her that "tommy didnt get one and that he was a bit sad......" ill be super nice... i dont ever want to come off being mean or anything like that.

what i did in my second graders classroom for the party was that I or the other class mom passed out the cupcakes and other snacks on their plates. any goodie bags sent in or lollipops etc.... were put in a big white lunch bag that i printed out with a halloween decoration on it. so each bag had the goodies in it. and every child got. my mom said the same thing you said ckerr4... so thanks everyone for giving me the courage to just to say something small to the teacher to let her know... i think i was too afraid to.... i didnt want to make waves... but it is for my child...

ty!

[zitra]

I don't think you are blowing it out of proportion..I myself don't think that the other parents should have brought their other children to a "class" party (and at least not to the classroom itself), and if they did brign them they should not have been given ANY snacks until ALL of the kids in the class recieved theirs..I am sorry but the parents sent those trets for the kids in teh CLASS not visiting parents and their children!
I would also have been super pissed about this, but this is also why I make 4-5 more to keep at home, I do the same with gifts such as pencils....

I have also noticed at some parties that the parents go start eating/getting snacks before the kids even get to them..I feel the same way about that..NO parents should eat/have snacks until all kids in the CLASS do.

[ckerr4]

what a sweet little boy! yeah, I would definitely have a chat with the teacher. If she knows that someone is concerned, maybe something can be done in the future to change the structure of the parties - it would be a little more enjoyable for all the kids. Poor little guy.

[Dolly<3]

So many things could have been done to prevent this from happening. It sounds like a big unorganized mess.

I understand moms wanting to help with their kid's class, and wanting to take their kids with them. I understand the extra kids wanting the treats and not understanding why they can't (if they weren't allowed to) have them. I also understand the kids being able to pass out their own treats. When I was in kindergarten we passed out our own - it made us feel good. I also understand the kids wanting to hand them to the extra kids as well, not knowing they won't have enough for everyone if they do.

There are things the teacher and moms could have done beforehand to make sure every kid got each treat. It sounds like it was just unorganized. Hopefully next year (or the next party) they will be better prepared. Hindsight is 20/20.

BTW, those treats you made sound yummy! I would definitely say something to her. She might not know your son (and possibly other kids) didn't get everything.

(((((hugs to your sweet little boy)))))

[sahmsfreeb]

well i talked to the teacher. i told her that he was sad and i was more concerned about whether or not i made enough for the class. well she said to tom "i told you to pay attention about putting those in people pumpkins" now i know my kid may be a.d.d. so that doesnt excuse him at all... but the more i think about it she made it seem like it was HIS fault. she is a good teacher but i feel like she belittles him sometimes because of his innatentiveness.... when i was talking with another mom in the class she said that her son got 2 of his own goodie bags he brought into school.. so therefore...someone didnt get one....

i cannot understand why 21 children were allowed to pass out treats when there is only one teacher and no aides.... (and too many parents standing around doing god knows what) the more i dig.. the less i lkie what i hear coming out of this classroom.. it sounds like the same parents are always at the school helping out.... oy what a can of worms this is turning into....


i knew i should of volunteered to be kindergarten class mom lololol... ill post inanother thread what i made for my second graders classroom party...

ps thank you all for the positive words..... im still huggin my kid :)

[ckerr4]

oh no:(

That was not appropriate at all. At the very least, she should have said she was sorry that happened, no matter whose fault it was!

If you feel like she belittles your son in any way, then ask for a conference. Tell her. I hate confrontations, and it doesn't sound like you relish them either, lol, but you could bring it up in a nice way. Just play up the fact that you're concerned about your son. He seems sad that he's left out, that she doesn't seem to like him, or ignores him. You feel that things are disorganized when there's special events, etc. Those are legitimate concerns. Kids that young - there's no reason that during a party things can't be more organized and the kids won't still have fun. The kids can all be sitting in their desks until the adults pass the treats out to the class members. And if the parents bring their other babies, then of course they can't help the teacher with those tasks, and there's no reason for them to be there.

No, there was no reason for her to blame him! He did nothing wrong - he passed out treats to everyone - did she specify - just to the kids? In that case, that's what he did. There were just too many kids in the classroom, and she should have prevented that too. Not his fault at all.

[AngelGrim]

I think the TEACHER should be more attentive, she is the one responsible for what goes on in the classroom, she should have made sure that things were passed our correctly. And I don't think that actually any toddlers should be in the classroom for this type of activity. They wouldn't be allowed to run all over on a normal school day then why on a party day. Sorry JMO

[cinnamonch]

The teacher needs her head examined. Why should a 5 year old be responsible for making sure he gets a treat that his mom made?

If the parents are going to bring their other children, then it should be made clear to them that the treats are for the students in the class room and if there is anything left over then they can have some.