Sunnymoonx
10-29-2003, 07:00 PM
Ok, brief history of my mother. Shes had problems with depression and panic disorders for most of her life. My only sister died 10 years ago this coming december and ever since that happened my mother has never been the same (can't say I blame her and I hope that pain is something i don't ever have to go thru)
anyhow, I ask her maybe twice a year to watch my 3 kids for us. Last time DH wanted to take me out overnight for the first time in 3 years and she said that she just wasn't up to it so we wern't able to go out.
Well here is what is bugging me now. DH is having surgery on his leg on Tuesday. He is going to be put to sleep for it and will be out of work for at least 8 weeks because of it. Today he told me that he really wants me to be there before the surgery and before they put him to sleep. I originally thought he wanted me to drop him off and come home with the kids and just want to pick him up. But no problem, I don't mind at all being there and want to be.
So, I asked my mother if she would please come for a few hours to be here to help get my preschooler off the bus and my kindergarter on the bus after lunch. She told me that she can't get off from work (she volunters at the town's senior center and has been there long enough that she can take a day off) She said That she just isnt up to driving out here. (we live about 40 miles apart)
SO now, I don't know what I am going to do. We don't have any friends here who can watch the kids for me. Our only sitter is in high school and I can't ask her. So, I am stuck. I either have to bring the kids to the hospital with me and wait, or just not go. It just p!$$es me off. I NEVER ask her to watch them.
I know shes depressed and there isnt anything I can do about it. It isnt going to get any better until she is ready to ask for help and that is what I am tired of. She just doesnt want help. My poor father (who is blind) has given up on her too. He has tried to get her help, tried tog et her to go out and do things but asll she wants to do is sit in her room all day, smoke and play slots or bingo online. She comes out of the room to go to work, comes home and get right on the computer. She comes out to cook dinner and runs right back to her room and stays there until she goes to bed. It isnt much of a life for her or my father and I just don't know what else I can do. I have never been real close to her. I don't know if she holds that against me and had always wished that I would take the place of my sister (who was very close to her). I just don't know.
I am stressed right now over this whole surgery thing, not having any income for the next 2 months and It is scary. I am worried about taking care of the kids for Christmas and having a good thanksgiving. I am worried about being able to buy the stupis little everyday things like toilet paper or toothpaste.
Nobody needs to reply. I just needed to whine about this somewhere and this just seemed to be the right place to do it.
If you've read this far, thanks!
anyhow, I ask her maybe twice a year to watch my 3 kids for us. Last time DH wanted to take me out overnight for the first time in 3 years and she said that she just wasn't up to it so we wern't able to go out.
Well here is what is bugging me now. DH is having surgery on his leg on Tuesday. He is going to be put to sleep for it and will be out of work for at least 8 weeks because of it. Today he told me that he really wants me to be there before the surgery and before they put him to sleep. I originally thought he wanted me to drop him off and come home with the kids and just want to pick him up. But no problem, I don't mind at all being there and want to be.
So, I asked my mother if she would please come for a few hours to be here to help get my preschooler off the bus and my kindergarter on the bus after lunch. She told me that she can't get off from work (she volunters at the town's senior center and has been there long enough that she can take a day off) She said That she just isnt up to driving out here. (we live about 40 miles apart)
SO now, I don't know what I am going to do. We don't have any friends here who can watch the kids for me. Our only sitter is in high school and I can't ask her. So, I am stuck. I either have to bring the kids to the hospital with me and wait, or just not go. It just p!$$es me off. I NEVER ask her to watch them.
I know shes depressed and there isnt anything I can do about it. It isnt going to get any better until she is ready to ask for help and that is what I am tired of. She just doesnt want help. My poor father (who is blind) has given up on her too. He has tried to get her help, tried tog et her to go out and do things but asll she wants to do is sit in her room all day, smoke and play slots or bingo online. She comes out of the room to go to work, comes home and get right on the computer. She comes out to cook dinner and runs right back to her room and stays there until she goes to bed. It isnt much of a life for her or my father and I just don't know what else I can do. I have never been real close to her. I don't know if she holds that against me and had always wished that I would take the place of my sister (who was very close to her). I just don't know.
I am stressed right now over this whole surgery thing, not having any income for the next 2 months and It is scary. I am worried about taking care of the kids for Christmas and having a good thanksgiving. I am worried about being able to buy the stupis little everyday things like toilet paper or toothpaste.
Nobody needs to reply. I just needed to whine about this somewhere and this just seemed to be the right place to do it.
If you've read this far, thanks!