I can't take it anymore!

[Dolly<3]

*sigh*

So, my best friend lives in Indiana, where I used to live. We don't see each other much now except on webcam. We just talk on the phone and online.

We used to be such GREAT friends. We had SO much in common, and were so much alike. Even things about our life - like how I was from Paris, TX (where I moved back to) and her last name was France - were freakishly similar. Even when I moved, we talked every single day.

Now it's like she's a totally different person. Tonight I told her about this blanket that I got for my cat. It was part of a bigger issue that I wanted to talk with her about. So she focuses on the blanket and says I spent too much for it. Well, part of the issue I wanted to discuss with her was how I've been spending too much on my cat. (Love animals, had to get rid of cat when moved in w/roommate, finally get a cat after 5 years.) Then she doesn't believe that it actually cost that much. Like I would LIE? It's like she forgot who I am. So I just forget about it and decide not to talk about it. Then 30 minutes later, she sends me a link to a website that sells similar baby blankets for half as much. I tried to explain to her why the one I got cost more. I'm nice this whole time even though she's calling me a liar, AND spent 30 minutes trying to prove it. So then she wants to SEE it.

So I took pictures and sent them to her. I was actually sort of ticked off by now b/c she had NO reason to not believe me or trust me - especially about something so trivial. She's never been this way before.

So after she got the pics, I asked her if she didn't believe me. She said she did, but she just wanted to see it. :rolleyes:

She's been like this, and been really boastful for a while now. My instincts tell me that she's jealous, but she's NEVER been jealous before. In fact, it was one of the reasons I liked her so much. She was one of the few people I didn't feel bad for feeling good around.

I have to stop talking to her for a while. A long while. I can't take it anymore. I'm losing sleep over it. It makes me sick. I can't concentrate. I'm always thinking about how she's being, trying to figure out why.

It just hurts so much to lose someone who was such a huge part of my life for so long. (4 years as best friends). :(

I just needed to get it out. I know it's for the best, and I know I'll feel better but it breaks my heart. At least it's not forever. That's what I keep telling myself.

[Kelsey1224]

Amanda...it is hard to lose a relationship which we remember fondly. However...it is life. As we grow older, we change and our priorities change as well. Frequently we grow away from people who shared our most intimates thoughts. It is hard.

But, I think you are realizing that she just isn't the friend to you that she once was. That's okay. You can keep in touch and you will always care for her. But the relationship will have a different dynamic.

[belle5691]

((((Amanda))))) Im sorry. I know how diffcult it is to not understand best friends. You even answered my post about the problems I have with mine. I hope it gets better for you.

[Dolly<3]

Thanks so much guys. She's just one of those people I NEVER imagined being without. She wasn't just someone I talked about the very good and very bad with, but someone I was comfortable talking (and hearing) the inbetween. We just fit together so perfectly. I met her in this itty bitty town I only lived in for one week, and only lived there b/c I was staying with a friend. They way me met, everything about our relationship was just so "meant to be." Ugh.

[laughsalot]

hugs to ya!

[moogle]

It's so hard to lose human friends. So sorry you are going through this.

Just remember this will never happen with your cat - it's a friend for life! Mine are spoiled rotten, and will continue to be that way. They are always there for you!

[joey74]

Sorry your friendship has taken a turn for the worst. Unfortunatly its like one of the other posters said; as people get older relationships change.
I understand what your going through (I think most poeple do). My friend and I were "best" friends since we were two years old! No joke, we did everything together for 24 years. Then we met our husbands and started families and just drifted apart. It was SO hard at first, I missed her and I mourned all the plans we had (like our daughter being as close as we were). But I realized she wasn't that person anymore and neither was I.
Maybe your relationship is fixable still. Can you talk to her about your feelings? I'm sure the distance doesn't help the situation..
Good luck, I hope everything works out for you....

[sadie01]

{{{Amanda}}}}
Maybe you should say something. I have been in this situation before, and it does hurt. The bad thing is, I don't think the situation hurt the other person as much. I think that's why it hurt me so much.. Did that make sence? LOL
Anyway, I hope it works out for you! {{{{HUGS}}}}

[EtherealGirl]

Wise words from wise women. I've been there too. The thing that took me so long to figure out is, she was probably always like that. It just took her awhile to be that way with me. I even apologized to her if I had done something wrong, when in reality, she was just so self obsorbed that I couldn't do anything right after awhile.

As much as it hurts, it's best to step away from toxic relationships.

[feliciac]

((((((((AMANDA)))))))))))

Just a little thought, if she is your best friend you should be able to talk to her about this whole situation. Maybe she just doesn't realize that she is hurting your feelings. Even people who have always been respectful of your feelings have lapses. If she can't handle talking about it or gets really defensive then maybe it's time to move on. Like everyone else had said, people change. Sometimes it's better to let things go a litle earlier than we would like so you don't have to deal with all the nastiness that comes with letting go too late.

[Dolly<3]

You guys are the best! Thanks so much! ((((( )))))