? About staying in touch with old friend???

[badswife]

O.K. This may sound stupid, when I was in high school me and my best friend was inseparable, we did everything together. Until we were in the second half of the 11th grade(1989) and her family moved to Georgia.(She might have been the bad influnce on me...;) ) We kept in touch for years. Then when she finished school there she went on to college. We continued to talk. She joined some missionary group at her college and went to China for about 5 years, we still kept in touch. Now she is home, (which is in Charloette,NC. Which is about 3 hours from here. And we never talk! I have called her and we will talk on the phone, but she never returns any of my emails (when she does she just says she has been busy) and she never calls me. This really bothers me, maybe it shouldn't but it does. I feel like I am the only one interested in keeping this friendship. I know we are both alot different now, but I would love to keep in touch with her. Now to my question. Should I just forget about it and keep the memories? Should I call or write her and tell her how this is bothering me? I have not emailed he anything "personally" like a letter in quite sometime, should I leave it that way or just tell her how I feel????? Sorry this turned out so long!

[sweet~n~sassy]

I would email her and let her know how you feel, if she doesn't respond then I would just leave it.

My best friend and I were also inseperable from 2nd grade until our senior year, then we just drifted apart. I was growing up and she wasnt. I see her every once in a while, but there just insn't that closeness like there used to be. I think back on how great things were and she will always be my best friend from school, but I have different friends now.

I'm sure whatever decision you make, it will be the right one for you.

[VenusA423]

If it was me and I had been friends with this person for that long of a time, I would tell her how I feel. However it turned out, at least you would know and tried. Instead of just forgetting about the friendship and always wondering why it ended like that. I have a friend that I've been friends with since jr. high. Then I moved and I hadn't seen her in over 9 years. We kept in touch for the most part. Then I moved here and she's only a few hours away now. We don't talk often, but we get together when she's in town. We both have lives and even just seeing her a couple days every few months is great. Hope you figure out what is best for you.

[badswife]

thanks i think i am gonna write her a letter

[jaybird]

This happens a lot. I'm not 'in touch' with most my high school friends, even those I was friends with since kindergarten. As we grow, our lives take different paths. If we're lucky, we take a friend or two along for the ride, but sadly, most the time, lives change, people change and we have a lot of great memories. I did make contact with a friend from HS that I was attached to the hip to. She introduced Stubby & I. Stubby actually ran into her after nearly 30 years at a drag race near Chicago a couple summers ago. I get conflicting stories from him and my bil, but seems some certain female was HITTING on my husband! ROFLMSAO! She called, we talked for hours on the phone. No thanks, I really don't want to see her or rekindle an old friendship. We have turned into two totally different people!

Even at 23 my dot is seeing the same thing happen. She's still in contact with some HS friends, but only one (from 3rd grade on) is she still best friends with. In fact, they live together now and are more like sisters than friends. The others? Things change. Her closest friends are 3 girls from college, Shanna and her 'new friends' that she met in med school.

((((( )))))

[Ladytiger]

That's one of life's lessons that is hard to swallow.
My DD is going to be 14 in a few days, she is seeing that happen with the kids that she went to elementary school with. People change, attitudes, and likeness changes.
If you feel that you can talk to her about it, get together and talk. Otherwise, just take the memories and move on.

[badswife]

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