My sister-in-law the QUEEN* long

[mattdawn]

I am so sick of this 28 year old baby. I have known her since she has been 12 and she has never grown up. She has two kids. She WILL NOT keep a job. She recently got thrown out of her house for not paying rent(or any other bill). She is living in a motel that welfare is paying for.She has been arrested numerous times. Her Mom always bails her out. The last time was a month ago Hy dh and me took care of her kids. We had to go to her house to get them clothes and her house was FILTHY I found the kids some clothes they were dirty and scattered all over so I had to wash them. When she got home DH told her to clean the house before we took the kids home. When we took them home we didn't even get a Thank You. She seems to think that everyone owes her something. My mil is laided off but she is still trying to pay all of her daughters bills. She will call my house and say let me speak to "My Brother" she only calls when she wants something(money or a babysitter) She never has any money to do anything with her kids but always has money to go out with her friends. She hates me because "I took her brother away" The girl has mental problems. Her seven year old wears size 10 or 12 pants that hang off him so bad that he can't even play. I went to the store and bought him size 8 slim and she doesn't want him to wear them because she says they don't fit. A bunch of us girls are going to Florida for a girls week away and she is going how she can afford it I don't know. She wasn't even invited because everyone knew she didn't have money and her kids are younger but she invited herself. Everyone in her family is sick of her and the way she treats her Mom but her Mom lets her treat her bad. This is just some of the stuff she does.Thanks for letting me get some anger out.

[1busymomma]

(((((((((((mattdawn))))))))))))))

[GeThang]

Wow, you have every reason to vent. And yeah, sounds like she has got some problems. She should consider her kids more than that.
Hang in there :)

[zitra]

Originally posted by Charm174
Um, ok - don't take this the wrong way. I may be WAY of base here, but I speak from personal experience. I think there is a problem with drug usage here. This is going to sound really cold, but I think you should call childrens services, have them get the kids, and then change your phone number. If what I suspect is true, she is not going to change until she has no other choice.

Yes, and the next time her house is so filthy, call social services to come see what it looks like.

[schsa]

I think that it would be acceptable to tell your SIL that she is not welcome on this week away if she can't pay her own way. And that she has to have $150 up front to cover food and hotels. If she doesn't have it on the day you leave, she doesn't go. That will stop her from mooching off of everyone for a week. And then you can use her money to pay her way.

Secondly, a call to CPS won't hurt. Especially if you think that her kids are being neglected in any way. She'll find out really fast that she won't be able to keep her kids if she can't take care of them properly.

Don't give her anything. You know that all she is going to do is complain about it and it doesn't make her any more responsible. It will make it harder for her brother but tough love is the only way to go for people who think that they should be given everything.

[MissUEric]

that's really a shame that she puts her kids through all that.

do the kids not want to go home? do you talk to them about experiences they have at home?

[MommyG3]

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