omg, lemme vent about the ex...

[yannahk]

I read in the local newspaper today that ex husband has just been charged with his third DUI! I'm so p*ssed that this is the way that I find out, after we even had an hour long conversation earlier this week. We have a three year old daughter, and I always told him as a warning that I would never bring her to a prison if he ever got into serious trouble and should end up incarcerated. Well, I'm expecting the worst, and I have no idea what will I tell my daughter if he's doing time? I just can't imagine telling her the truth, but it seems wrong to lie. Thank you for listening, I'm just in shock still...

[DreamWarrior]

well, just tell her (if he indeed does go to prison) that Daddy did something that wasnt right and had to go away for awhile to think about what he did. you know... a "time out" so to speak... if she has ever had this done, she will probably understand somewhat

[Widgetsx3]

I agree with dreamwarrior...when my ex was going thru some drug issues...my kids where told that daddy didn't follow the rules, and was given a time out, just like when they didn't follow the rules they were given they got a time out....they were 4 and 2 at the time...now that he is clean and sober, they have a really good relationship with him because they never knew about all the crap he put himself (and us) through....too bad he can't be a decent ex husband...but at least he is a good father now....

[tiffany21]

HUGS TO YOU

[1busymomma]

What exactly does that have to do with the price of tea in China? Stop ruining other peoples threads and take that crap elsewhere.

yannak...I'm sorry about having to find out like that. I think I would take him to court personally to have visitation altered. I mean what if your dot had been in the car? and I agree with Dream Warrior to tell her about it being like a "time out"

[GeThang]

Mom2jal, way to go on booting that troll, we don't need em' 'round these here parts :)

yannahk, I know how it stinks to find out things through the newspaper. I remember the "time out" thing working on my brother when he was little when he was wondering why our dad wasn't at home. Thing is, it became a permanent "time out" because it ended in divorce, eventually. He was only two and understood because big sister was always getting "time outs" to her room :)

[yannahk]

Thank you so much for the "time out". Of course, you're right, and I'm so grateful for everyones input.

[cch]

My neice and nephew's father is in and out of prison and they know the truth. They're 2 & 4. They're just told that "Daddy did something very bad that the police men told him not to do and had to go away for a while." In my opinion it's better to tell kids the truth than lie to them and have them overhear someone talking about it and be confused.