I think he is leaving......(long)

[HumblePie98]

Well last night the hubby and I had a huge blow out fight!! he was aying I had to give up the cpmouter. I said , FINE, you will give up your friends.

Well he changed his mind and said, I dont care what you do on the computer.

I tried to explain to him that I spend all my time on here because I feel lonley. He ignores me all the time. I said that i would be glad to give 2 whole days on here (my days off) to spend time with him. He said "oh, no, I dont think so." "I am not wasting that much time." Well needless to say that really hurt.

This mornig he told me he would be out tonight after work. He would bring the car back up to work, and I could pick up Brenten.

Sadly, I am not very heart broken. Just scared. For years he has done many things to me. Knocked my front teeth out, kicked me in the face with steel toed boots, tells me I am a whore, discusting, etc.

I chat on yahoo and I met a guy named Ben (last year!) Ben is very nice to me. He helped me realize I DONT and WONT put up with his **** anymore. (NO I HAVENT HAD AN AFFAIR!!! HE LIVES 45 MINUTES AWAY BUT I HAVE NEVER MET HIM!) He has been there everytime I need him. It made me realize thats the kind of man I want. I also want to go to church (dont slam me) and let my son learn about God. These are things I just cant do with Gary. We have so many problems. Its been going on for years. I have a headache, and I just dont care anymore. It will be sad to see myself lose 5 years of my life. bUt I try to think back to the good times, and I really cant remember any. Hes always to busy for me. anyhow, thats my vent.

And T I dont care there is nothing postive in here right now!!

[DreamWarrior]

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I dont know what to say so I will just give you hugs....

[squirt]

You have to do what you think is right!!!
Hang in there and have a good day (((((((((((((((( hugs, hugs)))))

[hotwheelstx]

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Do what you think is best for you and your children. I wish you the best of luck and support you in your decision.

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[rain_cries]

(((hugs)))

[Tasha405]

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[Lisa03]

sorry to hear about this. You don't deserve this. You should be happy

[redrig]

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you deserve to be happy after putting up with so much.

[mrs.john]

{{{hugs}}} I wish you the best of luck on your new life.

[feliciac]

I just wanted to say that loosing 5 years is better than loosing your whole life to a man who does not care about you. I know how that is, I went through it for 7 years. My ex always had something he would rather be doing than spending time with me, hunting, fishing, watching sports, spending time with his family and friends. I tried to do things he liked so we could be together but it didn't work, he would still rather do them alone or with someone else. I finally realized I couldn't do anything to make it better and I left. I'd say you have even more reason to leave than I did, since he has been physically abusive to you.

I know it's hard to walk away from all of that time, but things will get better and later you will find yourself wondering why you stayed as long as you did. Please email me or pm me if you need to talk. I know it can help.

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[KimNRandy]

I walked away from TEN years and I couldn't be happier now. It's time to move on and start enjoying a POSITIVE relationship. Good luck!! :)

[morris2b]

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I think you are making the best move that you can make by wanting to turn your life and your son's life to the lord, I know the pain you are experiencing been there before, being alone is scary, and it is not going to be easy but you will find the strength within to survive and make your life better.......Just please please please don't immediately fall into a relationship with the guy you met in chat, sometimes we tend to need a rebound, if you value your friendship with him and he values yours he will understand that you will need some time to get prioritized and get yourself back together emotionally before you will be able to handle a normal relationship....And if you hear the old tale that internet relationships don't work, use your own judgement as I am now married to the man I met online ;)

[schsa]

I don't understand what there is to be afraid of. Right now you are in a dead end relationship with a man who is physically violent towards you. He doesn't want to spend time with you and he is not interested in you as a person. If you weren't married to him and only dating him would you put up with this behavior? NO! If he was your best friends husband and you were able to observe this relationship, would you encourage her to stay with him? Most likely not.

There are nice men out there. There are good men out there. Why settle for garbage when you can have champagne? You can stay and continue to put up with his garbage or you can get out and find the champage that makes life wonderful.

[HumblePie98]

Originally posted by morris2b
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Just please please please don't immediately fall into a relationship with the guy you met in chat, sometimes we tend to need a rebound, if you value your friendship with him and he values yours he will understand that you will need some time to get prioritized and get yourself back together emotionally before you will be able to handle a normal relationship....And if you hear the old tale that internet relationships don't work, use your own judgement as I am now married to the man I met online ;)

he is nothing more than my firend. he and i dont have a connection in that way. He's very supportive of me. And i of him. In fact he just lost his gf that he loves, and I helping him fix it so he canbe happy :-)

[suzziq03]

Although I have never been hit by my husband,( not saying he hasnt done other things mind you ) I know EXACTLY what your going through. More than you know, If you want you can write me and we can talk, my email is [email protected], Even if its to vent a little, You have no clue how much I understand!
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[Talanco]

Hope you find a way to be happy soon!! ((((rescueapit))))

[MommyG3]

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[ilvmy3babs]

oh sweetie, please dont let a man hurt u. u deserve so much better than that. get away for him as soon as possible, for u and your kids. they dont need to grow up in that emvironment. good luck hun. always tell your self u are better that that.

[FireFox1973]

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I walked away after almost ten years. My only regret is not doing it sooner.
You have to be happy, and this guy does not want you to.
Be strong, and the BBS family is here for you!

[Widgetsx3]

<----wasted 7 years (except for my wonderful kids). Get out! Not because he might leave, but because you DESERVE MORE!!!!! I would rather be alone, than miserable.....If you need someone to talk to I am here...If you need help....there are plenty of us here who have "been there....done that" we can point you in the right direction...offer moral support....and listen when you need to vent. NO-ONE deserves to be hurt in a relationship....especially physically....If you have kids...it just teaches them that it is acceptable.....teach them that you want more for them! Good Luck!

[reneep45]

keep the dog !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[reneep45]

Hey , i luv ya ! think it all thru , we are all here for you !
but KEEP THE DOG !!!!

[christianw27]

Please get out of there. Anyone who would hit you and degrade you like that isn't worth your tears. I know its easier said than done but no one deserves to live that way. HUGS:(

[tiffany21]

you need to protect yourself and do what you have to hugs

[Ashlee]

Good Luck with what ever you decided to do, but please realize violence is not a good enviroment to bring your child up in. Children often learn what they live.
(((Hugs)))