No More sister

[Lilpetie]

well as some of you may have read in my other post about needing help with a computer or need Washington info. He is the short version. Some time ago my sister started emailing me about leaving her hubby I gave her moral support as I know how hard this can be plus he is a control freak and had brain-washed her into hating her own family for many years. She just about 2 years ago started to talk to me again because she is finally at that age where she is fed up (she 54) I am 44. Now this thing has escalated. She was hit by her son she was deserted by her daughter. They have done so many things to her it kills me since I live so far away and cant help. She was living with no clothing, no personnal items for 2 days. She went to a crisis center and had restraining orders put out on hubby and son. She had been sleeping on a couch at her workplace. She did rent a home but it has nothing in it. Her daughter and son somehow broke into her computer and found emails she had written to me and another friend who is a male. They also read emails I had written giving her support and some things I didnt like about her hubby (that is no secret anyway). Well now her son and daughter have told everyone that I am the cause of this. That she didnt start "changing" until I was emailing her. This is all a bunch of crap and I know it and luckily so does my parents (they dont like her hubby either). Well I tried to email her (sis) and I also have been calling her but no answer. I put in the email that it is killing me that her kids think this. Since all I have done was nothing more that any sister would do. But they have printed out these emails and are twisting them around the way they want to. I dont have ANY proof (hence my urgent pleas for help). I have since thought this over at great lengths.I have emailed her daughter apologizing if she thought this. It was never my intention and is not true. My sister has been saying she has been unhappy with this jerk for many years. But her kids are saying that I am brain-washing her. OH PLEASE........ This hurts so bad that I cant begin to tell you. My eyes are swollen due to crying. So bad I havent left the house today. I finally emailed my sis and told her I am out of this for good. Please dont email me anymore. I cannot give you any support because I do not want her kids to take it and turn that all around too. That basically I am going to loose my sister AGAIN because of that family. This is what they have wanted all along. I am sure DADDY has put them up to this. That controlling, manipulating barbarion that he is. I hate this *&^% with all my being. He has done so much to her (and her kids) that I sometimes wish him dead and that isnt good but I cant help it. I feel so helpless and lost right now. My sister will be gone from me again forever.

[heartlvrs]

I will pray for you and her !!!!

[BeanieLuvR]

I will remember you and your sister in my prayers.

[Lilpetie]

Thank you so much. I needed to hear anything kind. I am so torn up inside over all this. I love my sister so much. We were always so close before she married this JACK*$#. Then we went thru a very long period of no contact thanks to him Like I said I just recently (2 yrs) have been able to see her again and talk to her alot thru emails and IM. Now I am very afraid that those kids have gotten to her or even him I have tried since last night to talk to her. Sent emails called her new house and left about 4 messages I have even called her workplace and left a message. But she isnt returning them and that is no like her. I just talked to on Thurs morning and she was so fed up with him and very angry that her kids had taken their dads side. She was also very elated about her new place. But for her to not return my calls is worrying me. I talked to my other nephew last night from her first marriage (he lives close to me) and he said that Thurs night she went with her daughter and they rode around and had a very long talk. And now she isnt calling me.????????? I am very afraid that they have convinced her that I am the blame or something. Which is so far from the truth. Although I hate this man I have always tolerated him for her sake. Believe me it is hard but I love her. I dont know what else I can do. I am not sleeping, eating, cant concentrate on anything but this. I am trying so hard to let it go but I just cant seem to. Please does anyone have any words of support or wisdom that will help me right now.

[BeanieLuvR]

{{{{Lilpetie}}}} I wish I had words of wisdom but since I don`t I will give you a hug. Please try to eat and get some sleep.

[gwendolen]

Please just realize that you've done everything you can do. I know it's not much consolation, but it's the truth. You sound like someone I would want as a sister. If after everything you've tried, she still turns her back on you, all you can do is move on. Heart-wrenching as it is, it is HER problem, not yours.

I am in a family that has plenty of these situations, and more often than not the person ends up realizing they need their family.

In the meantime, maybe go to a counselor, just to talk things through. It will help you just to get your feelings out and to have someone give you a way to deal with those feelings.

Best wishes.

[kybeauty]

Lilpetie.....sounds like you have done all that YOU can...I will pray for all of you :)

[schsa]

You can't make your sister take your calls. And if she has decided to go home then there is very little that you can do. Leave her a message at work saying that you will no longer contact her but you will be there if she ever needs you.

I feel for you and more for her. The situation is going to be hard on everyone.