My MIL is NUTS and driving me!

[Ashlee]

Since we dont have children (yet) we are close to niece and nephew and are taking to Florida (16 yrs and 14 yrs) this coming SUnday. ANyway, I made my hubby tell his mom last weekend (I knew she would want to go-but IS NOT-- the great deal I got is for two adults and two children ONLY_HAHAHA!!
Anyway, we explained this when we took her out to lunch-so anyway we get a call from her tonite (she lives three hrs away) wanting to know when we were picking her and the kids up to leave!! ARRRGH!!! SHe said we told her she could go!!! We never told her this! This is just one of her ploys to get her way. To make my husband feel guilty about not letting her go!!!!!
It's not enough-we are having to help her get her car fixed because she blows her money buying CRAP all the time-she thinks we should take her on vacation too(and always we would have to pay for everything)!! Then she had the nerve to say, well I am still walking since my car isnt running (so my husband would worry-the crime rate in her city isnt very good).
Anyway, I am just aggravated because her next ploy will probably be to get herself put in the hospital. Believe me it wouldnt be the first time, thats what she did the first time we had a disagreement.

Sorry so long! Its just aggravating, we sacrifice to do something good fot the kids and she will do her best to ruin it. If she was going the kids wouldnt want too-they know shes nuts too!

[justme23]

I have a manipulative SIL, so I sorta know how you feel... the sad part is that I haven't even MET her yet and it's already to the point where I've put my foot down and told my husband that I will NOT go 'home' w/ him and be subjected to what I *know* is coming. It pisses me off even more that he won't say ANYTHING to her. And that's what I'd do if I were in your position too... since the deal is for 2 adults and 2 children and your husband is being 'guilted'... I'd just tell him... have fun w/out me... and I bet that puts enough fire under his hiney to tell his mother NO... and if it doesn't, then LET him go w/out you and feel completely guilty about it. His trip will be completely ruined from the guilt... atleast I know mine would... and I doubt he really wants to hurt you that bad anyways.

[Ashlee]

I feel for u if ur SIl is that bad!

My hubby(I couldnt believe it) put his foot down (he actually raised his voice to his mother-never happens--lol)! However we still have a whole five days for her to pull her antics...its gonna be a long mentally anguished week be4 she's done!
Thanx for ur suggestions-if it comes down to it-I will use them!

[mom4angels]

I am sorry sorry Ashlee You know from my post that I am having trouble with my MIL. Mine is also self-centered as they come. Zitra had a really good idea for you. I would do exactly what she said. I couldn't though being she can look out the window into my front door. Just thank your lucky stars that you don't live across the street from her. My Mil let my DH grandfather (that has sued us in court for money) into her home knowing what he is doing to us. She said that she is doing it for my FIL but she really is doing it for herself for the monetary benefits she gets when he comes. It is such a long story and there is more to it and I don't want to take over your vent. I just know exactly where you are coming from. If you ever need to talk just PM me. We can start the evil MIL club. I hope that it works out for on your vacation.:)

[hotwheelstx]

Originally posted by zitra
I know it sounds bad, but next time, i would not even tell her you are leaving. Just go, and send her a post card. IMO it is none of her buisness when/where you go. I would just have the neices spend the night, and just leave the next day.
You could tell your MIL that plans changed and you won't be leaving, til a day or two later, and then leave when you were planning to, so she won't have tiem to "pull" something.

Aggie and I have done this several times. My inlaws live 1,000 away too. They still want us to pay to fly them w/us.

On Aggie's side my family doesn't EVER ask to go. They are usually invited and will come sometimes.

I feel for you. I know what you're going thru. JUST LEAVE. It's your vacation, plans. You're the one paying for it not HER. GO, GO, GO.

I wouldn't bother calling her back either. I would send postcard and call when we returned.

IF I DIDN'T INVITE YOU THAT MEANS I DIDN'T/DON'T WANT YOU TO COME.

Sorry, I'm kind of blunt when it comes to those things.

Good luck :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

[SaraSmiles]

Ashlee, my heart goes out to u. After my wreck, which u know all about. I get back, my mil just calls to complain. She goes on this tirade about my sweeties brother. My feelings r hurt. I plan on avoiding her. Thank goodness for caller id and answering machine.
U have been given some great advice. I say, go for your DH, cause he is such a nice guy, i am glad he finally said something.
If anything happens to my sweetie, i am making sure my next one doesnt have a living breathing mil. :p
Let me know how things work out. Wish i was there. :)

[ladybugmo1]

There is a wonderful board for MIL stories out there. I can't remember the link right now but I will post later with it.