Why can't people watch their kids/grandkids

[sweet~n~sassy]

I am so sick of my neighbors kid/grandkid coming over to my house constantly. This child just turned 4 yrs old and he is always coming to my house, hanging on my fence or playing out in the road, running or riding his bike out in front of cars. It is not my job to watch the kid. I have 2 of my own plus I watch my 2 neices, I dont need or want anymore kids around. I tell him at least 20 times a day to go back home and stay there. But of course he comes back. I leave today and come home and my daughters bike is laying in the middle of the driveway, chain off. I know exactly who was playing with it, cuz there are no other kids around here. GRRRRR it just annoys me like crazy. I put the bikes up, come in the house and am home for maybe 30 mins and he comes back, tries to get the bike but as soon as I open the door he runs off. I don't want him over hear, he is a little brat, doesn't listen to anybody and I dont want to be responsible for him getting hurt. Well thats my vent for the day :)

[girlwithsoul]

You need to talk to that child's parents!!! He is essentially stealing from you by coming and taking the bike. I know he young, but you're never too young to learn to be polite and not do things like that....IMHO

[sweet~n~sassy]

Wouldnt do me a bit of good, i guarantee he would be back within 5 mins. I betcha they even watch him come over and get the bike.

[BeesKnees]

Try not to be angry with the child. He is just a little kid and if he is bratty it is because he clearly has little or no examples, nor rules, in his life. I would talk to the parents and inform them he may (or maybe not, up to you) come play when invited, but otherwise he needs to stay in his own yard under their supervision. If it goes too far I would report them .I feel bad for kids like him.

[ntgsmommy]

DCFS could get invloved at this stage, becuase the fact the yare not watching their 4 year old, and letting him steal your DD's bike proves neglect, so does the fact that they also allow a 4 year old out by himself, to ride his bike in the yard. If they are not watchign their son DCFS NEEDS to get invloved. Besides turnign into a theif, he could be killed riding his bike out into the street!!
(origanally posted by Zitra)


That's exactly what I was going to say!:D :eek:

[sweet~n~sassy]

yes I know dcfs can get involved. it just irks me that they let him come over here and do that. its partly my fault for leaving the bike out, our yard is fenced in and my daughter was riding her bike out in the road (i was with her) and i just never put the bike up. but it is my yard and driveway and i shouldnt have to worry about the neighbors kid coming over here all the time and taking things that dont belong to him. come to think of it, this isnt the first time he has taken something, i caught him with one of my daughters toys that way inside the yard, he reached through the fence to get it. i asked him where he had gotten it and he said his grandma bought it for him. i also told him he needed to put it back where he got it and to leave things alone. never thought anything more about it.

also wanted to add that if things persist, then i will go have a talk with them, i just dont really want to start any trouble. there is enough drama in this neighborhood as it is. they are already ticked off at me because i called them out on some things that were said about my oldest daughter and i know that if i go over there all hell is going to break loose.

[momtofuss]

i would call the cps and have them investigate it, that is truly not good if a four year old is all alone and coming over all the time

[cch]

I know alot of you have had problems with neighbors and such not watching their kids, as have I, only I finally got enough! There is a trailer park next to me (only 3 trailers, but still...) and this one woman was tossed out in October, only she was a friend of a friend and such so the owner never made her pay rent, as she was dealing with the death of her hubby, drug abuse problems, stuff like that. Anyway she left all her stuff in the trailer until last week when the landlord finally re-rented it and put it all outside. She's got 2 kids, 5 and 6 years old, the 5 year old is in Pre-K and the 6 yera old in Kindergarten. Pre-K doesn't do a bus route, but the little boy kept getting off the bus at the trailer. DUH! NO ONE LIVES THERE! So he'd come to my house and wait for his mom to pick him up 20 - 30 minutes after he got off the bus. I finally called the Child Abuse - Neglect hotline last friday. But they said w/o an address or phone number for the mom there wasn't much investigating they could do. Tuesday I called back, it was raining and I needed to be at t-ball, but was stuck waiting for his mom to show up to get him. The lady I spoke to told me if he was unattended like that and being so young my best bet was to call the police. They could come and get him, his mom would have to pick him up there and explain herself and they would have to file a report against her. IT WAS MANDITORY FOR THEM! So I decided that next time that's what I would do. Well Thursday the school called me (it's a small town and the secretary thought maybe since I was a neighbor I'd know how to get ahold of the mom) and I called DFS who called the police to pick both kids up from school. Needless to say this lady is in a sh!tload of trouble and I solved the problem! But now I know that when these children aren't being watched to call the Local or County police depending on who's jurisdiction I am in. I hope this can help some of you put an end to the crap you're having to deal with. It's enough to watch our own children w/o having one's that are troublemakers too!

[mesue]

Gosh if this 4 year old child is running around the neighborhood unattended thats just plain neglect, a 4 year old is not old enough to be left alone on the porch much less let loose in the neighborhood to fend for himself.

[sweet~n~sassy]

i know he shouldnt be left alone, but it seems even when they are standing outside he is not being watched that well. the other day they were outside and he was out playing by the road and ran out in front of a car. i did have a talk with them and told them that i know he had be over at my house riding my daughters bike and that they needed to keep him out of my yard. we will see if it does any good, but i somehow doubt it.