bruiser
05-02-2003, 09:35 PM
Ok..
I thought this was as appropriate place to whine about this. I know some of you will say "Oh, well MY man is already like that" , but I think most of you will understand why I feel how I do.
This is simply part of an email. My ex boyfriend from high school emailed me through Classmates.com. No biggie, he is married and has 5 kids. We were emailing back and forth and I was telling him a bit about my situation-living w/ ex husband and not knowing where our relationship is going, and whats going to happen to our relationship and our kids, etc.
Anyway, here was his response. It made me think "Wow, I hope his wife knows how lucky she is". They have been together for about 10 years. And are both in their early 30's. Maybe its just me, but I sure would kill for a man who thought this way about me and our relationship:
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Well it sounds like me about 8 years ago. We have struggled to make bills and had to scrape hard. Go to the food bank, get on WIC and do all that. We had problems with marriage between the 3 to 5 year itch. I was a selfish jerk and all I ever thought about was me. Me ME ME ME , My time , My friends , My money . and then I blamed my wife ( "you never let me do anything, I always have to be home, where is My time ?") I was a bad husband.
Then we went to some marraige counseling and I learned that I was Not Being The MAN. So I swallowed my MAN Pride Crap and Became a Husband. I now Listen to my wife, I kiss and hold my wife, Tell her how beautiful she is, I clean the house , help with the kids, give baths , all that stuff. My wife and our love comes first. I see so many Men today in marriages that don't get it , and they say "My wifes a *****, she doesn't this- she that". Well I tell them to get off there ASS and listen to their wives and help out, get plugged in. And then maybe your wife will give you sex. Women don't give love unless they are getting love. I used to expect sex and demand it. HA who was I kidding? I have to make deposits into the bank before I make a withdraw. I grow Roses in my wife love garden instead of weeds , and I think alot of men grow weeds instead of flowers , women are flowers.... Man I am SOOOOOOO Married . Anyway let me know if you need an ear I am here .
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lol The ironic thing is this guy treated me like CRAP in high school. I was obssesed with him-he knew it and treated me like crap most of the time...Oh well...Thanks for listening, girls!;)
I thought this was as appropriate place to whine about this. I know some of you will say "Oh, well MY man is already like that" , but I think most of you will understand why I feel how I do.
This is simply part of an email. My ex boyfriend from high school emailed me through Classmates.com. No biggie, he is married and has 5 kids. We were emailing back and forth and I was telling him a bit about my situation-living w/ ex husband and not knowing where our relationship is going, and whats going to happen to our relationship and our kids, etc.
Anyway, here was his response. It made me think "Wow, I hope his wife knows how lucky she is". They have been together for about 10 years. And are both in their early 30's. Maybe its just me, but I sure would kill for a man who thought this way about me and our relationship:
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Well it sounds like me about 8 years ago. We have struggled to make bills and had to scrape hard. Go to the food bank, get on WIC and do all that. We had problems with marriage between the 3 to 5 year itch. I was a selfish jerk and all I ever thought about was me. Me ME ME ME , My time , My friends , My money . and then I blamed my wife ( "you never let me do anything, I always have to be home, where is My time ?") I was a bad husband.
Then we went to some marraige counseling and I learned that I was Not Being The MAN. So I swallowed my MAN Pride Crap and Became a Husband. I now Listen to my wife, I kiss and hold my wife, Tell her how beautiful she is, I clean the house , help with the kids, give baths , all that stuff. My wife and our love comes first. I see so many Men today in marriages that don't get it , and they say "My wifes a *****, she doesn't this- she that". Well I tell them to get off there ASS and listen to their wives and help out, get plugged in. And then maybe your wife will give you sex. Women don't give love unless they are getting love. I used to expect sex and demand it. HA who was I kidding? I have to make deposits into the bank before I make a withdraw. I grow Roses in my wife love garden instead of weeds , and I think alot of men grow weeds instead of flowers , women are flowers.... Man I am SOOOOOOO Married . Anyway let me know if you need an ear I am here .
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lol The ironic thing is this guy treated me like CRAP in high school. I was obssesed with him-he knew it and treated me like crap most of the time...Oh well...Thanks for listening, girls!;)