kokopup
04-21-2003, 11:15 PM
My Easter was terrible
We had a real rocky start and I just gave up and went to bed. DIL has been having DGD every other weekend but the first weekend is when she gotso badly sun burned and her boyfriend slept over so Son said no more sleepovers as DGD started having a real bad attitude. Fri. she and I dyed eggs and everything was ok. Sat her mom picked her up for the day and when she brought her home her attitude stunk. She was nasty to me, Grandpa and Dad. I took her on an Easter egg hunt on Sat. morn and she won a big Easter basket and when she got home took everything out of it and said throw it away so I did what any thrifty woman does and recycled it. I was going to make her basket anyway but had enough stuff for 2 baskets so made one for her Dad to put out and made one for here. She came over Sun. morn about 8 and woke me up and said she wanted that pink basket but she knew we had used it to make her another one and that wasn't right, she didn't want a used basket but I said it had a lot of neat stuff in it didn't it, she said yeah ,but she was mad. She looked around the house and wanted to know where the basket was here as the Easter Bunny always left one here. I said I don't know he must have run out of new baskets. She went home and got her Dad up and proceeded to ream him out about the basket so then they came over here and I fixed breakfast and she said well she wasn't going to eat as her Mom will feed her so son took her pancakes and put them in his plate and ate them. A few minutes later she came back and thought maybe she would eat after all. I had 2 still in the pan so fixed them for her and she ate most of them but was rude so Son sent her to the corner for about 30minutes. He was so pissed at her. Grandpa went out and hid the eggs for her that we had done on Fri. and she found them then got dressed in the new dress and shoes that I had bought her. When her Mom came to pick her up,her Dad told her about how she was acting as she had come home the evening before with a bad attitude. Her Mom chewed her out for about 20 min, and said she could go to her grandparents for her basket and that was it. She was only gone about an hour but she was suppose to spend the day. Today she came and picked her up this morning for the day and brought her home about 4 and what a attitude she had. She was rude to everyone and kept talking about DIL's boyfriend. Since she wasn't suppose to go in the sun her Mom took her swimming at the beach but had a shirt on her. She was on my computer after dinner and I told her it was 7:45 and she needed to get a bath and go to bed. she informed me that she wasn't going to bed, she was going to do what she wanted to and that she was spending every weekend with her Mom and boyfriend cause HE said she could. I said well it is time to go home and she refused and I picked her arms up and said oh yes you will and she bit me and I smacked her not hard but in the mouth and she screamed at me that her Mother said if I ever smacked her again that she was going to do something to me so I forcibly took her home to let her Dad deal with her. She hit, bit and screamed at me all the way over there. I called DIL on the phone and said lets get this straight now. You are not going to play one against the other.DIL said I only have 3 min. left on my cell phone but she talked to DGD for 1 min and denied saying that then her phone went dead and she didn't call back. Her DAd made her go to bed right then and I left. I don't know what to do about this as everytime she is with DIL she comes home and hates us all. All they do is go to the beach, pool, playtime then she comes home and we have to make her take a bath, do her homework, get up for school and then we catch all of the pent up anger she has, the snootiest, the screw you attitude. DIL never spends time alone with her it is always with another man and he is so much fun. I am ready to give up as I just can't take her attitude any more. Everything's fine when you do what she wants and on her terms. If she has a friend down to play then she demands that I let her stay for dinner and starts in about spending the night and does it right in front of the child and I have been saying no as this kids mother would let her stay all day and night. She has really learned how to manipulate in her 8 short years. What a Monster we have created. Any one got any advice on how to handle this situation. I know she wants to live with her Mom but it is not safe as before her Mom was on drugs and gave DGD an overdose of over the counter medicine to make her sleep, never looked out for her and has been gone since last Aug. when she went into detox and then has been kicked out of treatment twice. She was suppose to get out of treatment in June and she left there in March. I don't know that she is using again but she is hanging out with some really rough looking characters.
I guess I am getting too old to take care of an 8 year old, she is much smarter than I am.
We had a real rocky start and I just gave up and went to bed. DIL has been having DGD every other weekend but the first weekend is when she gotso badly sun burned and her boyfriend slept over so Son said no more sleepovers as DGD started having a real bad attitude. Fri. she and I dyed eggs and everything was ok. Sat her mom picked her up for the day and when she brought her home her attitude stunk. She was nasty to me, Grandpa and Dad. I took her on an Easter egg hunt on Sat. morn and she won a big Easter basket and when she got home took everything out of it and said throw it away so I did what any thrifty woman does and recycled it. I was going to make her basket anyway but had enough stuff for 2 baskets so made one for her Dad to put out and made one for here. She came over Sun. morn about 8 and woke me up and said she wanted that pink basket but she knew we had used it to make her another one and that wasn't right, she didn't want a used basket but I said it had a lot of neat stuff in it didn't it, she said yeah ,but she was mad. She looked around the house and wanted to know where the basket was here as the Easter Bunny always left one here. I said I don't know he must have run out of new baskets. She went home and got her Dad up and proceeded to ream him out about the basket so then they came over here and I fixed breakfast and she said well she wasn't going to eat as her Mom will feed her so son took her pancakes and put them in his plate and ate them. A few minutes later she came back and thought maybe she would eat after all. I had 2 still in the pan so fixed them for her and she ate most of them but was rude so Son sent her to the corner for about 30minutes. He was so pissed at her. Grandpa went out and hid the eggs for her that we had done on Fri. and she found them then got dressed in the new dress and shoes that I had bought her. When her Mom came to pick her up,her Dad told her about how she was acting as she had come home the evening before with a bad attitude. Her Mom chewed her out for about 20 min, and said she could go to her grandparents for her basket and that was it. She was only gone about an hour but she was suppose to spend the day. Today she came and picked her up this morning for the day and brought her home about 4 and what a attitude she had. She was rude to everyone and kept talking about DIL's boyfriend. Since she wasn't suppose to go in the sun her Mom took her swimming at the beach but had a shirt on her. She was on my computer after dinner and I told her it was 7:45 and she needed to get a bath and go to bed. she informed me that she wasn't going to bed, she was going to do what she wanted to and that she was spending every weekend with her Mom and boyfriend cause HE said she could. I said well it is time to go home and she refused and I picked her arms up and said oh yes you will and she bit me and I smacked her not hard but in the mouth and she screamed at me that her Mother said if I ever smacked her again that she was going to do something to me so I forcibly took her home to let her Dad deal with her. She hit, bit and screamed at me all the way over there. I called DIL on the phone and said lets get this straight now. You are not going to play one against the other.DIL said I only have 3 min. left on my cell phone but she talked to DGD for 1 min and denied saying that then her phone went dead and she didn't call back. Her DAd made her go to bed right then and I left. I don't know what to do about this as everytime she is with DIL she comes home and hates us all. All they do is go to the beach, pool, playtime then she comes home and we have to make her take a bath, do her homework, get up for school and then we catch all of the pent up anger she has, the snootiest, the screw you attitude. DIL never spends time alone with her it is always with another man and he is so much fun. I am ready to give up as I just can't take her attitude any more. Everything's fine when you do what she wants and on her terms. If she has a friend down to play then she demands that I let her stay for dinner and starts in about spending the night and does it right in front of the child and I have been saying no as this kids mother would let her stay all day and night. She has really learned how to manipulate in her 8 short years. What a Monster we have created. Any one got any advice on how to handle this situation. I know she wants to live with her Mom but it is not safe as before her Mom was on drugs and gave DGD an overdose of over the counter medicine to make her sleep, never looked out for her and has been gone since last Aug. when she went into detox and then has been kicked out of treatment twice. She was suppose to get out of treatment in June and she left there in March. I don't know that she is using again but she is hanging out with some really rough looking characters.
I guess I am getting too old to take care of an 8 year old, she is much smarter than I am.