dena_darling
04-21-2003, 03:27 PM
I have been divorced from "Ricky" since 1997. We were
seperated in 1993. He is an abusive alcoholic.
I live in SC and he moved to GA in
1993 to be with his family. Since then I've had to fight
to get child support (just started getting it regularly 2yrs ago).
Now it goes through the court. Ricky rarely calls, writes, or
visits his son Jason. I have given him sase, postcards etc so
he would write to his son. Jason has gotten one letter & one
post card in 6yrs. Ricky only visits maybe once a year (if that).
He only lives 5hrs away. There is always some reason why he can't
come visit. Two years ago, I carried Jason up there
to visit for a couple of days at my expense. Ricky is always too
busy(drinking) to come down or call his son. Anyway, he moves
from one family member to another staying with them until they
get tired of him. The whole family is lazy scum. His brothers and
Dad are alcoholics and do cocaine. He let it slip about his dad. Whenever Ricky does call, he talks to me and only asks about Jason or will only talk to Jason for 2 min.
Now the main point, he wants to come and get Jason to stay with him
for a week this summer. In the court papers it does say he gets
reasonable visitation. Ususally when he would come down he would stay
for 2 days at his cousins house and see Jason for 1 day. The rest of
the time he would be getting drunk and going out. Anyway, I don't want a big hassle from him (which I know I will get cause everything
is always "my fault"). And I can't afford a lawyer. What can I do to
keep him from taking Jason up to GA this summer? I have no problems
with him coming down here and staying in my camper or even at my parents house- we have suggested this. Its just that I don't trust
him with Jason's safety. He has had 3 dui's and does not have a drivers license right now. 2 of the dui's were with suspended license. I have told him that Jason had to go to summer school but
he wants to know when he gets out etc.
Sorry this is rambling so, but I just need some advice. And I know he
will cause me a big hassle. I don't think he could afford a lawyer
though. tia
seperated in 1993. He is an abusive alcoholic.
I live in SC and he moved to GA in
1993 to be with his family. Since then I've had to fight
to get child support (just started getting it regularly 2yrs ago).
Now it goes through the court. Ricky rarely calls, writes, or
visits his son Jason. I have given him sase, postcards etc so
he would write to his son. Jason has gotten one letter & one
post card in 6yrs. Ricky only visits maybe once a year (if that).
He only lives 5hrs away. There is always some reason why he can't
come visit. Two years ago, I carried Jason up there
to visit for a couple of days at my expense. Ricky is always too
busy(drinking) to come down or call his son. Anyway, he moves
from one family member to another staying with them until they
get tired of him. The whole family is lazy scum. His brothers and
Dad are alcoholics and do cocaine. He let it slip about his dad. Whenever Ricky does call, he talks to me and only asks about Jason or will only talk to Jason for 2 min.
Now the main point, he wants to come and get Jason to stay with him
for a week this summer. In the court papers it does say he gets
reasonable visitation. Ususally when he would come down he would stay
for 2 days at his cousins house and see Jason for 1 day. The rest of
the time he would be getting drunk and going out. Anyway, I don't want a big hassle from him (which I know I will get cause everything
is always "my fault"). And I can't afford a lawyer. What can I do to
keep him from taking Jason up to GA this summer? I have no problems
with him coming down here and staying in my camper or even at my parents house- we have suggested this. Its just that I don't trust
him with Jason's safety. He has had 3 dui's and does not have a drivers license right now. 2 of the dui's were with suspended license. I have told him that Jason had to go to summer school but
he wants to know when he gets out etc.
Sorry this is rambling so, but I just need some advice. And I know he
will cause me a big hassle. I don't think he could afford a lawyer
though. tia