would it bother you if your SO started posting here?

[denisemm]

nevermind

[Princess4J]

ITS ONLY NORMAL YOU WOULD FEEL HURT AND ANGRY.

JUST AS ITS NORMAL FOR HIM TO WANT HIS SPACE.

HERE AT BBS & OTHER PLACES I GO, THOSE ARE
MY PLACES TO VENT, WHINE, & BE SILLY.

HONESTLY, I LIKE HAVING SOMEWHERE THATS JUST FOR ME.


{{{denisemm}}}

[dontwannapay]

Hmm, I can kind of understand his point of view- I would probably feel kind of invaded if my hubby joined this forum. I kind of feel like its my hang-out, and I just don't think I need to share everything with him. He can find his own place, you know?Everyone needs to have something of their own (even if it is just a forum) but you get the picture.

[aneisu]

I side with him... Sometimes you just need to get away from the 'real' world for awhile & having someone that close to you in the 'real' world in your other world can get a little frustrating

[~MK~]

My mom has started coming here on occassion. Makes me feel uncomfortable. This is my place to complain and whine and get some relief from the pressures of my family. I feel there are just some things the family doesn't need to know.

*SORRY* :(

[mlayton1994]

I have to agree. I have to side with your husband. Everyone needs there own place to go.

[denisemm]

allright, so I'm outvoted. I'll just continue to accept the fact tht he spends more time talking there than he does talking to me. I guess I'm the one who should "cope".

[Iluvbears]

I'm with everyone else. He needs his space, just like you need yours. I wouldn't even go to the board anymore where he posts. I'd just let him have his own little place to *****, whine, cut up & so forth.

[~MK~]

{{{Denise}}}

[Steffie]

I am agreeing with your hubby AND I HATE THAT!! But he does need a place to hang out that is just his!!

I think it is cool though that he said he didn't mind you reading it --- I like to see/hear (or read) my husband goofing off with his friends!!

It must not be a naked lady picture posting forum if you want to hang out there too LOL :eek: :o :D :p

[Bohemut]

My DH has signed up here. He doesn't post but he does lurk occasionally. It doesn't bother me at all. It's kind of like sharing something wonderful with someone I love so much. My DD is also a member here, and that sometimes does limit what I post about, but I would rather have her here than not. I just love to share everything with my family!

[~MK~]

Oh, come on Bohemut! We like Juicy details. ;) Your dot won't have awful horrible images of her parents for YEARS to come, I promise!! ;)

Hey Denise, here's a thought..register under a name he doesn't recognize and post away? That way you can go there, he won't feel uncomfortable, etc.

[Lora_1994]

where is it that he posts?? maybe I can get hubby to do something besides watch television all the time!!!

[denisemm]

Originally posted by Steffie
It must not be a naked lady picture posting forum if you want to hang out there too LOL :eek: :o :D :p

Actually, it is. But I really don't care, and I know most of them. The other thing is that he used to not mind. I would be in pics with him sometimes & everyone would say hi & I'd chat with all of them on occasion. So I just decided, why don't I get my own account, and suddenly he doesn't want me there. He doesn't want me to be in pics with him anymore. (and no, we're not naked or anything) But he doesn't care if I go there & read. WTF is that?

That in mind, Lora, do you still want your hubby to go there?

[ahippiechic]

My DH is a member here, although he doesn't post very often. It doesn't bother me. i still think of BBS as "my" place. I'm a member at most of the boards he's on, but only post on a few every now & then. Sorry you guys are having a problem, denise. {{{HUGZ}}}

[Xica]

I think I get the gist of this thread. Hubby knows I post on various message boards and he's not interested in joining. He also has a forum that he visits - car stuff - that I lurked at a few times to see what it's about, but I quickly lost interest. It's funny b/c after a while I thought that he should have his own place just like I have mine. I haven't been there since.

[morris2b]

I don't care if hubby comes here or not, I write nothing here that I don't share with him.......He is not a member of any message boards, and if he were I would let him post til his heart was content........

[Lora_1994]

Originally posted by denisemm


That in mind, Lora, do you still want your hubby to go there? [/B]



Actually... I think I'll pass!!;) :D

[Kelsey1224]

This is my space and I use it to vent sometimes. We are (mostly) anonomous and that gives us freedom to sometimes say things we wouldn't say around our family.

I think the same would apply to your husband's forum.

That being said...I know that I'm not coming to this board to "cheat" on my hubby. (Sorry girls...you just aren't my type...LOL)

If your hubby has met someone on that board and is using the board as a way to keep in touch with them...than that's another thing.

Personally, I am not comfortable with the naked picture thing. I consider that a type of cheating, but I realize that not everyone feels that way.

[Princess4J]

Originally posted by Kelsey1224
That being said...I know that I'm not coming to this board to "cheat" on my hubby. (Sorry girls...you just aren't my type...LOL)


BUT KELSEY !!! I'M A PRINCESS !! ;)

[Kelsey1224]

That's funny because my hubby calls me "the Princess". Frankly, I would rather be Empress...lol

[suzziq03]

my hubby sighned up here too not to long ago but hasnet posted " just to see what it was like" i feel kind of violated too, like I cant have any privacy, I didnt get to read the origional post, but have a feeling I know what you are feeling like denisemm
{{{{{{{{{ hugz }}}}}}}}}

[squirt]

I agree, I think we should have a place to 'hide out' where we can feel safe, free and not be afraid of putting our two cents in. I have family on, but they don't know who I am. I want it that way.

[Iluvbears]

Her husband doesn't mind if she reads the board he's on. He just doesn't want her posting. I doubt if he has something going with a woman (or even a man) on the board he visits.

It wasn't clear as to why he doesn't want her posting, because he kept saying "nevermind"

[denisemm]

Originally posted by Iluvbears
Her husband doesn't mind if she reads the board he's on. He just doesn't want her posting. I doubt if he has something going with a woman (or even a man) on the board he visits.

It wasn't clear as to why he doesn't want her posting, because he kept saying "nevermind"

Exactly, that was the weird thing. We did talk, and he never gave me a reason, other than it just makes him uncomfortable. He said he knows it doesn't make sense, that he doesnt care if I go & read everything, and I'm friends with most of the same people from there that he is & talk to them on IM or email or whatever, so I figured, why don't I just actually jion the forums. So, he said he was being stupid, and to nevermind what he said. I was just really hurt by the way he said it.

And he does flirt a lot, so do I, its just the way we are. It doesn't necessarily mean anything.

THanks everyone for your thoughts. Sorry I got b1tchy, I was just in a really bad place at the time.

((((HUGS))))

[hotwheelstx]

Everyone needs a place to vent, whine, complain, neener or just know someone's there. Sorry, I side w/your husband.

Aggie belongs to several military message boards. We've been there and done that and I don't want to go back. He can post to his hearts content. I'm secure in knowing where he is, what he does, where he goes, how he does it.

As for here. Aggie could care a less. Aggie really isn't much of a talker so if I have something I need to get off my chest and Aggie's not in the "mood" I come here.

Now, if it were a secret thing that you didn't know about that's another thing. He's telling/letting you know what he's doing. That to me says a lot. At least he's being honest w/his feelings and what he wants to be private.

Besides, there are things we will say on here that we wouldn't dare say to a friend, coworker, family member. Here we can and no one is the wiser.

I hope it works out for you...............Don't be upset. Everyone needs space. :)

[MommyG3]

all I know is that I appreciate the fact that I can come here and tell about my problems. We don't have a home computer, so he doesn't have access unless he goes to his parents. Sometimes, I wish he would so that he could find a place to vent/whine and then I wouldn't have to listen to some of his mess.

[smeans]

Luckily my hubby is COMPLETELY puter illiterate.;) the most he does online or offline for that matter, is ebay and yahoo pool. and that don't happen very often;) he has no desire to get on here. ;) ;) ;) ;) :D :D :D :cool: