View Full Version : What Would You Say In This Situation?
CARROLIN
09-27-2002, 10:18 AM
DOES ANYONE REMEMBER THAT TROY WAS ONE OF MY
FOSTER CHILDREN? HE WAS 17 AT THE TIME, AND
WHEN HE TURNED 18, I HELPED HIM FIND A JOB
AND AN APARTMENT.
ANYWAY, HE CALLED DAY BEFORE YESTERDAY...PANIC
STRICKEN...THERE WAS A DRIVE-BY SHOOTING, A FEW
HOURS EARLIER.
OF COURSE MY HUSBAND AND I ALONG WITH THE POLICE
WENT FAST TO PICK HIM UP.
WHEN WE GOT HOME...THE NEIGHBOR SAID TO ME
"WHY, IS HE BACK...DON'T YA KNOW THAT YOU WON'T
GET PAID FOR IT NOW THAT HE IS 18???
(ALL THE MONEY PAID TO ME WAS GIVEN TO HIM FOR
CLOTHES, AND THINGS NECESSARY FOR AN APT.)
THIS YOUNG MAN NEVER GAVE ME ONE MOMENTS GRIEF.
I JUST LOOKED AT HER STERNLY, AND SAID...THIS IS WHO
I AM, WHAT I DO, BUT ONE THINGS FOR SURE...
I WANTED TO SLAP HER!!! COULDN'T THO' CUZ TROY HAS
WITNESSED A MURDER ALREADY, AND NEEDS TO KNOW THAT
ALL PEOPLE AREN'T VIOLENT.
HE IS STAYING WITH US NOW TILL OCT.21...HE IS GOING
TO JOB CORBS.
WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE?
mewoman
09-27-2002, 10:21 AM
I would have smacked her...
OOps, you mean about Troy? The exact same thing you did. Your neighbor is an idiot.
CARROLIN
09-27-2002, 10:28 AM
MAYBE I'LL SMACK HER TOMORROW, AFTER TROY GOES
TO SCHOOL!!! LOL
SMILES..
THANK YOU!
jaybird
09-27-2002, 10:29 AM
I would have politely pointed out that it's none of her business and you aren't in it for the money, smile sweetly and then POP her one! :D
LaDeeDa
09-27-2002, 10:34 AM
Originally posted by CARROLIN
WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE?
Ignore her. Any response just feeds her negativity.
Show yourself to be far far above her and walk away totally oblivious to her ways; they aren't worthy of any response. Not worth the oxygen it would take to speak.
Not only do you save yourself some stress, but eventually, if people like that don't get the response they're looking for, they'll stop saying the mean things. Ignore it, don't feed it.
OR- the only thing I can see saying is how you feel so lucky to have so much love in your life, or that you can't put a price on compassion.
Widgetsx3
09-27-2002, 10:37 AM
Yeah...what Jaybird said....Only I wouldn't have POLITELY pointed it out...oh yeah....and I would have popped her first.... and ummmm none of that smiling sweetly stuff either. Who the H E double hockey sticks does she think she is????
Foster children are still your kids. I would feel honored that he felt safe with you, and that you were the Mom he wanted to run home to. While he was only with you a short time, you have made an impression on him...GOOD FOR YOU!!!
MsLynn
09-27-2002, 10:38 AM
I would have picked him up and brought him home too, as for that neighbor....
I'd have told her, that Monetary/material gain isn't what motivates my love as it obviously does hers and walked away and left her standing there.
I HATE PEOPLE LIKE THAT, MY SIS IS ONE OF THEM!!!!
sadie01
09-27-2002, 12:27 PM
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! SCREW THE NOSEY NAIGHBOR!!
TELL HER NEXT TIME...NACHO. AND WHEN SHE SAYS HU?! SAY NACHO D@M& BUSINESS!!
OR, NONEYA.... NONEYA DA88 BUSINESS
MistyWolf
09-27-2002, 12:30 PM
I am with Jaybird on this one .. you did the right thing. People need to mind their own!
Willow
09-27-2002, 02:00 PM
Originally posted by LaDeeDa
Ignore her. Any response just feeds her negativity.
Show yourself to be far far above her and walk away totally oblivious to her ways; they aren't worthy of any response. Not worth the oxygen it would take to speak.
Not only do you save yourself some stress, but eventually, if people like that don't get the response they're looking for, they'll stop saying the mean things. Ignore it, don't feed it.
OR- the only thing I can see saying is how you feel so lucky to have so much love in your life, or that you can't put a price on compassion.
This is good advice. I have to do this with my mother a lot. :rolleyes:
TheLtsLady
09-27-2002, 03:23 PM
You did the right thing and Troy will never
forget your generosity and unconditional love.
Popping the neighbor sounds funny but let's face it,
YOU have to live with yourself after all is done.
Somehow I can't see that sitting well with you.
As hard as it might be, the next time "Nosey" comes
out just ignore them.
(Nosey neighbor says xyz and you just say, "Did you
hear something Troy? Nope, I didn't think so either."
LMBO It will drive them nuts and put a grin on your face
:D :) ;) :D {{{{CARROLIN}}}}:D ;) :) :D
ahippiechic
09-27-2002, 08:23 PM
Just sending you {{{HUGGLEZ}}} Carrolin! Hadn't seen you post in a while.
No, don't smack her, just punch her in that nose that she can't keep to herself.
Like the others said I would have taken him home with me too. It's great that he feels he can come to you. He might be over 18 but no matter how old you are there are times when you just need some one.
Glad to see you posting . I haven't saw you for a while.
{{{{{ CARROLIN }}}}}
tina z
09-27-2002, 10:30 PM
((((((((((((CARROLIN))))))))))))) i think that after I picked my jaw up off the ground and my ears stopped smoking I would ask her "why do you ask?". Or I would go into my home and find a chore to do that involved a lot of hard work, so I didn't smack her a good one.
(((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) and love yas!
CARROLIN
09-29-2002, 11:35 PM
JUST BUMPING SO THAT WHOMEVER MISSED THIS POST
KNOWS OF THE HISTORY...FOR THIS NEXT POST.
SOFT HUGGS ARE NEEDED.
moocher
09-30-2002, 03:30 AM
Well, first of all.......YOU and DH are just absolutly GREAT!!! It takes a special person to bring in children that haven't had such an easy life and actually show them love and show them that the money that the state is paying you is not what motivates you! Of course you did the right thing-isn't this what you would've done for one of your biological kids?? I bet it is! You are teaching Troy unconditional love-something he's probably never known before....and that gives his future children a chance of seeing it-and you of seeing them.
Now about punching that neighbor...........................I hate violence.......but boy, I'd let her have it!!!
smeans
09-30-2002, 06:35 AM
(((((((CARROLIN))))))))
you did the right thing. i agree with KissMsLynn on this one.;)
on another note.... ive missed ya. good to see ya again.:) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)
midniteblu2
09-30-2002, 10:38 AM
You did the right thing by TROY and who cares what your nosey neighbor thinks.
Tigerseye0420
09-30-2002, 12:15 PM
(((((((((carrolin)))))))))
I think you helping him is wonderful! I would have done the same thing! He needs to know that someone cares for him!
As for her i would have told her that if she thinks you did this for $$ then she doesnt know anything about caring, honestly, and love! I probably also would have slapped her (while Troy was not around of course!)
CARROLIN
10-01-2002, 12:23 AM
I TRIED TO MAKE A POST LAST NIGHT...BUT FOR SOME
REASON IT DIDN'T GO THRU'.
ANYWAYS, I GOT ARRESTED BECAUSE MY HUBBY AND I
WERE TAKING TROY TO COURT, HUBBY FORGOT TO LOCK
THE DOOR, AND WENT BACK TO DO IT...ANYHOW, MY NEIGHBOR
DIDN'T SEE RANDY...SO SHE STARTED TO MAKE ASSERTIONS
OF SEXUAL INUEINDOES... RANDY OVER HEARD, TROY, WAS
GOING TO GO AFTER HER, AND I PUSHED THEM ASIDE...
AND I HIT HER SOO HARD THAT IT CAUSED 4 STITCHES, ON SIDE
OF HER HEAD!!!
I FEEL REALLY BAD, BUT I DID GET FINGERPRINTED, MUGSHOTS,
AND I WAS ALSO STRIPPED, AND MADE TO WEAR THESE UGLY GREEN
CLOTHES...
AND ON THE LIGHTER SIDE...I MET SOME GREAT PEOPLE WHO WANTS
TO JOIN OUR CHURCH!!!! LMBO!!! THEY CAN COME.
I ACTUALLY LAUGHED AT THE ARRESTING OFFICER, WHEN SHE TOLD ME
TO TAKE OFF MY CLOTHES!!!
AND I SMILED PRETTY FOR THE CAMERA (BALD HEAD AND ALL!!!) LOL
DON'T WORRY...$235..AND I WAS OUT IN A FEW HOURS!!!
YOU GUYS PLEASE DON'T THINK BAD OF ME.
SMILES FROM ME.
Well even though I was just teasing it sounds like you took my advice.Did you shorten her nose some? j/k on a serious note you want to come and be my bodyguard?
Glad you got out pretty quick. I don't know why people like your neighbor have to go around causing trouble. I still say Troy is very lucky he has you guys.((((Carrolin))))))
Can I have a copy of your mug shot?
Princess4J
10-01-2002, 07:23 AM
{{{CARROLIN}}}
MYSELF...I WOULD HAVE PINCHED HER !!!
POOR CARROLIN !!!
ACTUALLY I WOULD HAVE SAID,
" THERE ARE PEOPLE LIKE ME WHO
TAKE CARE OF OTHERS, EVEN THOUGH
I WILL NOT GET PAID FOR IT"
"FOR EXAMPLE, WHY DOES YOUR
HUSBAND 'PUT UP' WITH YOU ???
WHO PAYS HIM ???"
Widgetsx3
10-01-2002, 08:00 AM
{{{{Carrolin}}}} Can't say that I blame you! I would have done the same to protect one of my cubs. So sorry you got arrested....but I can pretty much guarantee that you are NOT the only BBS'r who has been arrested. We love you more for protecting your foster son!
PS: Next time...lets not encourage Carrolin to pop anyone...she takes us VERY seriously...lol
ahippiechic
10-01-2002, 08:18 AM
Sorry you had to go to jail over this, but I think you did the right thing. Hopefully it all be over soon. Take care, & don't pop anyone else! (unless ya HAVE to, lol!)
BTW, I've been in arrested twice, once for assault & battery on my ex-MIL, & once for the same thing to my ex. The MIL thing, I spent the night in jail, & when it went to court, the charges were dismissed, because I didn't throw the 1st punch. With my ex, I did 10 days, because I used a weapon :eek: (baseball bat) And before everyone thinks I'm a thug, He beat me for 13 years, I finally had enough! It was worth the jail time I got, & I'd do it again, if need be!
CARROLIN
10-01-2002, 10:02 PM
TO ALL WHO REPLIED...
I HAVE HAD TWO YEARS OF TRAINING IN JUJITSU,
AND I USED MY LEFT HAND TO HIT HER, WHICH I
CAN'T FEEL, I ONLY MEANT TO SLAP HER, BEFORE
RANDY OR TROY DID. THE NAVY IS INVOLVED, AND WERE
SHOWN THE CIRCUMSTANCES...THEY WANTED TO KICK HER
OUT OF NAVY HOUSING, BUT BEGGED THEM NOT TO...
THEY WILL NOW BE RELOCATED, IN ANOTHER HOUSING PROJECT.
I DON'T SEE WHY SHE WAS DOING THIS... SHE DOESN'T KNOW
ANYTHING ABOUT ME I GUESS, I NEVER SEE HER,... BUT TO SAY THAT
I WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR...JUST ABOUT GOT MY HUBBY, AND TROY
LOCKED UP!!! I WILL GO INSTEAD, BESIDES...I HAVE FUN
WHEREVER I GO!!! LOL
Boy I bet you hate to loose such a nice neighbor.Try not to let what she said bother you to much.
{{{{{{{{{{{our little jail bird}}}}}}}}}}}
scifiwoman
10-01-2002, 10:13 PM
Glad it worked out for ya. :)
CARROLIN
10-01-2002, 10:17 PM
((((((JCW)))))))...I ALREADY AM YOUR BODYGAURD!!! LOL
THINK OF KEVIN!!! (((GIGGLES)))
((((((AHIPPIECHICK))))))), YOU ARE A SURVIVOR...NOT TO
BE JUDGED FROM ANYONE ON THIS EARTH. SMILES.
((((((PRINCESS4J)))))))...IS ONE OF THE SWEETEST PEOPLE I KNOW,
ON THIS BOARD, BUT IF I WOULD HAVE PINCHED HER, WITH MY LEFT
HAND...I COULDN'T LET GO!!! MY HAND CURLS INWARD!!! LOL
MAYBE THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN THE BEST THING TO DO!!! LMBO
((((((SLASHSTEELBUTTERFLY)))))))
YOU ARE VERY SPECIAL TOO!!!
((((((WIDGET))))))YOU ARE TOO FUNNY, SILLY...IT WAS A SPUR
OF THE MOMENT THING!!...GO AHEAD AND ENCOURAGE ME!!! LOL
IT WAS ONLY, A LIL' BREAK AWAY FROM THE WHOLE FAMILY!!! LMBO
SMILES.
tina z
10-01-2002, 10:24 PM
(((((((((((CARROLIN))))))))))) I am sorry that this happened to you. What she said was sick! :eek:
CARROLIN
10-01-2002, 10:52 PM
TINA...
IT WAS SICK WHAT SHE SAID, BUT SHE DIDN'T
REALISE WHAT HE(TROY) WAS GOING THRU...I FEEL REALLY BAD
THAT I HURT HER, I DIDN'T MEAN TO HIT HER THAT HARD.
I CALLED THE POLICE ON MYSELF, ALONG WITH AN AMBULANCE
FOR HER. IT WAS WRONG...BUT IT WAS EITHER I DID IT,
OR TWO FULL GROWN MEN DID IT. I REALLY BELIEVE THEY
WERE ONLY GOING TO TRY AND SCARE HER, BUT WHAT IF SHE UTTERED
ANOTHER WORD....THAT'S WHY I PUSHED THEM ASIDE AND I BACK HANDED
HER.
GOD FORGIVE ME.
tina z
10-01-2002, 11:31 PM
(((((((CARROLIN))))))) He already did, because you asked Him to.:) Now you need to forgive yourself. We all do things in the heat of the moment that we may regret later. Very few of us moms will let ANYONE hurt our babies! That's what you were being is a mom. love ya!
smeans
10-02-2002, 06:46 AM
hows my jailbird this morning??? i cant wait to tell kevin.....he'll have a field day with this one. lmbo i'll tell him to watch hisself before you pop him too. lmbo
im actually proud of you!!!!!!!! if i wouldve been there i wouldve popped her an extra one for you. ;)
(((((((((my jailbird)))))))
http://www.boxing-memorabilia.com/offers/TIM.jpg
*bounces out singing 'eye of the tiger' tee hee
Glad to hear you are my bodyguard. Like Tina said, you need to forgive yourself. We all do things we feel bad about later.I think the good lord understands and forgives us. He knows we're just human.
{{{{{{{Carrolin}}}}}}}}
us humans might not let you forget though j/k
mannerswife
10-02-2002, 07:38 AM
It sounds like you really care about Troy and that is great.You did the right thing and she needs to learn that not everything is about money and their is such a thing as love and caring for someone without being paid to do so. You go Girl!
Princess4J
10-02-2002, 07:39 AM
WATCH OUT !!!
FOR OUR CARROLIN ~~~~
SHE FLOATS LIKE A BUTTERFLY
& STINGS LIKE A BEE. :D
MAYBE WE WILL SEE YOU ON COPS :)
"BAD BOYS, BAD BOYS
WHAT YA GONNA DO ????"
{{{PINCHES}}}
CARROLIN
10-02-2002, 08:34 AM
YOU GUYS ARE SO GREAT!!! THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT.
YOU MAKE ME GIGGLE AND LAUGH, BUT NOW I GUESS I SHOULD
BE CALLED THE BIGBIG JAILBIRD!!! LMBO!!!
(((SMEANS))) WARN KEVIN NOT TO MAKE TOO MUCH FUN OF ME,
I KNOW HIS BIRTHDAY IS COMIN'SOON...HE MIGHT JUST SEE
ME AN JCW, PULL UP ON THAT LAWNMOWER, AND...TEEHEE!!! LOL
SMILES.
((((((PRINCESS4J))))))) LMBO!!!
WHAT ARE THEY GONNA ARREST ME FOR? BIBLE THUMPIN' UPSIDE
THIER HEADS?? ROTFLMBO
SMILES.
smeans
10-02-2002, 12:24 PM
uh oh!!! the peterbuilt?????!!!!!!!!??????:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :D :D
Princess4J
10-02-2002, 02:55 PM
CARROLIN SWEETIE,
I THINK YOU LOOK GOOD IN STRIPES !!
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