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ttistin · 11-01-2009, 09:01 PM

We had dd's birthday party this afternoon. I sent out invitations 2 weeks ago to dh's sisters, his parents and my brother.

Dh's parents did not call Tori on her birthday (it was friday) they did not come to Tori's birthday party.

They could go to dh's sisters boys birthday party tonight though. We decided not to go because it is a Sunday night and the kids need to get ready for school tomorrow. I sent his gift with dh's youngest sister, she was going over anyway.

Dh is upset and very hurt. He said he wants to cancel us doing Thanksgiving this year. He does not want to see or talk to his parents.

I was thinking about posting something on facebook about what a nice party Tori had, but she missed seeing her grandparents there.

We think they did not come over because dh did not call them about it. Dh thinks that if he calls them they will think he forgot about them owing money to us. So he is waiting for them to call him, which he knows they will when they need or want something from him.

We are both upset and hurt over it.

gmyers · 11-01-2009, 09:28 PM

People avoid you like the plague when they owe you money. But they still should have come for her birthday party if they could go to the other ones birthday. People are getting to be jerks lately. I'm sorry ya'll got your feelings hurt and I hope your daughter didn't.

ttistin · 11-01-2009, 09:37 PM

She did get her feelings hurts, she asked why they did not come over. She does not understand and I am unsure what to say to her. I kinda changed the subject.

Shann · 11-01-2009, 10:12 PM

That is really really sad, regardless of the situation. Honestly the next time they called and asked you something you should say NO. That way when another child has a bday or a holiday comes up they have no reason to not show up unless they are sulking, which is unacceptable. I don't understand how family can do this to one another especially when children are involved.

ElleGee · 11-01-2009, 10:38 PM

What a bunch of jerks.. I would have disowned them by now

mabby89 · 11-01-2009, 10:46 PM

Damn, that sucks. Im sorry they are like that.

WendyLou75 · 11-01-2009, 11:08 PM

This is really spiteful, but I'm pretty much a *****...lol but I'd have your dd call and have HER ask them why they couldn't come... and I'd have her say something about going to the other party as well.

gmyers · 11-01-2009, 11:18 PM

I think I'd be inviting just the people that I wanted to Thanksgiving. Theres no sense in your holiday being ruined.

ttistin · 11-01-2009, 11:51 PM

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Originally Posted by WendyLou75

This is really spiteful, but I'm pretty much a *****...lol but I'd have your dd call and have HER ask them why they couldn't come... and I'd have her say something about going to the other party as well.

I would have but the one sister's (she stayed for a long time talking to dh) she texted us to let us know something and then she said that her parents were there but asked us not to say anything, she does not want to be brought into it which I understand.

Plus I do not want to put the kids in that position, would rather try to keep them out of all of this as much as possible...not an easy thing to do though

Airbuswife · 11-01-2009, 11:52 PM

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Originally Posted by WendyLou75

I'd have your dd call and have HER ask them why they couldn't come... and I'd have her say something about going to the other party as well.

ABSOLUTELY!! this is a great idea!

YankeeMary · 11-01-2009, 11:54 PM

Act like you didn't even notice they weren't there. That will hurt them worse then anything else. I would still have the dinner and I would kill them with kindness. Then once the dinner was over I would wash my hands of all of them. Good luck.