nori

My husband has a co worker who is continously standing very close to him leaning over a counter to get real close to his face. I asked him to have her stop this but he says no just leave it alone shes just a co-worker. I dont feel that the closeness is appropriate any ideas on how to habdle this?

jasmine

this is your first post~~ hello!!

Do you work with your husband to know this? If so, I would lean very closely over one of his male co-workers LMAO!

If you do work with your DH, lean over HER very closely LOL.

nori

no dont work with him but pick him up. When she sees my truck she moves real fast but if i come in the back way they look shocked.

ahippiechic

Tell her to stay the hell out of your DH's face or you'll move her face for her.

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jasmine

well, I can be a pretty confrontational person, next time I walked in the back and if I catch them standing ever-so-close to one another, I would just simply ask the girl~~ hey, why are you standing next to my man so close?

If it is bothering you, then husband should listen to you, understandingly. If I were doing something, even if I didn't realize I was doing it, and my husband said something, I would listen to him and be sensitive toward his feeling...
Try talking to you DH some more??!!

jasmine

There ya go!!

nori

Ive been talking to him about it for over a week. Doesnt seem to listen.

gmyers

I'd tell him to ask her to stop and if he didn't I would. And then we'd have a talk about why he wouldn't put a stop to it. I'd tell him you wouldn't like it if I was flirting with any of the men you work with or any other men. He's putting himself in a bad position and it could lead to something else if he doesn't stop it now.

nori

Thats what i feel. But he doesnt listen to me. They work in a gas station and if i feel its inappriate i can just imagine what the customers are thinking and how many rumors will be started

jasmine

well, you tried the approach of talking about it with your DH, I guess now you should think about talking or saying something to the girl. I don't know if that will make your hubby mad, but oh well, he won't listen to you....
And if he does get mad, then he's a real jerk. Because if it bothers you, then it should bother him.

Anniston

If you trust him not to act inappropriately toward her, then just take it as her desperate attempt to get a male co-worker to pay attention, and leave it at that.

Don't get in his face about it, or act mad. Because it will be a slippery slope if she raises the bar and hits on him even more blatantly. I say that because you don't want to create a situation where he feels like he can not communicate with you about her antics, should they worsen.

I say this because I have experience. My DH and I have a mountain of trust issues for years. He was cheated on by his ex-wife, and I just had a lot of growing up to do. Anyway, for years it was awful. Now we are doing just fine. And a while back, I started to pick up on the fact that the secretary in the office was acting like she had a thing for him. But I did not get his face about it, I just mentioned that some of her actions did seem inappropriate to me and that I think she has a thing for him. I was not confrontational, but he told me I was crazy. Then a couple months after I had voiced that to him, he told me that he was beginning to think my theory was correct.

I know for a fact that if I had been in his face about taking her calls after 8 at night just because she was emotional due to office happenings, it would have closed the gates to him being able to confide in me once he realized that she did have a thing for him. Certainly, I did not think he should take her calls, but he was trying to be nice. And, yeah, I was irked by it, but I trust him.

There was more to it than just the phone calls, but that was the only part of his behavior that irked me.

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