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DAVESBABYDOLL · 10-21-2009, 07:59 AM

There's a reason she is giving you the stink eye whenever she see's you...jealousy. So you need to ask yourself WHY is that?

If I were you, I would pull the blinders off. There's NO reason he should be discussing anything personal with her, and NO reason to defend her. JMO

justme23 · 10-21-2009, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Quaker_Parrots

I firmly believe you should be his only female "friend" if you are married to him. For her to be acting that way, he has to be telling her all kinds of bad stuff about you. I would make her a very close friend of yours. Mark my words, this situation will not end well.

I completely disagree with this. It is quite possible that in the beginning Wendy was "reading" things incorrectly and now this girl is acting this way because she doesn't understand why Wendy hates her and is on the defensive. I certainly know I've been in this position before w/ ladies my husband works with. I am immediately jealous, I just always have been... and it shows on my face, I just can't hide it. And men are stupid when it comes to the "blah says..." crap. They don't understand the jealousy factor and it could just be that he is completely clueless.

Either way (cause you never really know for sure), I'd make a friend out of her. The killing with kindness is always the right way to go.

msmom79 · 10-22-2009, 01:57 AM

oh hell no.he is defending her-no no no,he should be defending you,and no he should not be discussing anything that is between you and him with her.
i dont care if you are friends or not,she has no reason to glare at you,unless she thinks something she does to you will push you away from hubby and she can have him all to herself
what you need to do is confront both of them together,watch their reactions and go from there.
to me it seems she wants to get her knuckles into your man,maybe she thinks if she's mean to you and glares at you,you will back off--more reason for you to show up at their cubby unexpected and just see whats going on yourself.
and one more thing you need to set hubby straight,on defending her,that just makes him look guilty as all hell!

Memedav · 10-22-2009, 12:33 PM

yeah I agree with most everyone else. There is a reason she is giving you attitude, so keep her on your radar. I would totally ignore here when your going to see dh and if she gives you attitude just tell her, "I'm here to speak with my husband, do you have a problem with that?" Just keep your eyes open, even the best of men will become flattered with a little attention from some skank ho and react in a way that they shouldn't. I've worked with alot of married men and I never gave any of the wives attitude....because I didn't want their husbands! One dh is too much for me at times, I sure don't want someone elses! lol Sounds like she may be jealous of you and just can't hide her feelings.

I'd put on my push up bra and visit the "pod" a little more often! In the meantime, let's hope she's as rude to someone else and gets herself fired. I'd put a call into her husband anonymously and without mentioning dh's name of course and tell him he needs to keep his wife on a tight leash. That may sound mean or harsh...but that's how I roll LOL

nightrider127 · 10-22-2009, 10:34 PM

Her, I would be so sweet to her that it would be sickening. The hubby is another matter. His life would be a living hell at home.

dangerousfem · 10-22-2009, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by buglebe

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Don't be confused!!!! Just because she is married doesn't mean she doesn't want him. Marriage doesn't mean the same thing to everyone, plus do you know she is happily married??

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Originally Posted by speedygirl

Keep your eyes open. He seems to be defending her when in fact he should be telling her to knock the sh!t off. She's disprespecting his wife and he has a part in that. If he told her that you don't like her, he's partially responsible for the way she acts toward you. The fact the he knows you don't like her and keeps saying, "Well Amanda said..." is disrespectful and he's pushing your buttons. Dude probably enjoys two women disliking each other because of him. Don't blame it all on her.
Take the high road and be pleasant like the others have said.

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Originally Posted by Quaker_Parrots

I firmly believe you should be his only female "friend" if you are married to him. For her to be acting that way, he has to be telling her all kinds of bad stuff about you. I would make her a very close friend of yours. Mark my words, this situation will not end well.

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Originally Posted by DAVESBABYDOLL

There's a reason she is giving you the stink eye whenever she see's you...jealousy. So you need to ask yourself WHY is that?

If I were you, I would pull the blinders off. There's NO reason he should be discussing anything personal with her, and NO reason to defend her. JMO

These ladies are dead on right.. Been there done that... and have several friends that have been there done that... get a grip on this situation now or it will not end well.

WendyLou75 · 10-23-2009, 12:02 AM

Thanks for the advise ladies...

I did find out that she has changed shifts at work...not sure why, but now she's getting there 2 hours earlier than him and leaving 2 hours earlier. She's been married since June, and from everything I can tell... NO ONE likes Amanda... and here is why:

She asked for "Manager's VTO" (voluntary time off) so she could "plan her wedding" and she got it for 2 months. That's UNHEARD OF! Everyone on their team was pissed at her for that alone. I gather from talking to John and others she's pretty much anti social at work, and treats everyone this way.

And don't worry it is hell at home for him, and I just told him that I was talking about this situation with ya'll and he's feeling pretty stupid about it.
I absolutely agree that she's jealous...but not sure of what. According to John, she pretty much gets whatever she wants from her hubby...so I think she's pretty much just an antisocial b****.

sunflowers · 10-23-2009, 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by WendyLou75

According to John, she pretty much gets whatever she wants from her hubby...so I think she's pretty much just an antisocial b****.

She maybe one of those who sets out and gets what they want and what she wants is your hubby...and then after she gets whats she wanst throws it away...
eyes and ears open! xtra trips to that floor if need be...Maybe find someone else in the office who can be an xtra pair of eyes and spy...lol

Quaker_Parrots · 10-23-2009, 02:13 PM

If she is so anti-social, why is YOUR DH saying she is his friend? I still wouldnt let it go. Seems someone is getting smoke blew up their butt to shut them up...

Mini · 10-23-2009, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Quaker_Parrots

If she is so anti-social, why is YOUR DH saying she is his friend? I still wouldnt let it go. Seems someone is getting smoke blew up their butt to shut them up...

Thats what I was wondering being anti social usually means you either dont have friends or have very few and those friends are usually just alike and from what youve talked about your DH is NOT anti social or any where near that so Im confused by that. I wouldnt let it completely go just yet Id always keep that in the back of my mind. Just dont be blind and if ive said it a million times I will say it again NEVER trust ANYONE 100% not saying your DH is doing anything but you can be with somebody for 50 years and they could screw you over in a matter of minutes

Anyways lol I agreee treat her like your best friend and him like hes in hell

WendyLou75 · 10-23-2009, 07:10 PM

Well actually, he IS very anti social... he's been at the Call Center for almost 5 years and he only regularly talks to and or hangs out with 3 people. I have been there since June and I have more friends in multiple departments than he has had in 5 years. I'm telling you I've met ALL of his friends... and that would be Justin, Austin and well... me.

He NEVER goes out... I've asked him if wants to hang out with anyone and he's just as happy to stay at home and play his applications on Facebook. LMAO!
If we go out, it's for dinner and a movie and well I'm pretty damn spoiled so I'm usually out in JC somewhere dining or at the Carmike.

I think he only talks to Amanda because he's the only one left who WILL talk to her. They've totally isolated her.

They had a wedding shower for me and John... the were going to have a team lunch until they realized Amanda would be there. So they cancelled that, brought in a cake on HER day off and gave us a card with $75.00, when Amanda got married... she got ****. The cake even said "Congrats John and Wendy" even it was supposed to be for her and her hubby as well as a late "gift".

I tell you, she's trying hard to talk with him because no one else will talk to her.
And the sad thing is she KNOWS she's the black sheep.