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3lilpigs · 10-17-2009, 07:40 PM

If I talked to my mom like that, I wouldn't be here today answering this.

I say she needs a good ol' fashion swack on the a$$. Just enough to let her know you mean business.

And before anyone jumps on my case, let me clarify, I do NOT mean to BEAT THE CHILD. There's a difference between abuse and a swack on the butt.

azwup05 · 10-17-2009, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by 3lilpigs

If I talked to my mom like that, I wouldn't be here today answering this.

I say she needs a good ol' fashion swack on the a$$. Just enough to let her know you mean business.

And before anyone jumps on my case, let me clarify, I do NOT mean to BEAT THE CHILD. There's a difference between abuse and a swack on the butt.

I agree. I got my smacks when I was little, and I remember everyone I got and what it was for. My mom always put alot of thought into her other punishments, and to me they were the worse of the two. Never got beat, and never anything to consider abusive. I always knew I would get the exact number she said I was gonna get too.

ElleGee · 10-17-2009, 08:55 PM

I rolled my eyes at my mother and I got a back hand.. No swearing just rolled my eyes at her. I stopped doing it until she left the room..

And I do it now b/c I am 36 and she's not going to smack me

***buttrfli*** · 10-17-2009, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ElleGee

And I do it now b/c I am 36 and she's not going to smack me

My mom would smack me no matter how old I am lol

Faithfully · 10-17-2009, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by msmom79

Lemons also work,when my sons used dirty words,i would make them suck a lemon slice for about 30 seconds,and then no drink after for a few min.-i also made my sons sit indian style in the middle of their beds for 30 min,this helped so much.
Good luck to you,sometimes its just a thing they go through,for attention,maybe you and her can have some one on one doing something together-like reading,a movie,drawing,taking a walk,getting a pop,she is acting out to get attention,lots of children do this,cause they feel lonely.
Good luck to you.

Thats what I used, and it worked well

wubbywa · 10-17-2009, 09:56 PM

If parents now could do what our parents did to us--swat on the butt, soap whatever then I dont think the kids now adays would be like they are. I cant believe how many peole think that that was abuse. We grew up and ended up being good, honest, caring people. All the psychology (sp) stuff drives me nuts. I never had a second thought on how I was disciplined only that I wouldnt do it again.

cathych · 10-17-2009, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by hotdoglove

Eww. That child's mouth. She thinks it is funny to call me a biotch.... GRRR... we have a rule that if you swear you have to do push ups or sit ups... Anyways she just says heck with you and goes to her room- watches tv... I took her tv away and made her sit and write me an apology. Later she told me she was sorry but then preceeds to tell her sister that she is a BLEEPER... Grrr. She is grounded for a week now- no outside, no tv, no computer.... Augh... What do you do when your child swears? Other than soap and hot sauce Mind you see is only 7.

My mother is 80 and I am 53 and I would still never dare to call her a b*tch. I have 2 sons in their 20s, both over 6 feet, and I they would not call me that and live to tell about it the next day. I think that you need to show her who is boss in the house, and she will stop. period. I had my legs switched plenty of times and I am here to tell about it. She has to have the fear of God put in to her, so to speak, so she will be afraid to do it anymore, or she knows what will happen. Apparently it is not bothering her to get her tv taken away. If your punishment is not working, you need to step it up a level.

fleabones3 · 10-17-2009, 11:17 PM

There is nothing wrong or illegal about taking your hand to a child's butt. You aint going to break it, it already has a crack.
Seriously, if she is 7 years old and already calling you names and saying " whatever" she has no respect for you. Raising kids is part respect, part fear. Not fear so much as oh my mom is going to burn me with cigarrettes, but fear as in oh no, my butt is fixing to get warmed up.
If you are totally against giving a spanking, then I would suggest getting a jalepeno and have her chew on that for awhile

hotdoglove · 10-19-2009, 01:51 PM

Yippee- no swearing since I posted this! I have decided to just give her the extra boost of attention she needed. (She reads me a story at night- just the two of us.) I do think it may have been coming from another issue with her sister getting more attention due to transfering to a new school. But thank you all for the great ideas. Hopefully, I won't have to use any.

DreamWarrior · 10-19-2009, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by wubbywa

If parents now could do what our parents did to us--swat on the butt, soap whatever then I dont think the kids now adays would be like they are. I cant believe how many peole think that that was abuse. We grew up and ended up being good, honest, caring people. All the psychology (sp) stuff drives me nuts. I never had a second thought on how I was disciplined only that I wouldnt do it again.

THANK YOU!!! Granted I do not condone abuse of a child in ANY manner, but geesh... if I were to talk to my mother the way some children talk to their parents today... omg i would STILL have bruises! I was raised to respect my elders.. whether they were 2 years or 20 years older than me...

I have TRIED to teach my children to respect those who are older and wiser, not 100% certain it worked but I tried...

iluvmybaby · 10-19-2009, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by ElleGee

I wish a 'backhand' was legal because if it were my kid that's what I'd be doing.

Sorry you're going thru this.

I can not imagine calling my mom a biotch, that is what I would have gotten, a backhand to the face