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gordo24 · 10-14-2009, 02:37 PM

o.k. this is a long story that i will try to make short. i have a nieghbor from hell!! i lived here 15 yrs. we got along fine, his girlfriend graduated with my son, and she is a sweetie, but he is the problem! this has been on going for the last two yrs. this overgrown teen, he's about 40, she's 31, got it in his head after all these yrs. to hate my husband, now, he is 60.
he has verbably threated his life with my grandchild in his arms. he has keyed our blazer, knocked the goldwing over about 4 times, broke the driver's side mirrow off my car a number of times, it's broke now. it's goes on. but the worst is his on going playing of his music. electric guitar, drums & keyboard. he knows hubby is a truck driver & will still play at nite. we had talked about the time to play, not after 8pm, for awhile this worked. but for some reason he got in a uproar, and started again, playing at 10pm, 6 am, etc. not only are our houses so close, and I MEAN close, but the sh*t head can't play a note! after trying to talk to him, trying to be civil, nothing works. he just gets more aggetated. he went so far as to put threating notes on his dining room window. will that was it for me! i called the cops, they know the whole situation, but nothing never gets done. well i wouldn't drop the charges, had to go to D.J. he got a $200 fine. big deal, it just made him worse, back to threating my husband, this is getting to get bad, cops are being called back & forth . my husband has a permit to carry a gun, now he does, cuz he stalks him with he comes home from work. the cops know about the gun, but this is stressing my husband out really bad, DAMM, he has a son this man's age! now he has a sign up...warning, you are being vidio taped! this is legal i guess. but what to do ? part of me wants to act like him, part of me want's me to get my nephew to beat the livin crap out of him, but i know this is all imature & stooping to his level. my husband has had it, called the cops last nite cuz he was playing that NOISE, not music, at 10pm. it just seems the cops won't do anything about it. and the worse thing is this guy is, well psyco, and on all kind of drugs....street pills, not dr.
i just need some advise or ideas to try & make this situation better. the girlfriend is like me, we want to work it out, but this man is just beyond reasoning. HELP....please, don't know how much more we can take.
also, i have my grand kids every weekend, they don't need this. i have to add, this man DOES NOT work, she does, but he don't.
hope this made some sence and you got the drift of our neighbor from hell.

Airbuswife · 10-14-2009, 02:50 PM

first question is - does he own the house or rent it? if he's renting, get ahold of his landlord. good luck!
people like that are a waste of air.

gordo24 · 10-14-2009, 02:55 PM

that's another problem. his dad owns the house, i'm not sure if he gave it to him or not. they do not get along, hubby knows the dad, but talking to him won't help.

Anig2u · 10-14-2009, 03:00 PM

I would move, seriously, I don't see any way of getting the guy to act civil. If as you say he is doing drugs, no way will you get through to him. You could put a sign up saying he is being video taped. Other than that I don't know.

gordo24 · 10-14-2009, 03:03 PM

i would LOVE to move, but we finally own our house, and tring to sell now, well you know.

iluvmybaby · 10-14-2009, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by gordo24

i would LOVE to move, but we finally own our house, and tring to sell now, well you know.

You need to invest around $200 for a four camera security system and capture this on video and press charges and get a restraining order

PS you need to get a carry permit and get a gun and start carrying it. Also, document EVERYTHING

sunniekiss · 10-14-2009, 04:02 PM

One word..MOVE! Seriously, what is more important your health, life & sanity or relocating & maybe losing some money on the sale of your house.

Filing civil suits will only enrage him more & you do have to still live there. Damaging his property or threatening or doing physical harm to him will only land you in jail then you will be paying everything you have to an attorney.

The camera install is a smart idea but remember since the damage done is probably not extremely excessive again it will probably be considered a civil action as is music/noise after 10PM. I understand it is frustrating b/c it is keeping your hubby awake but the entire would can't shut down b/c your hubby has to be in bed by 8. Has your hubby tried earplugs? My EX was a champion snorer & I used the wax ones & I never heard him at all.

Good luck.

Anniston · 10-14-2009, 05:20 PM

Wow, this is just awful. I have had bad neighbors, but nothing to rival that. It is a terrible situation to be in. Of course, moving is the ultimate fix, but I understand that is so much easier said than done.

As far as the damages to your property...maybe you could find a way to install one of those deer hunting cameras that hunters use? If you have a friend that hunts, you may be able to borrow one. Then, at least you will have proof to the damage to your property.

Further, I would say that you need to document all the verbal threats, and maybe after time, you will have enough to warrant a restraining order...not sure how it will work with him living in such close proximity, but it will be something to have on an official document should this loser ever get physical with you.

Keep your head about it all, even when you want to scream at him. I can't believe the police are not being more proactive on the noise violations he is obviously committing.

Best of luck to you in this horrible situation.

cabby92 · 10-14-2009, 05:23 PM

We had to put up motion sensor lights to deter one of my DD's boyfriends. Any time a cat ran by our house lit up like the fourth of July but he finally quit slashing tires and breaking windows. We put up LOTS of lights.

DreamWarrior · 10-14-2009, 07:59 PM

My fil had problems with teens messing with his stuff all the time.. (he does lots of trade shows and things like that) well he invested in a paintball gun. one shot with that and no one was messing with his stuff anymore... the kids' parents came over to b**ch at him, he explained what their kids were doing and the parents said "well, you got what you deserved then didnt ya?" (to their teen).....not sure if this would help or harm the situation, but its an idea...

mosdata1 · 10-14-2009, 09:46 PM

Are there any neighbors who are also bothered by all this noise? If so, can you convince them to file complaints & make calls too?
Oh and threatening your DH is not civil, it is criminal!
The cops need to do their jobs!