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wubbywa · 10-13-2009, 07:49 PM

This is not and I repeat not about anyone here!!!
I am so tired of people that sit and take hand outs all the time but will not do anything to help their own kids out. I work at a school, I find it funny how parents can find "time" to fill out free lunch forms but cant find time to fill out emergency cards or any other things that are needed for school. I am sick and tired of these parents that want to get money for their childrens learning disabilities but will not help them at home with any school work because they dont have time. They find time to go to mental health to get evaluated= more money, they have time to go get their welfare etc but NEVER can find time to come to school for an IEP or any type of meeting for their child and the meetings are set for when the parent says they can come. For 4 years now I have never ever seen one girls mom come to school for a meeting--she is to busy--she doesnt work outside the home!!! I know sahm can be busy but if your child needs all this extra help why isnt the parent responsible enought to come to school and see what they can do also to help their child. I have worked in the school system for over 20 years and I see this all the time and it gets worse as time goes by. Then these are the parents to be the first to complain about anything. I have given kids clothes, food and I have never had a parent call and just say thanks, but they will complain if they dont get a food basket.GRRRRRR the system just doesnt work well

Licchl05 · 10-13-2009, 08:01 PM

It's a shame when people do that. When I was working I always made sure to either switch shifts or eat a vacation day when I knew the kids had conferences or a play. My kids come first.

jasmine · 10-13-2009, 08:11 PM

I'm sorry you are having to go through that as a teacher, I'm sure your life is sooo busy, much busier than a SAHM that's for sure!!
I just went in a couple weeks ago for my daughters IEP results, and tomorrow I have 2 school conferences.
The teachers are kinda hinting at me to get my daughter back on her ADHD medicine.... anyways.
That is so wonderful that you would go out of your way with food and clothing and stuff. I think I would be the same way though, I hate to see little ones go without, I save up all our clothes (good decent ones) and then bring them in to our local clothe closet for those in need.

wubbywa · 10-13-2009, 08:19 PM

Actually I am just an aide and these kids arent little they are high school age. This mom also has a son in resource classes which is fine he has been for many years he should be a junior I am guessing but not even close with credits anyway the counclers (sp)have called mom many times then she acts surprised because she didnt realize he was in resorce room classes---what the heck kind of mom is that?? She knows how to get pregnant because there is another little one about 2 years old and I am sure that child doesnt have much of a chance either.

pepperpot · 10-13-2009, 08:23 PM

Remember, they will have say over us when we 'retire'.....

wubbywa · 10-13-2009, 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by jasmine

I'm sorry you are having to go through that as a teacher, I'm sure your life is sooo busy, much busier than a SAHM that's for sure!!
I just went in a couple weeks ago for my daughters IEP results, and tomorrow I have 2 school conferences.
The teachers are kinda hinting at me to get my daughter back on her ADHD medicine.... anyways.
That is so wonderful that you would go out of your way with food and clothing and stuff. I think I would be the same way though, I hate to see little ones go without, I save up all our clothes (good decent ones) and then bring them in to our local clothe closet for those in need.

I can understand a parent not wanting to put their child on meds, I never had to deal with that with my child so I dont know what I would do. We can always tell when a child is off their meds they are all over the place, they can not follow what we have to teach them and the things the state says we have to teach Algebra, geo.,Phy.Science come on this stuff is hard for the average child. It is frustrating to watch these kids struggle trying to understand this stuff. I would love to meet some of these people that decide sitting at these big meetings what these kids have to learn. My gosh some of them are non readers or 1st,2nd grade level readers.

jasmine · 10-13-2009, 08:27 PM

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Originally Posted by pepperpot

Remember, they will have say over us when we 'retire'.....

exactly, so we better do our best now raising them from babies..... so they won't be asses to us when were old LOL

wubbywa · 10-13-2009, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Licchl05

It's a shame when people do that. When I was working I always made sure to either switch shifts or eat a vacation day when I knew the kids had conferences or a play. My kids come first.

If all parents had their kids come first there wouldnt be so many troubled ones that is for sure. If a parent could sit down with their child at least 15 mins a day/evening and help them with their reading when they are young it would make so much difference. I know that some parents are not very well educated so why not make it manditory for some of these people to get help with basic reading skills, math skills so they can at least help their child in the beginning then they dont get so far behind as time goes by. So sad just so sad.

jasmine · 10-13-2009, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by wubbywa

If all parents had their kids come first there wouldnt be so many troubled ones that is for sure. If a parent could sit down with their child at least 15 mins a day/evening and help them with their reading when they are young it would make so much difference. I know that some parents are not very well educated so why not make it manditory for some of these people to get help with basic reading skills, math skills so they can at least help their child in the beginning then they dont get so far behind as time goes by. So sad just so sad.

HA HA

My oldest DD is a sophomore, and when she comes home with her math (or even biology, history), I give her this blank stair LOL, it's all greek to me.

fleabones3 · 10-13-2009, 10:30 PM

I have a son on a IEP.. I made all of his appointments. What pisses me off is I go to the meetings, etc etc, but THEY dont fulfill their end. He NEVER got his special pencil grips, was NEVER taken out of class for help in reading or anything else, like they said. All they did was change his spelling words from 20 to 10 .. yeah that helped

Licchl05 · 10-13-2009, 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by fleabones3

I have a son on a IEP.. I made all of his appointments. What pisses me off is I go to the meetings, etc etc, but THEY dont fulfill their end. He NEVER got his special pencil grips, was NEVER taken out of class for help in reading or anything else, like they said. All they did was change his spelling words from 20 to 10 .. yeah that helped

Take it to the school board. If you don't mind me asking, why does your son have an IEP? The reason I'm asking is because my neighbor is an advocate here in Pittsburgh Public and her kids have IEP's for aspergers and adhd.