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10-02-2009, 06:10 PM
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I would tell her that you love her and value her friendship but that you are tired of hearing the complaints all the time and the negativity about a man she still chooses to be with. Let her know that you will be there to help her and give her support if she decides to make a change. Until time, you would rather not hear about it. Then move the conversation to something else.
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10-02-2009, 07:21 PM
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Originally Posted by krisharry
I would tell her that you love her and value her friendship but that you are tired of hearing the complaints all the time and the negativity about a man she still chooses to be with. Let her know that you will be there to help her and give her support if she decides to make a change. Until time, you would rather not hear about it. Then move the conversation to something else.
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I couldn't have said it better myself.
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10-03-2009, 12:29 AM
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Doesn't sound like she wants fixes, just a friend who will listen. She is dragging you in and out of her relationship. It is in your corner to decide if you want be in this position for what might be years, because she may never leave him or if you want your friendship to end. Decide what you can put up with, tell her, and stick by it.
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10-03-2009, 12:30 AM
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Exactly. Its not really being mean, but, like with my friend, she has got me to where I hate her husband, and yes some of their problem is his fault, but some is hers. I have my own problems too, but it got to the point where I dread answering her calls or texts because it was always some rant and rave about her DH, then a few days later he was just great blah blah. I just noticed its been 2 wks since I have talked to her..funny thing is I havent missed it.
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10-03-2009, 01:21 AM
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thank you all for the advice, it's just so hard because we've been best friends since we were 12 and i don't want this to end our friendship but there's only so much someone can take.
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10-03-2009, 08:28 AM
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The very minute that he called her that name, she should have put him to the curb. She should give him to his other woman. They deserve each other.
There is no way that my husband would get away with calling me a name like that and treating me in such a manner. It would mean 40+ years of marriage right down the drain.
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