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Licchl05 · 10-01-2009, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by jasmine

well DreamWarrior, I hope you get an AWESOME order for more money on your child support, $90 just doesn't cut it these days.

In my situation for child support from ex husband, I live in OK. And I just got tired of him not paying me every month and getting behind, so I took my court order to DHS, gave them his info. where he worked, lived etc... and they did the hunting down for me, I didn't have to do anything. They got a hold of his employer and it is now automatically deducted from his paycheck every month, first thing. If he ever does looses his job or whatever, DHS hunts him down, not me, he's in the system now, he can't get away LOL. It was so great one year, he was behind on child support, and his tax returns (with his new wife), got confiscated and redirected to ME LMAO, loved it!!
Also with me going through DHS for child support, all my payments get sent to a debit/mastercard. Or I can have the choice of direct deposit to my checking.

Jasmine, I'm glad the system worked out for you! The system isn't so kind to everyone

Just curious; in your order, as well as anyone else who has one, did they give the father the right to claim the child on his taxes provided he doesn't owe arrears? AZ gave Chloe's dad that right, which is odd to me as he's never even seen this child.

PreciousDarlin · 10-01-2009, 02:49 PM

At the moment, I'm "receiving" $28/mo child support on my two children. My ex was told he was responsible for keeping insurance on the kids, but he said he couldn't afford it, so I've had to keep them on Medicaid. I recently had to go reapply and, because we have joint custody, they needed his income verification. He refused to give it to me! And, even though I've gone through the Child Support Unit and child support is supposed to be deducted from his check (he's drawing workman's comp at the present time) and deposited into my account, I have seen no more than $2.36 at a time so far. Before, he was also paying $22/mo (on top of the $278/mo in support) towards his past support. That, I also have not seen a dime of. AND, he gets to claim one child every year on his taxes, and next tax season, he gets to claim both. Can anyone explain to me how so many women get screwed so badly when it comes to ex's and child support?

Licchl05 · 10-01-2009, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by PreciousDarlin

At the moment, I'm "receiving" $28/mo child support on my two children. My ex was told he was responsible for keeping insurance on the kids, but he said he couldn't afford it, so I've had to keep them on Medicaid. I recently had to go reapply and, because we have joint custody, they needed his income verification. He refused to give it to me! And, even though I've gone through the Child Support Unit and child support is supposed to be deducted from his check (he's drawing workman's comp at the present time) and deposited into my account, I have seen no more than $2.36 at a time so far. Before, he was also paying $22/mo (on top of the $278/mo in support) towards his past support. That, I also have not seen a dime of. AND, he gets to claim one child every year on his taxes, and next tax season, he gets to claim both. Can anyone explain to me how so many women get screwed so badly when it comes to ex's and child support?

Sorry that you're going through this also! When he claims them on his taxes, does the govt send $ from it to you? I think they should be.

PreciousDarlin · 10-01-2009, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Licchl05

Sorry that you're going through this also! When he claims them on his taxes, does the govt send $ from it to you? I think they should be.

This year, when we filed our taxes, I didn't see a penny of it. But, it was more than likely because we were still legally married at the end of last year. Next year, come tax time, it might be a different story and I might get what is still owed in back support. I'm not going to hold my breath though. If I held my breath over things with him and what SHOULD be done, I would have been dead last year when CPS didn't take my child seriously in terms of him.

DreamWarrior · 10-01-2009, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by tsquared

Ummmmmm a right, left, right jab would be much more fun and relaxing ya know...................

yeah i know, but he is NOT worth sitting in jail over

krisharry · 10-01-2009, 05:45 PM

Wow, this pisses me off. Parents need to start stepping up and being accountable for the children they helped create. Society needs to do a better job of enforcing this, it is quite ridiculous.Why they continually allow deadbeat dads(and moms too) to get away w/it is beyond me. Esp. if the other parent is forced to turn to state aid to get the help they need when the other parent is in noncompliance. Good luck everyone w/getting these issues resolved.

fleabones3 · 10-01-2009, 05:46 PM

My ex owes over $30K in child support. His payments are only $237 a month. When he did pay for like a year or so they added another $100 for past due. Well out of 15 yrs he only paid 1 yr . He is remarried with 2 more kids and a stepson. SHE works but he doesnt so I cant get any of the tax return. He lives in California and says the construction jobs are down 80% and he cant even get a job flipping burgers. Yet my mom works 3 jobs, my dad works, my brother works. Here in OK my DH and DS work as do a lot of people.

Licchl05 · 10-01-2009, 06:00 PM

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Originally Posted by fleabones3

My ex owes over $30K in child support. His payments are only $237 a month. When he did pay for like a year or so they added another $100 for past due. Well out of 15 yrs he only paid 1 yr . He is remarried with 2 more kids and a stepson. SHE works but he doesnt so I cant get any of the tax return. He lives in California and says the construction jobs are down 80% and he cant even get a job flipping burgers. Yet my mom works 3 jobs, my dad works, my brother works. Here in OK my DH and DS work as do a lot of people.

My sisters husband's ex and kids live in OK(sis and hubby live in PA)...she just took him to court and he almost got thrown in jail for $1500, he's extremely sick and unable to work(my sis has 3 kids of her own getting no support from their dad and makes sure to file married jointly so the support is taken out of the taxes), currently fighting with SSD. I believe she did this with the help of the state of OK, maybe they could do something for you?

ElleGee · 10-01-2009, 06:25 PM

I just found out an hour ago my ex still owes me 125.00 bucks for our 18 year old. Apparently he had forgotten he had a lapse in between jobs. 125 bucks is 125 bucks

My other ex hasn't paid his child support since Feb 08.. I am not too worried about it because
A. he has to eventually pay all it and
B. he has been buying my son clothes and other necessities for my son..

I don't know why he just doesn't pay into what he owes so it's like extra support.. I am not sure if he realizes it but I don't care, it's not my job to remind him of his mounting debt when he is supporting his son other ways. He cannot find a job around here and I am not going to pester him into it if he is still helping out kwim?

Both of my ex's had a court order to have it garnished from their wages. I made sure of that.

jasmine · 10-01-2009, 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Licchl05

Jasmine, I'm glad the system worked out for you! The system isn't so kind to everyone

Just curious; in your order, as well as anyone else who has one, did they give the father the right to claim the child on his taxes provided he doesn't owe arrears? AZ gave Chloe's dad that right, which is odd to me as he's never even seen this child.

no, he has no right to taxes, or even health decisions or ANYTHING, I have custody, he is the non-custodial parent~ of course we would be civil discussing important issues that concerned our children.
But when you have custody, he has no rights, and it is illegal for him to file the kids on his taxes.
If you have joint custody, maybe there is a plan drawn out, sharing the kids on taxes, every other year????

jasmine · 10-01-2009, 10:32 PM

also before I started having the payments garnished from his work check, I bought a receipt book, every time he would give me money, he would get a receipt for it, even if it was just a mesely 5 bucks. And then when I went in to DHS to get child support tooken care of, I took that receipt book recording every penny that he had given to me up to that point, and then they figured out what he owed me in back support.
I had a woman shark for a lawyer though..... it was even written up in the decree that the kids could not even be at his home or place of residence if a member of the "opposite" sex was there~~ because at the time he was a repeated cheater that took my children to befriend his girlfriends while I was going to school at night at the time~~ which messed them up cause at the time they were so young.
anyway, the rest of you guys, you need to call DHS and tell them your story, and keep calling and keep calling and following up on it untill something is done!!