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ttistin · 09-23-2009, 08:27 AM

he does not seem to care. Does not listen to anything i say. I tell him something and then someone else will tell him the same thing and he acts like he never heard it before.

I ask for help, he says ok. Then sits in front of the computer.

I ask for help cleaning the house, he sits in front of the computer or goes outside in the garage.

His kids have had two soccer practices. first sport any of them have played. He wont come and watch, sat home on computer.

gets mad at me because we don't have the money for bills. but takes off and only works half days most weeks. He makes the majority of the money, if he does not work we do not have the money.

he does not realize i can look in history and see what he looks at online.

He is a good father to his kids.

He has not cheated on me, that I am sure of. I just wish I was more important to him.

I am not looking for any kind of a response. just thought it might help to write it down.

BeanieLuvR · 09-23-2009, 08:49 AM

Freebeemom · 09-23-2009, 08:59 AM

I think the problem is more common than you think. I am so sorry you are feeling this way.

Licchl05 · 09-23-2009, 09:01 AM

is your DH taking notes from my bf or vice versa? i know EXACTLY how you feel!! we actually just had a huge falling out, didn't speak for 2 days and we live in the same house! i love him to death but i swear sometimes i wanna smack him so hard upside his head LOL! wish i could tell you something to help your situation, but i haven't found it yet so keep your head up!

pepperpot · 09-23-2009, 09:46 AM

iluvmybaby · 09-23-2009, 12:20 PM

Get a job and then kick his @$$ to the curb, life is short dont waste it on someone who doesnt love or appreciate you. Take him to court and bleed him dry for child support.

Licchl05 · 09-23-2009, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by iluvmybaby

Get a job and then kick his @$$ to the curb, life is short dont waste it on someone who doesnt love or appreciate you. Take him to court and bleed him dry for child support.

I understand what you're saying but i wouldn't condone this completely just yet.

Yesterday, while still extremely pissed of at my bf, I was folding laundry. I'd get to a piece of his and just throw it at him, unfolded. Told him to have his computer fold it since it was oh so important and does so much for him, with lunch I only made enough for Chloe and I, same with the meals on Sunday( Monday he was @ work). I didn't straighten up anything in "his" areas of the house, hell I even went there and called him his ex wife's name because he said she was a selfish b!tch who did only what she wanted...LOL!

He stewed on it all for about 30 minutes, taking note that I was not giving in as he had really pissed me off as it was it had been since Saturday night that I had spoken to him, and realized that he was indeed in the wrong.

I could sit here and tell him about himself until the cows come home, but not talking and not doing crap for him got him to realize that 'hey, she really does alot for me and i'm taking it for granted'.

Maybe try that approach? Not quite sure how long the results will last as hell it's been less than 24 hours, but it's worth a shot.

ElleGee · 09-23-2009, 01:11 PM

Didn't you move from somewhere to NY for him?? If that was you then he is an ungrateful bastage.. I'd start by bringing that up.. You did something for him unselfishly and he's being a selfish jerk..

I wouldn't put up with that.. I'd start by telling him if he wants his stuff done (laundry, dinner etc) then he needs to help out. If not then tough shiz. And I would bring up his taking time out of work.. I mean who does that and complains later? That's not logical

I am so sorry you have to deal with this bs

sunniekiss · 09-23-2009, 01:18 PM

Are you still in love with him or do you just love him? Are you still with him for the children? If so, what happens when the kids grow-up & move out?

I stood with my Ex hoping things would change but they never did. I was a SAHM too however looking back now I wish I had found a job & was self-sufficent alot sooner.

Explorer 4x4'r · 09-23-2009, 01:47 PM

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he does not realize i can look in history and see what he looks at online

what does he look at online? P0rn?
If so, that IS cheating!

I feel the same way you do.....no help what so ever

krisharry · 09-23-2009, 01:56 PM

I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way. It is def. time for a sit down heart to heart w/him when the kids are in bed or at school. Maybe he is depressed or something? Maybe something at work going on that you aren't aware of?
Not saying that this excuses his behavior but at least find out. Hopefully you two can work things out.