Bahet

If I even suspected that either of my kids were in that sort of situation I'd be calling CPS and I'd be filing or sole custody. According to your story you are afraid because your son might clam up. CPS people are trained to know the signs. They can read a child's face when the child says "Everything is fine." and know if they are telling the truth. They can tell if the child is afraid to say something. DO you honestly think your son is the only abused child who didn't jump up and down showing CPS exactly what the abuser did to them? MOST abused kids clam up and try to protect their abuser. It's CPS's job to find out the truth. They can't do that if you don't let them.

You also say that your son told you this stuff, the ex's brother and parents and friends told you. So what more are you waiting for? Does the poor kid have to get his arm broken? You might not be a physically abusive parent but you are just as bad because your son cannot trust you to fight for him. You are like the old school parents who just didn't talk about what Uncle Mike did to the kids while still inviting him over for Christmas. You are allowing your son to be abused. That poor kid doesn't stand a chance. He's got a dad who abuses him and a mom who sits by and allows it because the word of her son and her ex's family apparently isn't enough to go on. This isn't a murder case (yet) your case can be proven if the story is likely true. It doesn't have to be beyond the shadow of a doubt. Go take care of your son before it's too late.

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justme23

If it's really about money ... why aren't you trying to team up w/ the ex's family and do this together w/ them? I mean, come on... it's a defenseless child... it's not rocket science... you do what you have to do, even if it means going in to debt up to your freaking eyeballs for them.

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Licchl05

the ex's father and step mom have said they'll give me $500, his mother said she'd give $500 however like 2 weeks later she changed her mind. his sister is unable to help, neither is his lil bro. so that's $500 that i have to put to it. leaving me with $1500 to come up with for just the retainer, which if i were working would be able to get saved within 3 months if that. i have tried to see about taking out a loan. my credit is so screwed from the ex(he was anti paying bills which is part of the reason he's my ex) and my car is a 2000 so no one will take it as collateral.

I did contact legal aid today they're going to have someone give me a call to do intake.

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DreamWarrior

I think this is a BIT harsh...

While I dont agree with the decisions she has made, I DO understand them. My ex is a MAJOR a-hole who thinks he controls the world with his "manliness"...sometimes its easier just to appease the jerk who has your child than to stir up a whole can of worms.

Please do NOT flame me for stating MY OWN OPINION.....

She came here asking for the support she has see us give to other people. Dont bash her because you dont agree with the decisions she has made. They are HER decisions, good or bad. YOU can not MAKE her do something she isnt ready to do or doesnt have the capability of doing right now.

You dont know the whole situation. You dont know what kind of a man her ex is. Just listen to her and support her. You would expect the same from her or anyone else on this board.


JMHO

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Jenefer3

I don't think it's okay to "appease the jerk" while her son is making statements of abuse/neglect. I am willing to lend my support to someone going through hard times or just needing to vent, but I don't support those who allow abuse/neglect to a child, especially their own.

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krisharry

call cps, now. It's free.

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NasCat

I guess you all know, she's not going to do anything about this any time soon. I just hope and pray it's not too late, when she does. Poor kid....

DAVESBABYDOLL

Knowing this board, I would expect the good, the bad and the ugly to come out.LOL Meaning people are going to post their (hopefully) honest opinions. When you come here to post, especially V/W, you're going to get opinions, even if they differ from everyone else's. Granted, some are harsh and brutally honest, which I think some people do need a reality check , and some will give the huggy support they want. KWIM?

BUT, to sit and do nothing, the mom is just as bad as the abuser (s). It seems the OP is more worried about the ex's girlfriend, then her son. (JMO, from what OP has posted)

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Licchl05

No, I AM doing something about it, it might not be what YOU or anyone else on this board thinks I should do, however it's MY decision to go about this the way I see it should be handled. tyvm

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DAVESBABYDOLL

Wow.

You already said that YOU aren't doing anything right now?

I hope you make the right decision, because if you don't, it could be really bad.

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YankeeMary

In theory, the CPS worker should be able to look through the BS and see "signs". They are trained for this. The person, if they showed up at their house, would more than likely ask if she could be alone with your son for a few minutes, whether on the front porch or a walk around the block. I am not being ugly, but it is YOUR responsibilty to keep your son or any other child safe. If they are abusing your son, then the other children will also be abused. It is wrong regardless of who is the parents. These are children.

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