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mosdata1 · 09-19-2009, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by gmyers

Everythings good here. I'm going out and enjoying myself. We're going to the Flea Market today and then out to eat later. I'm finding that now that I don't stay stressed out all the time I'm enjoying my life more with my husband. I hope things get better for you and your family too.

Great, you will see just how much more fulfilling & enjoyable your life is without all the nonsense in it.

have a great time!

n2space · 09-21-2009, 01:19 AM

Please think about doing everything you can to work things out with your family. I hope you can. You certainly don't have to take the abuse, but since my cousin had the heart attack, it made me think how important family is. I was so angry with her but when I saw her in the hospital tonight, she looked so weak my heart went out to her. I don't like what she did to us, but it made me remember the closeness we had when we were kids. I want that back. You certainly have had a lot of problems with your family and you have your reasons for your feelings, I'm just saying family is so important, seeing her tonight made me realize that. Good luck to you.

mosdata1 · 09-21-2009, 09:58 AM

While that is true, sometimes it takes the other person being on their 'death bed' for them to change. Until then it is usually best to avoid them.

DH has a cousin, who moved here to be close to family (insert US, the suckers of the family - or so he thought). After dealing with his lies, and using us for about 2 years, it all came to a head when he over-played his hand & went all out with the lies.

We were done at that moment. He is very sick, so when he needs help we are there, but when he is well, he is on his own. DH was the most vocal with his family. He didn't directly address his cousin's lies, but told the matriarch of the family that she should know him better than that & he doesn't have to justify himself to anyone in the family. He knows that he did the right thing and would do the same. If they choose to believe the other cousin, that's fine with him.

I have to say, life has been a lot more peaceful without his drama in our lives.

Yes, I take him to the hospital when he needs to go. We call him every so often to make sure he's okay & when he's in the hospital, we visit him & take care of his house.

Minimal involvement is best for us. I have to add though, if he continued to act like an idiot & continued trying to be a disruptive force in our world, I would probably NOT be taking him to the hospital & he would be on his own. I'm sure he knows this & this makes him watch how much crap he tries to stir up.

n2space · 09-21-2009, 01:15 PM

I agree with you, I guess it's hard for me to let go even though she wasn't very nice lately. I'm so close to the rest of my family and I want to try to work things out. But, she has to want it also. Sometimes I think she does, she just has too much pride.

gmyers · 09-21-2009, 01:39 PM

I would be glad to work things out with her if she would just listen to me when I try to tell her that the stuff she tells me really hurts my feelings. But every time I tell her she gets mad and hangs up on me. That tells me that she doesn't care if it hurts me or not. She just wants to keep telling me stuff. I don't see any way of ever working it out if she feels this way because I'm tired of hearing the negative stuff about me all the time. I'm hurt and angry and thats why I say and do what I do. When you tell someone over and over it hurts your feelings and they do it anyway it tells me they don't care about my feelings anymore or they would stop. Thats why we can't work it out.

n2space · 09-21-2009, 02:27 PM

I wish you luck with your sister. I lost my cousin today. We were like sisters once and it's sad we didn't get to talk to make things right, so I hope your relationship changes for the better for you. Do you have another sister you can bond with who may be able to help you two work things out? I only have brothers, so I guess that's why I was so close to my cousin. She was like my sister when we grew up together.

n2space · 09-28-2009, 01:56 AM

gmyers, how is it with you and your sisters? Have things gotten better for you? I hope you can work things out. I've gotten closer to my uncle since my cousin passed away. I'm determined no matter what to stay close to my family. I miss my cousin a lot, but being closer to my relatives has helped. Keep working on it and maybe things will turn around for you soon. It's not always easy to understand why people do the things they do, but a lot of people act out of anger or hurt feelings and they do things they normally wouldn't if they didn't feel that way. Good luck to you.

n2space · 10-08-2009, 01:23 AM

gmyers, how is it going with you and your family? We haven't heard if it's better or not. So many people care about you. Good luck.

Anig2u · 10-08-2009, 01:43 AM

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Originally Posted by n2space

gmyers, how is it going with you and your family? We haven't heard if it's better or not. So many people care about you. Good luck.

You probably don't know this, but she has been posting problems with her sister for a loooooooooooong time. Her sister is not going to change just like that. She has tried and tried and tried to have a healthy relationship with her sister but it does not work. So for her own sanity and well being she has decided to let go. I don't blame her in the least. I have had to do the same with one of my family members. Even though they are family, if they are driving you nuts beyond what you need in your life, it is sometimes best to put a stop to it. She seems much happier and content with life since she made that decision.