gmyers

Don't worry I'm definitely using caller ID from now on. Theres no way she'll be able to tell me anything else. And I bet its going to kill her to not be able to run and tell me every negative thing she can come up with. Its going to be so much nicer not hearing every day how much the family dislikes me and my husband. No more soap opera for me. I'll stick to the ones on tv.

Since I wont answer the phone she sent me a email trying to start something.. But thats ok I'm not answering it either. I guess she already misses the drama. Ya'll are right she keeps sending me emails trying to start a fight but its not going to work. I'm not taking the bait.

mosdata1

Good for you!

It will get easier as you go along. I'm sure you can block her email address too, if you want.

If you don't want to do that - create a folder, just for her emails & put them in there without opening them. If, for your peace of mind, you think that would be too great a temptation - just block/delete them.

gmyers

I'm definitely not going to respond to them. Its just childishness and I'm tired of it. Let her get her drama fix somewhere else for a change.

Vanilla

I am glad your are finally reacting in a positive way to all this BS. You have been posting about this for some time. You cannot change people, you can only change how you react to them. After all this time I doubt the person who is spreading the lies will EVER change.

One of my family members kvetchs frequently about another family member who is as manipulative as them come. I don't mind listening to "all the things I did for her and she can't be bothered to bring the kids for me to meet them" (yeah, you read that right) but, it upsets me because I cannot do a thing to change the situation. I empathize with her and feel when the opportunity arises she needs to address the situation with the offending beeyatch. Long story short, a person who knows the players involved told me recently that I am the only one who is really upset over this and I need to stop discussing the matter. She said she hates to see me have any heartache concerning this. The offending party has no intention of changing.

msmom79

heres an idea for you,the next time she calls you,record her words,then after you are done talking,straight up tell her you recorded her,so that you have proof as to what she is doing.
you can buy a mini recorder @wal-mart for about 29 bucks

n2space

Maybe if you talk it out things can be better. It's hard to let go of family sometimes even when things like this happen, I'm struggling with it too. It's hard to walk away and not communicate because in the long run, family is very important.

gmyers

I've tried over and over for the last six years. Every time I talk to someone one sister tells me they tell her I said something I didn't. Every time I turn around she's telling me someones accusing me of something. She's made me afraid to talk to different people in the family by telling me all kinds of things she claims they're saying. I really wish I could find out if they're saying the things she says or if she's making it up. Its hard to believe five different people are doing and saying the things she says they are. She's the one that told me my oldest sister said she wished it was me that died instead of the sister that died. Thats the kind of stuff she's been telling me for six years or more. Every time I break down and go back to talking to this one sister. The second time we talk she starts telling me things she says people are saying about us again and we end up argueing again. I've asked her to stop but she wont.

n2space

If she's been doing this for years, do you think she has an issue with you that she's been having for years? Is she doing this to anyone else in the family?

gmyers

I don't know about other people but I know she's been doing it to me for years. That stuff can really wear you down mentally after a while and make you have doubts about everybody.

n2space

People who do this sort of thing continuously for years usually are angry at the person they're doing it to for some reason. It sounds like she's very angry. Have you ever asked her if she has anything against you or if maybe something was done or said in the past that she is upset about?

Vanilla

n2space, this poor girl has been trying so hard to reason with the lying sack o'**** for years to no avail. Nobody knows what buttons to push better than family. I firmly believe that some people derive great enjoyment seeing others upset over the things they say. Only psychoanalysis can get to the bottom of the matter. In the meantime, don't give them what they want. Don't react.