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meltodd69 · 06-26-2009, 07:43 PM

WTH is wrong with men???

My husband of 15 years just walked out and left me this morning. I really could use a friend right now.

No reason why just he wants to go home to Texas. He took all the money and left. I can't stop crying and I really want to get drunk and have a smoke!
My mom was here when he walked out. He got into his truck and left. Says I love you and I'm sorry WTH is that. He must have been planning this for months.

I don't know what I am going to do. Someone please tell me something to make it better. My mom has been trying all day and I even went over to help my son clean his new home he is moving into. Trying not to think but its not working. Bless my son he knew right away something was wrong. And I have never cried infront of him, but I just held him and cried like a baby.

But now I am alone.
This is the worse day I have had in years. How am I going to do this on my own? How could I let myself get blindsided like this? I just want to curl up and die.
He is my best friend and now he is gone.

DBackFan · 06-26-2009, 08:07 PM

I am so so sorry. All I know to say is you are such a strong woman. Look at what you have accomplished recently! Besides that you have a Mother, a Son and a grandbaby for sure that I know need you.; However this turns out you WILL make it and you WILL find happiness again if you choose to.

fleabones3 · 06-26-2009, 08:09 PM

Oh jeez.. I am so very very sorry. You are right , he has probably been planning. I cant believe he took all the money and left you with what? I know you are strong enough to do this. you CAN do this. we are here for you

CLARKS4 · 06-26-2009, 08:13 PM

I have no advice for you as I have never had to deal with something like this.

and be strong

YankeeMary · 06-26-2009, 08:22 PM

WOW! I am shocked. Who would have guessed? Please know that I will pray for you to have strength to make it through this, and you WILL make it through this. It won't be easy but you will not only survive but you will succeed. We are all here for you. If he would just up and leave you like he has done, then you don't need him. You are a great woman and he just made the biggest mistake in his life!!! I wish you only the best. HUGS!!!

taz69 · 06-26-2009, 08:27 PM

I am so sorry! I know what you are going thru-am going thru it myself. One thing I have learned is DO NOT blame yourself! There are so many things you can do to fullfill your life-but take the the time to grieve, cry, scream and throw things if you need to. If you ever want to talk-pm me-will give you my number. I am going thru so much because my hubby did the same. Take a deep breath, take it one day at a time, and accept the care, love and support from your friends. I shut myself off-and almost destroyed myself mentally. Accept the love of friends and family-tell them to knock it off when they get too oppressive(and they will) but hang in there.

krisharry · 06-26-2009, 08:41 PM

OMG, I am so sorry to hear this. You are not alone, you have your Mom, a great son and a new grandbaby and don't you have a sister too(forgive me if I am wrong) and you have all of us terrific ladies here at BBS who will lend an ear and give a shoulder to cry on. Chin up, you will get through this. I have complete faith in you. Oh and do not smoke! You have worked too hard to give up now even though you must want to really bad. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

sunflowers · 06-26-2009, 08:49 PM

Could it be a midlife crisis?
Sorry to hear about it and hope it works out for you!
Hugs!!

gmyers · 06-26-2009, 08:59 PM

I'm really sorry. Maybe he'll think about what he's done and come back when he realizes he's made a bad mistake. People do stupid stuff sometimes. I don't know what to say but I hope it works out for you.

Mary Jo · 06-26-2009, 09:57 PM

I am so sorry.
Be strong. You can do it!
Hugs and prayers.

dangerousfem · 06-26-2009, 10:22 PM

omg.. Mel.. I am so sorry.. wth was he thinking??

You have your wonderful new grandson... your mom, son and DIL... and you are a great woman... I am sorry for the pain he has caused you.... no words will take that away... but know that you will get thru this...