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dinosmom · 07-01-2009, 06:02 PM

Oh no! I just read this. I hope everything works out for her. I just want to give her a BIG hug. Been there, done that!

babygirl08 · 07-02-2009, 02:06 AM

Wll i got an up date she did make it to houston ok left a message for her to at least call me to let me know how she is doing if everything is alright and if she needs anything. I am there for my sister no matter what she does i love her and will really miss her if she decides to stay but i do understand and would probly do the same. Will keep every one posted!! Thanks

mosdata1 · 07-02-2009, 10:53 AM

Thanks for the update. Please let her know that everyone here is pulling for her. I wish her the best & hope that whatever the outcome, she is happy.

fleabones3 · 07-02-2009, 01:53 PM

Well thats all any of us or anyone for that matter can do, is accept her decisions. Doesnt really matter who likes it or not or approves. She has to do what she thinks is best. I just hate the fact of how he left her, and her following so soon probably without thinking things out all the way... but hell, like everyone else said.. been there done that and have the shirt to prove it. Hope she finds the happiness she is chasing

shadowcats · 07-02-2009, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by fleabones3

Well thats all any of us or anyone for that matter can do, is accept her decisions. Doesnt really matter who likes it or not or approves. She has to do what she thinks is best. I just hate the fact of how he left her, and her following so soon probably without thinking things out all the way... but hell, like everyone else said.. been there done that and have the shirt to prove it. Hope she finds the happiness she is chasing

no matter what the outcome sometimes you just have to see what the reason is , and his way of leaving just up in the air like he did , doesnt make sense ,,,,,,, and either they ll make up and get back together or she ll learn shes better off with out him, either way she has to do what is best for her, and all we can do is advise her and comfort her if she needs it. i hope it works out for her,,,,,,,,,, who knows maybe its something she needed to do and he needed to do,,,,,,,,, we all have times in our lives where its a make or break time in our relationships,,,,,,,,,

good luck to you dear if you read this , just keep your own self strong no matter what, there is life after devastations..........
been there , done that...... and survived ..........

:grou phug

Mini · 07-02-2009, 10:21 PM

Wow. I was going to say how horrible it was for him to leave(which it was) with no reason but then to read she went all the way down there after him? WTF?

If he left and left her with nothing obviously he never cared about her at all. Why in the &^&^% would you go that far just for someone that didnt even leave you with an explination? No you shouldnt say never but I know for a darn fact if my husband did that I dont care how long I was with him his crap would be gone the next day and filing for the divorce. Im sorry but Im not gonna waste my time chasing down a man that doesnt love me.

I hope to God you know what youre doing

fairydana · 07-02-2009, 11:46 PM

Thanks for the updates. Just wanted her to know that I am thinking of her and praying that she will be ok!

justme23 · 07-03-2009, 10:32 PM

All of you who just "know" what you would do... I hope you are never actually in that position. I assure you, what you think you would do and what you might actually do are two totally different things. I've been the husband in this story... and my leaving did NOT mean I didn't love my husband. I did and still do and fortunately for me he was willing to give me another chance... it's been almost 13 years now and things could not be better.

fleabones3 · 07-03-2009, 10:51 PM

I'm not saying I blame her for going after him... I think she needs answers to get closure.. or maybe she does want him back.

But I do "KNOW" and "KNOW FOR A FACT" that if my DH left me with absolutely no reason, no warning, and took all "OUR " money, that I wouldnt want him back. Sorry, but if he could be that cruel and heartless and cold.. I dont need nor want him. I believe I would want answers and reasons, but really, I could live without them because he just showed he had no heart and no love for me.
I understand everyone is different and this is what she needs and wants.. thats great. I wish her the best and hope everything turns out the way she wants. I' m just saying if it was ME... there is a reason why they invented the word " NEXT".

catdance · 07-03-2009, 11:14 PM

****SIGH**** I just don't know...I feel sad reading this...fingers crossed, everyone comes out, OK......

pepperpot · 07-03-2009, 11:31 PM

You're a good sis babygirl.....