Shann

that is so messed up and mind boggling. I'm so sorry you are going through this and hope you find strength from those around you. don't feel like you have to be strong either, if you need to cry/breakdown/etc and get it out, do that, no need to keep it pent up inside, it will make you feel better. I would probably be falling apart right now too. but just know that this will pass and you'll pick yourself back up and move on and find someone who truly deserves you.

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mabby89

I'm so sorry this happened.

BeanieLuvR

I'm so sorry he did this to you. It is terrible that he left with no explanation and took all of the money. What a low thing to do. I'm glad you have your family there for you.

jasmine

I know you want to go and get rid of all of his stuff, and by human nature, you have every right, but hang on, and don't go crazy. This could/will end in divorce. And if you get rid of anything that big in value as a boat..... you just might have to pay that back later...... that will be tough on you $$ wise.
What is in Texas? Was that where he use to live? What is he missing there? Sorry for being nosey..... j/w
As other people said, the fact that he took all the money, shows that he is NOT caring for your well being, clothing,food,housing.......
Right now the pain is fresh.
Right now is the hardest.
Right now is the lonlyest

but you can do it, I know you can.
My ex left me on the day he got fired with nothing and 2 kids to take care of. Looking back, it made me stronger, a fighter.
I know you can get through this.
Cry like a baby, get it all out, and then pick yourself up.

hugs to you!!

galeane29

He left her with no money I think the court would understand the dire need to sell the stupid boat and I highly doubt they would make HER pay HIM for it back when it was mutual property.

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jonette5

I can add nothing that hasn't been said already, except if you choose, you have every right to sell any property that is in your name and not just his, it is marital property and if you need money cuz he cleaned out the bank account (get documentation of that) then sell away. Stay strong. (((((HUGS)))))

NasCat

I'm so very sorry for you. Try to stay strong, your family will need you as you will need them. And don't feel bad because you messed up and smoked, just don't do it again, you've done so well. (((hugs)))

Quaker_Parrots

She might have trouble selling it if it has a title. I would definately check that part of it out. If it doesnt have a title, sell it. It is still community property until divorce procedings start. Once the papers are filled, then comes the problem of getting in trouble with the court if anything is sold. He took all the money, wouldnt he get in trouble with the court as well if this were the case?

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Mary Jo

I am so sorry this has happened to you.
You did nothing wrong.
You need to see a lawyer ASAP. Are the bills in his name or yours? If they are in his name do not pay them. Utilities usually let you slide a few months before shut-off. Be proactive and take care of yourself.

wubbywa

I went thru similar situation 13 years ago. I am a better person, much more confident etc. If you start a journal or something like that and just write what each day is like how you feel etc it helps to get it out. Then in a week you can look back and see that what you wrote and how you felt has gotten better. Not sure if that makes sense, it just shows how far you can go by yourself. Focus on the kids, keep busy, stay around people and hopefully that smoke that made you sick will keep you from starting again. Its so dang hard to stop did it once and started again and still am. Expensive and stupid I know. Good luck oh and look around you and see what you really have!

meltodd69

He made to texas I just asked his niece.
I asked if he would speak to me and NO
Give him time WTF is that?

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