tunisia

here in my city there was an incident where a girl sent a nude pic to her boyfriend, they broke up, the boyfriend spread it around, and she committed suicide. pretty girl, about 17; just a shame. Her mom has been on the national news recently trying to get the word out.

I agree with the above poster that you should mention to her what could and may well happen should they break up. does she want her pics posted around the web? might serve as a wake up call so no further (or worse) pic will be taken.

jasmine

I did, I told her all about being registered as a sex offender. I told her, do you really want that? Think about when you become a mommy, you won't even be able to take your child to school or live near a park, or take your kids to the park........ she cried.
In fact, she just called form church and asked if that boyfriend could come over. HELLO, I said NO, I don't think that I care to see him for a while, infact I have SEEN to much of him that I care to!!!!!! uuugggghhhh

CLARKS4

I dont know what else to say

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Dr. Phil is always talking about this on his show. He says two many parents are afraid of their children and loosing their friendship. You are the one responsible for her until she is eighteen.

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jasmine

ok, so I told her that I would not tell her father, that this was me and her thing (daughter and mother...) we are divorced and he is no longer in the home, also he is a cop, and has already given her boyfriend a "after curfew" ticket.
BUT, I am STILL really debating on wether or not calling the boys mother and telling her about this. Would you want to know?
My DD says please, no. Because it would cause a big mess with it all......
I don't know, I have since deleted pics, but I am sure he hasn't.

Urban Cowgirl

Not that you asked, but...

I think its a mistake to keep secrets from him....he is her Father. Even though you are divorced, it may help if she sees you parenting as a united front.

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Yes I would want to know if it involved my kid.

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LadyEm

Great job on maintaining your cool. My mom wasn't exactly a "snooper" (not that you are), but I could have sworn that she had spies all over my hometown. I couldn't get away with anything AND now I'm thankful!!! As for telling the boy's mother (not sure what your decision is/was), that's a sticky situation. You run the risk of her telling other mothers or he could take it out on her if he gets in trouble and do the whole "rumor mill" that is part of highschool. On the other hand, maybe this mother deserves to know what's going on with her son. It's probably not the best advice but I would probably skip on telling her about this incident, but insist that your daughter have him delete all the photos as well if that's possible. Also, this could in fact hamper future communication between the two of you. As for not telling your ex, I think some things should just stay between mother and daughter regardless of the parent's marital status. Fathers seem to view situations involving their "baby girl" in a different light. (I'm knocking on 30, married, and with children of my own and my dad is still trying to convince himself that it had to be immaculate conception.)

Maintaining open communication is key, and you seem to be doing a fantastic job! Remember the teen years only last for a limited amount of time!!!

Wildkats

If you dont' have little ones around, take the pictures and put them as a screen saver on the computer. Then let her explain them to you!

Urban Cowgirl

Exploiting her is a bad idea! It does not set any kind of example, get rid of it!

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tngirl

All I have to say is that I am glad that my kids are grown.

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