son in troulbe in school for something I forget to do - Big Big Forums

ladybugva · 09-26-2008, 03:55 PM

I have a son in 2nd grade. So far this school yr (started the first of Sept) and he has been in trouble almost every day. Sometimes I know it's him but I am thinking that it's also the teacher also. They don't click. He is no different than he was last yr and he was never in this much trouble before.
BUT that is not my current vent. We are dealing w/ those issues w/ him and the teacher.
This is b/c every night he has reading homework. He has to write what he read, what type of book it is and then I have to initial it. Even though I write the book name in it I have forgotten to sign it. Both times he has to move his card from where he starts on green down one color to yellow. I guess she is trying to teach responsibility but is it fair to punish him for something I forget to do?

xsweetestx · 09-26-2008, 04:01 PM

My son sounds just like yours...He is in 2 nd grade and since school started I have been there 3 times and called a few times..All because he wont shut up lol....So now he is sitting next to the teacher and seems to be working good..As far as yours taking the crap cause you didnt sign I would be there telling her like it is....GL

Lori63 · 09-26-2008, 05:11 PM

I have the same problem with parent's forgetting to sign or not even doing things with their children in my kindergarten class, but the child is never punished for it. Our behavior chart is for the child's behavior, not the parent's.
On another note, we are really working on my 12 year old being more responsible. One morning it was ME who forgot to do something and he wasn't going to be allowed to participate in PE. I just emailed his teacher that it was my fault, not his.

Jenefer3 · 09-26-2008, 06:00 PM

My daughter's teacher did that once...there was a form that my daughter was supposed to have me sign and she told me about it and set it on my bed so I'd see it. Well go figure that life would happen and we ended up going to the ER with my son and were there until about 3 am before they admitted him so my girls went to their aunt's house and my son and I went upstairs. My daughter came home from school upset because the teacher had given her an F for the day for not having that piece of paper. I called the teacher to explain and she just told me that I shouldn't bail my child out of situations like this and that by doing so, I was raising a miscreant who would have a negative effect on society. I raised all kinds of hell over that comment (never piss me off when I've had less than an hour of sleep) and the F. After the situation was reviewed by the superintendent, the F was removed and the A was put there since there was a valid reason for the paper not getting turned in.

I don't think teachers should punish a student for something that their parent should have done, that's not right.

LitWtch · 09-26-2008, 06:57 PM

Yikes! In all our classrooms, the most a child gets for not having a parent sign a slip like that is "try harder - ", but not punished for "misbehavior". They may get their name on the board as a reminder to get it done - or a brief note in their planner to the parent to remember to sign. Talk to the administrator about the situation.

ladybugva · 09-26-2008, 07:09 PM

wow Jenefer can't believe that comment I would be furious about that one at least you had a vaild reason. Mine is at that hr. I am doing home work w/ 2 one that still wants my attention, fixing dinner AND trying to get ready for work so I just forgot. At this point for a lot of different reasons I think we will be having a meeting w/ the teacher and the principal about possibly changing his class.

dinosmom · 09-26-2008, 07:48 PM

My DS was like that in 1st grade. His teacher was AWFUL and inexperienced and just didnt know how to deal with the kids. It was her first yr of teaching on her own. I did have to get the principal involved and he really helped be the go between.

Nowdays, our school has everything online. I can check his grades, see the homework assigned each night and even leave comments for the teacher and vice versa. Its GREAT! I know exactly what homework needs to be done, if anything needs to be signed and what my DS's grades are as they happen. He has a learning disability and this has helped so much. And yes, if the kids fail to get something signed etc, they get a "mark". Too many marks in one week and the kids are not allowed to participate in Friday fun activities. But this is 5th grade were they are expected to be more responsible so I can see that.

***ahippiechic*** · 09-26-2008, 07:52 PM

I can check everything like that online also for my DD, love it.

But I don't think the child should be punished because the parent forgot to sign something. If they gave it to you, then they have done their part, they can't make you sign it. If they forgot to give it to you then that would be different.
I would speak to the teacher about it.

Freebeemom · 09-26-2008, 08:54 PM

I would call and talk to the teacher. I am sure they understand that the child needs to get in the groove of things. 2nd grade is a big transition...just wait until 3rd!

iluvmybaby · 09-26-2008, 09:57 PM

One time when I was sick I missed a day of school, the next day my mom wrote me a note, the usual..."Please excuse my daughter, she was sick." My mom has TERRIBLE hand writing, they took one look at the note, and gave me a WEEKS detention. Wouldn't call my mom, wouldnt do n e thing. My mom was up at the school the next day HELLA mad

P.S They excused me from detention, but did not apologize me for calling me a lair

ladybugva · 09-26-2008, 10:33 PM

mom and dad are both teachers. Dad in middle school for yrs and now at the same school at mom. Mom was in Kindergarden and now is in the HS so I have asked her questions about how to deal w/ it as a teacher.