Mom2-3boys

OMG so I have had it with the mom of the 2 y/o boy I watch. She has been paying me partially since July normally I am lenient with her because she is a single mom and I want to help her out, but man she's just taking advantage of me now and I feel like a damn unappreciated fool! Lately she constantly has one reason or another why she can't pay me, check was only this amount or child support isn't here so on and so forth, and 2 weeks ago she told me she couldn't pay me but then she told me she was going to a bar to hear a band (mind you there is cover charge and uh if you're at a bar you don't just sit there and listen to music) I just bit my tongue hoping she'd get me paid asap. Nope been hearing the same B.S. since and I've had it up to freaking here. Now all of a sudden there's this guy living with her and supposedly they are engaged WTF?! She has always told me her life story friends boyfriends blah blah blah. Where the hell did he crawl out from...actually I shouldn't say that he seems very nice, but now all of a sudden he's dropping little man off in the a.m. ( I think mom's way of avoiding me) and 2 damn days in a row within a hour of getting here his pants are soaking wet because he hadn't been changed since the night before and he was sitting on my couch both times. GREAT I always wanted a urine soaked couch!!!!! $$^*@*$^@*^&@$*^@#*@^#*@^#^*$*# I have never wanted to have a good stiff drink so early in the day!! I told her she had to have me paid when kiddo gets picked up tonight...and if she doesn't well sorry I can't take him the rest of the week I mean come on if this was a regular day care he would have been outta here long ago they wouldn't have helped her out they would have charged her double then what I am charging and they would be charging her for meals which I am not!! I am so angry right now I need to take a deep breath it's not the little guys fault I feel bad for him I'm the only stability he has really....but I can't keep doing this!

atprm

sit down and tally up all the hours that you are unpaid.

(including all the hours that you were lenient with).

then calculate what she owes you and take her to small claims court for that amount.

Also, until you are paid, refuse to care for her child. It's great that you are trying to help her out, but from what you have wrote, she is definitely taking advantage of you.

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meltodd69

There is nothing like the feeling of being used. Poor little guy. But you are right! Some people just don't get it! You give them an inch and they take a mile.
And to have the nerve to tell you she is going clubbing.
Maybe if she had paid you like she was supposed to, you could have gone clubbing too. That's what I would have said lol.

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cabby92

I made that same ultimatum once. The woman was glad to move on to another provider and start fresh. She used someone in the next apartment building over, and even after I'd warned the new sitter, she did that same thing to her. Neither one of us ever saw a dime.

atprm

**also...if she is getting $$ from the state, you can report her to the state for nonpayment of child care. They MAY garnish her support checks to give to you.

I highly recommend checking into that.

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msmom79

I Would Stop Watching The Child Too-dang If She Can Afford To Go To The Bar,she Can Afford To Pay You!!!!

BeanieLuvR

I hope she pays you, if not I agree with atprm to take her to small claims court to get it. You watched the child and should get the pay. Good luck!

dinosmom

Sorry you have to go thru this. That is just terrible. And I feel sorry for the little boy too.

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Unicornmom77

I feel your pain! I really do. I do not know if you are licensed or what not, but here there are kids with mothers who will pay and do change their diapers DYING for child care here. Think about your family first and stop allowing people to take advantage of you. It is hard, I know first hand as a child care provider myself. It is hard, but you know I grew balls and started drawing the line and guess what now I am paid (for the most part lol) and people do not take advantage of me (as much). I feel much better! I hope you resolve things and can work out getting paid, or get another child to watch who's mother pays on time.

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catdance

Curious, what did you end up doing with this situation?

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Mom2-3boys

Well I got paid. After totally throwing a b**** fit. Her boyfriend came and picked him up and I told him if you have no money for me tell her I cannot take the little man again UNTIL I am paid. She called me giving me excuses again saying as soon as I get my child support so on and so forth. I said Hey it's not my problem you haven't gotten your child support, you have been telling me for 3 weeks as soon as I get my child support. I cannot float you any longer! I said do you realize had you been at any other day care they would have kicked little man out already for no payment? Do you also realize that if you weren't getting paid by your employer on your pay dates you'd bee PO'd too! I can't keep doing this with you I don't mind helping you out from time to time, but lately it's on a regular basis, every time you're short you figure I won't care....but since you've abused the situation so much I do mind! I then informed her as of immediately if she doesn't pay me on the pay dates then she can't bring little man back until I am paid.
After I spoke to her she had my money to me within the hour......her boyfriend floated it to her until she gets her child support. I am also writing up a form of "contract" stating no pay no child care and if she's late on payment then there will be a fee each day and if she doesn't bring diapers/ wipes etc. then I will get them but I will bill her the price plus half. I'm hoping it will make her be a little more responsible.....but we shall see.