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PrincessArky · 02-11-2008, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by aussiegirl

There isnt anything I wouldnt do for my children either.

I guess though, if my father were so abusive to me as a child he would not be involved in my life at all. Therefore, accepting something from him would not have been an option.

yeah maybe you would have done things differently but you honestly dont know until you are in those shoes........again I am glad that you had a wonderful dad. I see so many kids (even when I was growing up) now that just dont even have a dad involved in their lives at all and I just feel so badly for them. It is also hard on us mom's being both mommy and daddy...did that with my first 2 kids and now they have a step dad and their own dad is starting to take an interest in them as well so hopefully they will grow up with the joy of 2 dads

tigger4 · 02-11-2008, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by aussiegirl

There isnt anything I wouldnt do for my children either.

I guess though, if my father were so abusive to me as a child he would not be involved in my life at all. Therefore, accepting something from him would not have been an option.

It is easier to sit there and say well if my father had been abusive I wouldn't go around him at all. But, in reality it is not that easy.

My mom abused me and let me be abused from the time I was very small. My dad sat back and watched it all happen. But, they are still my parents. No matter how much hurt and resentment there is there I still love them. I know that makes no sense, but that is just the way it is.

I have done a lot of things for my parents because I am a better, bigger person than they are. I know they are never going to do **** for me, but I will not lower myself to their level. I have children I am here to set an example for.

PrincessArky · 02-11-2008, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by tigger4

It is easier to sit there and say well if my father had been abusive I wouldn't go around him at all. But, in reality it is not that easy.

My mom abused me and let me be abused from the time I was very small. My dad sat back and watched it all happen. But, they are still my parents. No matter how much hurt and resentment there is there I still love them. I know that makes no sense, but that is just the way it is.

I have done a lot of things for my parents because I am a better, bigger person than they are. I know they are never going to do **** for me, but I will not lower myself to their level. I have children I am here to set an example for.

I completely understand

gmyers · 02-11-2008, 12:03 PM

I do too.