Etiquette and politness, is that a thing of the past???!! - Page 2 - Big Big Forums

schsa · 01-15-2004, 03:16 PM

It all depends on how you were raised. And where you live. Where I live people are basically polite. Strangers help strangers. There are places in the country I would never live again because people are just rude.

Dizzyontheweb · 01-15-2004, 03:30 PM

I got into a discussion about something like this in one of my classes. I say thank you, welcome, and yes mam, no sir. We decided it was a Southern thing. Itis getting to be rare here also though. I sometimes get strange looks when I use them.

LuvBigRip · 01-15-2004, 04:11 PM

I agree. People seem to get more and more rude all the time.

01-15-2004, 04:47 PM

I agree. I was also raised to say please, thank you, etc. My 21 month old daughter who says hi to people passing by gets ignored 99% of the time, and it hurts her feelings.

fatesfaery · 01-15-2004, 05:06 PM

I was raised in the south. I was raised to say, please, thank you, you're welcome, excuse me and yes and no ma'am and sir, you respected your elders, period. My kids were raised the same way, though I'll admit the first time someone other than my kids said ma'am to me I looked around for either my mother or MIL, so it doesn't bother me for someone to not say ma'am to me. Both my kids have had teachers who refused to be called ma'am and punished kids for doing it.

I'm also the kind of person who will talk to little kids that smile or talk to me, but these days with things the way they are, I'm always a little worried how a child's parent is going to react.

01-15-2004, 07:07 PM

This Yankee outright married a Dixie for that reason. I admired his politeness and charm. OK, that and many other reasons.

JENNIFERCATLADY · 01-16-2004, 02:19 AM

I went Akron, OH a couple months ago for training at work, boy did I make a BIG mistake. One of the ladies asked me a question and I had the audicity to say "Yes Ma'am" (just the way I was raised) and she FLIPPED out on me for calling her ma'am. Oops!

Unicornmom77 · 01-16-2004, 04:12 AM

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Originally posted by latestdish
I agree. I was also raised to say please, thank you, etc. My 21 month old daughter who says hi to people passing by gets ignored 99% of the time, and it hurts her feelings.

A simple Hi would be nice, But noooooooooooooooo
lol

My kids say HI HI HI HI HI HIHIHIHIHIHI LOUDER AND LOUDER until they ppl are to far away or they finnially answer! lol

Kyla Kym · 01-16-2004, 05:33 AM

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Originally posted by fatesfaery
I was raised in the south. I was raised to say, please, thank you, you're welcome, excuse me and yes and no ma'am and sir, you respected your elders, period. My kids were raised the same way,

I think most people do like being called ma'am and sir. It shows you respect them. Well at least in my books it sounds more respectful.

I have had men take their hats off before when they say hi to me, (even had a few bow when they said Hi, Ms. Darla, even though I know they are playing) it still just makes me feel all giddy inside. LOL

...I just eat that stuff up! I love manners and try to treat people with the same respect they show me. What does it hurt to be polite.

fatesfaery · 01-16-2004, 05:41 AM

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Originally posted by Kyla Kym
I think most people do like being called ma'am and sir. It shows you respect them. Well at least in my books it sounds more respectful.

I have had men take their hats off before when they say hi to me, (even had a few bow when they said Hi, Ms. Darla, even though I know they are playing) it still just makes me feel all giddy inside. LOL ...I just eat that stuff up! I love manners and try to treat people with the same respect they show me. What does it hurt to be polite.

Your post reminded me of something else. We called friends parents either Mr/Mrs...last name or Mr/Ms ....first name, we would have never called an adult by their first name.....we also had to call our aunts and uncles aunt or uncle so and so. My nephews and niece just call me Donna, my mom doesn't like it a bit either, she even asked me why I didn't put aunt and uncle on their Christmas presents.

My parents were both big on manners, but we also got lots of compliments on our manners when we were kids.

zitra · 01-16-2004, 08:43 AM

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Originally posted by fatesfaery
Your post reminded me of something else. We called friends parents either Mr/Mrs...last name or Mr/Ms ....first name, we would have never called an adult by their first name.....we also had to call our aunts and uncles aunt or uncle so and so. My nephews and niece just call me Donna, my mom doesn't like it a bit either, she even asked me why I didn't put aunt and uncle on their Christmas presents.

My parents were both big on manners, but we also got lots of compliments on our manners when we were kids.

I have always told my children to call their friend's parents/our neighbors buy Mr. & Mrs. But my neighbors, and their friend's parents are tell my son's something like "now none of that Mr. stuff around here, call me Dennis, or call me Terry" etc. My son even had a teacher with a hard to prounouce last name, os he had the kids call her by her first...