Is it just me or are all men @ssholes? - Big Big Forums

1busymomma · 03-01-2003, 10:39 PM

I have had it today. I am not sure if it is me, lack of meds or if men are just @ssholes in general.

Ex was supposed to drop kids off at 10 am today for custody exchange. Does not show up, no phone call, not at home, does not answer cell phone etc...so I am panicked. He finally calls 2 hours later and I start screaming bloody murder and crying hysterically. I was so worried (about the kids, could care less about ex) He was at a friends house over an hour away and supposedly he has no phone, but he has internet?!?!? Ex had mentioned something about emailing him etc.....

And then I got into it with DBF again and no D is not for Dear

I am getting really tired of feeling like I am being taken advantage of. I spoil his @ss rotten and he seems to think that sex is his way of spoiling me. UHM o.k. I am having problems with him giving my sister gifts etc.... (mind you, they are best friends and were long before I entered the picture) but refuses to give me anything. I got no BD present, a small christmas present and a bouqet of flowers for VDay. Supposedly I have won his heart, yet DSIS makes out like a bandit in the gift dept from him. Supposedly he has no money but Oh wait a minute, you are going to the zoo with my sister and the kids today?!?!WTF!

He did not even bother to call me this morning and say hi to me as usual. And he just does not get it. I wrote him a nasty email today. I told him flat out that I refuse to be his Sugar Mama, I refuse to spoil him and I refuse to move in with him unless something changes. I expect to come first (with exception to the children) I am tired of being taken advantage of and oh ((((gasp)))) I DO need more than sex and fast food to keep me happy.

Somedays I don't know why I bother to even get out of bed......

Let alone even consider being in a relationship with any man. So, is it just me????

MsLynn · 03-01-2003, 11:01 PM

Not all men are @ssholes, some me are whole @sses, lmao

1busymomma · 03-01-2003, 11:03 PM

ROFL!!!!!!

03-01-2003, 11:06 PM

Your DBF is lucky I'm not his girlfriend!
I'd have kicked his arse to the curb long ago.
Not to mention all the other "unpleasent" things
I'd have done to him first

1busymomma · 03-01-2003, 11:07 PM

Maybe I should post his phone number on a bunch of porn sites???? HEHE.

03-01-2003, 11:12 PM

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Originally posted by 1busymomma
Maybe I should post his phone number on a bunch of porn sites???? HEHE.

NOW your using your noodle!

MusicfanAnnie · 03-01-2003, 11:21 PM

I would be so blanking pissed at my sister as well ...Why is she hanging out with him?? And why is you're sister letting him give her gifts?? Are you sure they are just great friends???? Sounds very fishy to me... This would not sit well with me not for one second!!!!

Danny · 03-01-2003, 11:25 PM

I will be quietly slipping out of this thread hoping not to be noticed

Ladytiger · 03-01-2003, 11:29 PM

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Originally posted by MusicfanAnnie
I would be so blanking pissed at my sister as well ...Why is she hanging out with him?? And why is you're sister letting him give her gifts?? Are you sure they are just great friends???? Sounds very fishy to me... This would not sit well with me not for one second!!!!

Yep, was thinking the same thing, something doesn't seem right. I would put my foot down and fast! Or like Witchy said, kicked him to the curb. No, not all men are that way. I have a wonderful one that has taken care of me for the past few months, while I have been dealing with a withdrawal from a meds issue, he has taken care of the house and well does everything. Although we don't have the money for the "little things", I know that he truly loves me and our family. Please don't let yourself be treated this way, stand up for yourself, tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't want to change anything, move on, you could find much better I am sure. This may sound harsh, I have just seen this kind of thing before.

1busymomma · 03-01-2003, 11:48 PM

like I mentioned in the post, they have been best friends forever. I mean a LONG time before I came into the picture. I've been cheated on by two previous boyfriends and I always get weird vibes while it's going on, and I am not getting these when it comes to their friendship. I don't know maybe my sensors are off. I know part of the reason they went to the zoo today was to celebrate my nephew's bd. But still, did not even call, only reason I knew was cause I passed him on the Highway and called his cell phone!!!!

I dunnot about the gift thing. Like at Christmas he got her this big gift and I got a small one. He said he ordered the rest of it but it never came in etc....well I still have not gotten it. I only got flowers for Vday, she got nothing from him so I feel a little better. But then he got her the d@mn bunny and turned the whole bunny project over to her, took away from our precious little time together and has been building brand new rabbit pens!that made me so angry because that was my project and he overstepped the bounds and did it again. He did the same thing when it came to redecorating the house.I still throw that one in his face just to *try* and get my point across. I feel rotten for being a snooty pest about gifts. I mean, that's not what a relationship is about right? I feel really selfish that I am even bringing it up but I'm tired of going without while she gets showered or babied everytime some d@mn crisis comes up. I mean where was he while I was panicking about the kids this morning? At the zoo!!!!

Ladytiger, no your not being harsh, just cautious a very big difference and one I appreciate!

You guys Thank you for your support. I appreciate it.

MusicfanAnnie · 03-02-2003, 12:08 AM

Your sister should step aside FOR YOU!!!! You have got to talk with her..and QUICK!! And YOUR NOT SELFISH!!! Fight for what is YOURS!!!! Dont let people walk all over you..Take a stand..PLEASE!!! Let us know what happens.. Take care, Annie