Is it just me or are all men @ssholes? - Page 2 - Big Big Forums

scifiwoman · 03-02-2003, 12:20 AM

They went to the zoo to celebrate her sons bd and you werent invited? That doesnt sound right. I would be having a talk with sis and telling her to back off a bit. JMO

lilbugger · 03-02-2003, 12:33 AM

Im not being mean or anything, but YOUR his girlfriend not YOUR sister you should be getting the big GIFTS. And the other stuff you mention that just dont seem right. JMO something up with the two of them

reneep45 · 03-02-2003, 12:53 AM

i just don't get this at all ??????????????????????????
but ,,, alll men are as**olews !!!!!!!!!!!!

cinnamonch · 03-02-2003, 01:47 AM

Why should your sis step aside or him change what he is doing?
Obviously you havent let it be known that you wont tolerate their behavior. You have accepted whats going on and and as long as you do, things will continue as they are.

And no, not all men are the way the one you have. There are some wonderful men out there, problem is a lot of women settle for just anyone because they think they have to have someone in their life.

Kukubaby · 03-02-2003, 02:32 AM

About the porn sites...don't worry hon, he probably knows them all by heart. Dump the loser...you deserve better, even if it means being without a man. After all, none of them would be here if it wasn't for us gals. They don't go through morning sickness, backaches, swollen legs, etc. If only we could just clone women...hmmm there's a thought!

bruiser · 03-02-2003, 02:50 AM

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Not all men are @ssholes, some me are whole @sses, lmao

OMG thank you for making me laugh!!! Maybe not truly funny to everyone, but so so true! (cracked me up)

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Off the topic, but can someone please explain to me how to "quote" someone?...As you may notice, when I copy a quote from someones post, then paste in where it says "quote" when you reply, it doesnt bold it or say who the original poster was....what I am doing wrong??

TIA and Thanks for the laugh,KissMsLynn...I really needed that right now!

mom4angels · 03-02-2003, 06:42 AM

I agree with the other that it sounds strange for him to be giving her big gifts and not you. Even if they have been friends forever it doesn't sound right. Why are they going to the zoo without telling you? That would send me vibes because it sound like he is hiding something from you and if your sister didn't mention it then so is she. There are some wonderful men out there. Don't settle for a jerk that doesn't know how to treat you. Kick him to the curb and tell him to go live in the Zoo. I hope that I haven't offended you just my opinion.

Barbara690 · 03-02-2003, 09:54 AM

I agree with Cinnamonch,what she said is so true.If you just sit around and complain about the treatment you come off sounding whiney and petty,but if you stand up and say I DESERVE better and I won't take second from no one they will see you as a strong woman who knows herself and what she wants.I used to be the same way,didn't want to speak out too loudly about how I wanted to be treated so I never got what I wanted and I just sounded whiney and unhappy.I now have a wonderful husband who needs to be reminded on the rare occasion(and getting rarer)that I am the best woman in his life he'll ever find and I need to be treated as such.He's a good man but needs to be gently reminded to not take me for granted.Maybe thats all your DBF needs,talk to your sister about this also.

03-02-2003, 11:39 AM

Here's something to think about. Even if he ISN'T cheating, he still ISN'T treating YOU right! Why bother with someone who puts you second or even third? You need to ask yourself why you allow this pattern to continue. Why you think he's "all that".
I'll tell you right now, it's easier for a woman to find a man than the other way around.

Unfortunatly mothers are not raising their sons properly (and most can't). Boys learn how to treat women by how their mothers were treated by their fathers (or Mom's boyfriends). Girls learn how to pick mates by how their fathers (or Mom's boyfriend) act toward their mothers.
YES, "good" fathers ARE important in raising children. They can't really be replaced.
There can be exceptions, but they are rare!
I married a man JUST like my father!
Coincidence? I don't think so.
I think my brain was well trained what to look for in a mate.
Be carful what example you set for your son or daughter!
You are teaching them much more than you could imagine

03-02-2003, 06:29 PM

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Originally posted by MusicfanAnnie
I would be so blanking pissed at my sister as well ...Why is she hanging out with him?? And why is you're sister letting him give her gifts?? Are you sure they are just great friends???? Sounds very fishy to me... This would not sit well with me not for one second!!!!

I totally agree with MFA's post — but I'll go one step further: The minute and I mean the very minute you started dating this guy your sister should have loved you and respected you enough to dramatically reign in her "friendship" with the guy. She should have gone to him and said "I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to pretty severely limit my contact with you. I love my sister more than I like you." It should not have even been your responsibility to teach her this lesson in love — it's just a rule of the sexes that M/F relationships are eternally compromised by sex. I don't care if they've been best friends since she was 4 years old — it has to all but end now that you're dating him. This is one of those cases where there isn't room for two relationships — or you're (each) getting exactly what you deserve to be perfectly blunt.

I realize mine is a radical point of view but we're all animals beneath our clothes. I don't think very highly of your sister right now. Beyond that I'd better zip it heh.

ckerr4 · 03-02-2003, 06:45 PM

I agree with some of what Tyt said. Case in point: My best friend (one of them - I have two - yes, I know that technically isn't possible, lol) is a guy. We have known each other since we were ten, and have never been anything other than friends. However, he recently married. I get the feeling that his new wife is a little insecure and not altogether approving, even though she hides it very well. She makes the effort - I'll give her that, and she has never been mean or anything but nice to me. So I have backed off. I let my husband call their house if we want to do something - all of use together (I wouldn't dream of going to the movies or out to eat with just him anymore, even though it never bothered my husband (I know it would bother his wife)). I don't visit him at work anymore unless I really am going up there to shop. I understand that she and their children come first - that's the way it is and should be. It makes me a little sad, but I'm an adult - I can deal with it. And he's still my friend; that hasn't changed, and won't. It simply an adjustment, which is something that most relationships have to make at some point or another. I think that is what the sister/bf relationship in this case needs to do - make an adjustment. It would make things less tense for everyone.