Im in a BAAAAAAAAAD mood today!!! - Page 2 - Big Big Forums

schsa · 02-19-2003, 12:58 PM

When he married you he didn't become one of your kids. He's an adult and he knows where the refrigerator is, where the coffee is, and how to make a sandwich. He also knows what time he has to get to work. You stay in bed. I think that he can get the rest together on his own.

MusicfanAnnie · 02-19-2003, 01:35 PM

My god! You're working three jobs??!!! With childern and going to school??? That's way to much on your shoulders!!!!!...What is your husband doing for work??? How many jobs does he have? Tell hubby it's time for a chat and changes need to be made...STAND YOUR GROUND!!! And tell him to take care of his own breakfast and make his own damn sandwishes!!! Get him doing more the better it is on for you...Sorry your hubby is so needy..he needs to take care of himself, not you! Most men need a loud alarm clock...If he needs a clock to get up...then there is not much else you can do about this. The more he does for himself the better. Whatever it takes for him to wake up himself...give him slack about the alarm clock (even though it drives you crazy)
Let us know what happens...hang in
Annie

MommyG3 · 02-19-2003, 02:01 PM

You are spreading yourself too thin, dear. I know how you feel, though. DH DOES help around the house, otherwise I would be calling his mother. LOL. (JK). I have one full-time job and I take classes part-time. I did raise two kids, work 1 part-time job, and full-time classes. It ain't easy.

As for your DH saying women make their hubby's a hot breakfast...I happen to know MANY SAHM/WAHM that don't do that. Tell your DH to go suck on a lemon next time. Like Taybai said, he is living in the 50's.

GOOD LUCK IN YOUR SCHOOLING!!!

oh, and have you considered getting on full-time at the college and taking classes part-time. Might be something to think about.

cpbaby · 02-19-2003, 07:41 PM

Ok, here we go, a few responses..........

#1, I didnt yell at him this morning till he yelled at me. If I rubbed his back, he would NEVER get out of bed. If he moved at all, it would be cause he thought I wanted sex.

#2. YES! I would LOVE to have one job. I am done with ONE Associates degree, finished this past Dec. BUT, I only needed two more classes to get ANOTHER Associates degree, so I am taking one of them this semester and one next fall. I also am taking another class online so I will be "half-time" so I can qualify for finacial aid.

#3. If I won the lottery tonight, I would work the front desk for free the rest of my life. I LOVE that job. HOWEVER, if I did get hired full time, the job pays minimum wage---$5.15 ph. AND two weeks ago a hiring freeze was put on all of the KCTCS school system, which will be in effect for 18 months.

#4. He says the women he works with cook for their husbands every morning, to hear them tell it. Personally, I think they are LYING.

#5. Is he living in the 50's? Probably. He is 25 yrs older than me. He will be 59 his b-day. I do realize its a generation gap but GEEZE!

#6. When I worked at the sewing factory, I worked less hours than he did, worked 2 minutes from home instead of 50 minutes, and I didnt mind doing everything. Its just that now, he works 8 hours a day and I work anywhere from 10 to 12, PLUS the mommy/wifey stuff.

Right now hes sulling cause hes getting leftover chili for supper. He had a FIT when I told him what we were having and threatened to go down to Hardees. I didnt argue with him or anything, I just told my 14 yr old to go give the chili to the neighbors dogs. Ned changed his tune REAL quick when I did that.

I will remind him before bedtime that he is responsible for his own coffee and lunch from now on. Even though I may have to shoot the alarm clock.

Ladytiger · 02-19-2003, 07:50 PM

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I do the same for daughter and boyfriend-the alarm goes off, it's their responsibility. I just pray that when they are running late and busting @ss, that they don't get hurt either falling down the stairs or in a wreck. Right now I stay at home, but make breakfast was like being a short order cook, if dot didn't like what I made, she didn't eat it, which made me wonder WHY I did it in the first place. Yep, those days are gone here. I put my foot down a long time ago.
Good luck Hon

Oh, by the way, I am currently on strike with the dot anyway

gemini26 · 02-19-2003, 07:57 PM

Wow, I work part time, go to school full time, and have two kids. I take care of the house and whatnot. If I am home hubby may ask me to make him some lunch but those are far and few betweeen so I don't mind. I don't make him breakfast. I only get the coffeepot ready the evening before. He gets a good dinner. Other than that he does for himself because he knows I have the kids and house to look after. He goes to work at 7:30 in the morning and does not get home until 6:30 - 7:00 at night so I don't mind the house stuff. He works six days a week and will barbeque on his day off. He does not expect too much from me and would never act like such a child. I agree with the others and your own suggestion. Let him take care of stuff himself. he will get the picture and appreciate you more because of it, hopefully!!

mlathroum · 02-19-2003, 08:03 PM

My hubby needs a KISS right now!!!
I don't think I could live like that. We made rules from the beginning and have stuck with them. If I cook he cleans the table off and loads the dishwasher. I wash the clothes and he folds and puts them away. I work from home. He works Full time plus over time for making arrests. He gets himself out of bed, dressed and out the door by himself. If my alarm goes off before he leaves he gets a cup of coffee if it is done in time.
My 8yo and my hubby make their lunches at night. Clothes for the next day are laid out the night before.
I have been sick for the last couple of weeks and having my gallbladder out Friday am. Hubby has been taking care of everything and even using leave to stay home and take care of the kids. I have a 4yo also. I do most of the cleaning and such since I am home but I also volunteer at both schools and work a second parttime job a couple of hours 3 times a week for the Dr's office I used to work for. We under 28 inches of snow right now and he has been shoveling since Sunday to keep up with it.

If he is trying to tell you what other women do Show him my post so he can see what other MEN do.

ckerr4 · 02-19-2003, 09:38 PM

I don't do crap for dh in the morning, no matter what time he has to get up. We're not morning people around here, lol, and that about says it all. He's lucky if I fix him dinner. We do fight over the alarm occasionally, but he would never expect breakfast. LMAO, he would think I'd flipped my lid if I got up and fixed him breakfast. Gotta try that next April Fool's.

Tasha405 · 02-19-2003, 09:53 PM

First off I have to say YOU GO GIRL!! I don't know how you manage to do it all. {{{hugs******

I am married and I DO NOT cook breakfast for my hubby every morning. He gets breakfast only on the mornings that his or my mom are visiting. LOL He once said that his mom used to get up and cook for him and his dad, pack their lunches and make them coffee before they even got up. Well my response to that was.. You don't live with your mommy anymore! If you want breakfast then I suggest you get you some cereal out of the pantry every morning. The only time I really cook a big breakfast is in evenings, for supper. Other than that, we eat sausage & biscuits, cereal or instant oatmeal. lol

momfromTN · 02-19-2003, 10:07 PM

OMG!!! DONT give the dog the chili, since you will have to scoop the poop obviously.LOL!!! Girl, that man has GOT to grow the heck up!!! I would have a long talk with Mr Man, and lay it on the line. What you do, how much you work, and school, etc. Then lay out what HE does, how much he works, etc. Make a list-you on one column, and him on the other. Maybe if he sees it on paper, he will take it more seriously. And just to let you know, I don't make my DH's breakfast either.