hotwheelstx

Right before the holidays there was a post on here in v/w that someone was needing help for the holidays. I.E. trinket gifts, clothing for new child, shower gels that kind of thing.

Well, I guess I'm a SUCKER. I fell for it and replied and gave this person my email addy. Well, the holidays got busy and I didn't get it in the mail before the holidays. It was the week after. PLEASE EXCUSE ME

The very day I packed it up I had Aggie take it to the post office and send it asap. Well, I waited a couple of days about 3 and wrote to see if they'd received the gifts. (I even included homemade breads). I took it upon myself to go out and buy this person something that I thought they would like and bought 2 new outfits for the baby.

Well, I wrote to ask if they'd received the package and you know what they wrote back?????!!!!!!! "Yeah, thanks".

I am not bothered w/the money that I spent. What upsets me is that I truly went to a lot of trouble for this person. As you all know Aggie and I moved into our new house about 2 weeks before Thanksgiving so, not only was/am unpacking I still had the holidays at my home plus numerous birthday parties for my family. Mom, Scooby, Aggie, 3 friends. All in the month of December.

It just really hurts me that they did this. I can't believe that someone is sooooooooooooo selfish and rude as to not send an email stating they received the package and not be grateful for the contents when you're on here asking for help.

They did tell me at one point they'd be going oos after the first of the year and wouldn't have access to a computer. Well, guess what????? They've been on here posting replies.

Then, when I thought they weren't able to get to a computer there was a post asking about them. I replied (nicely)and said I knew they were oos and would be back soon. I'm not sure whatever happened in that situation as I didn't get involved.

It's beyond me how people want help and ask for it and then you give it to them and then they can't respond w/reply or let you know if they received it, liked it, it was damaged in mailing, thank you or ANYTHING.

My feelings are really hurt. I guess next time someone does this I'll refer them to somewhere. I won't get involved and work my butt off trying to find things I think they'd like.

I know this probably sounds petty but, it's the thought that counts. That's what I've always been told. I guess I didn't "think" enough.

Barbara690

I guess this person showed what class she is in.It has always amazed me too how people can be this way,it takes sooooo little effort to say "thank you,I appreciated that".

Nikkole

Hotwheelstx,

If this is the same person I'm thinking of I got burned to.
They wont answer emails and said they would send my items at the end of January I sent the money order in December.
Some people have no morals or class I would of been grateful if someone went out of there way to help me I would at least send a thank-you card, helpful people are a rare breed nowadays..
The same thing happened to me I sent a lady an auction of baby clothes I won on ebay for her she said it was for a friend who was 16 and had nobody so I went out of my way, to this day I have not even got a thank-you I don't even know if she got my package or if she realy needed the clothes.
Some people I wonder what is going on in their minds!

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ahippiechic

I know how ya feel. No wonder more people don't offer to help each other out.

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jayhawkfan

I dont know who it is but the same thing happened to me.....twice {{{{everyone********

DBackFan

I TRY to do that Raven but the same thing happened to me. I sent 2 Christmas box's out to families and one of them ws over 20.00 just to ship and I barely got an aknowledgment too. It just makes you feel like it was a waste because had they really NEEDED the stuff they would have been more grateful. Sorry hotwheelstx (((hugs))).

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schsa

I must be the lucky. I really enjoyed helping the people I have helped and I have gotten good feedback. Maybe you just shouldn't expect anything if you send something other than a confirmation that the package was received.

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odyssey

wow well some people.
who was it hotwheelstx?? I am sending two large Boxes out to 2 bbs members this week. all as a nice act from me. They seem to need it, I read all of their former posts to make the connection of they are in need from what they write.
I don't have the money to throw out the window. I hope only the true in need do ask not those who want free stuff at my expense.

cinnamonch

While I agree with Raven in that when I try to help someone I do it because I want to and it makes me feel good, however I understand where Hot and others are coming from.

I helped a couple of people here and only one ever responded that they received the package. Not only that they had their child to send an email thank you which I thought was very nice. I had to email the other person to make sure they got the package. Would it have hurt them to take two seconds to say they got the package?

Does it bother me that they didnt say thank you? Not it didnt because the my intent and purpose was the help someone who said they were in need.

I know that what I do is done with a sincere heart and as long has I can help anyone, I will continue to do so.

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shelhop

I also think at the very least, a "Thank You" is in order, but sometimes I wonder if it's not so much of a lack of appreciation as it is simply the way a person is brought up.
I speak from personal experience in my own extended family. At Christmas time, after the family get-togethers, I swear some of the family members write out Thank You's while they're in the car driving home. Others really never get around to it. Not that they don't appreciate it.
My own rule of thumb on this is that if you receive a gift in person, you say Thank You in person. That's the most sincere form. If something comes to you in the mail, or UPS, you should call the person, or if that's not possible, write, expressing your gratitude and thus acknowledging having received the gift.
Everyone likes to be appreciated. But if you're trying to help someone out, do it for the simple reward of knowing that you were able to help someone less fortunate. And if you simply want to be sure the person receives a package, the surefire way is to request a return receipt through the mail. (That little green card they have to sign before getting the package.)
IMHO, hotwheelstx, you're right. You went out of your way to help this person and she should have thanked you, acknowledged your sincere effort. I'm sorry you didn't, and your feelings were hurt.
And Ravenlost, I personally agree with you. A thank you is appropriate, and the thoughtful thing to do, but knowing that you helped someone in need...that's a much better reward.
Cheers, ppl, and don't give up on RAOK, just because you were "burned". The kindness and sincerity on this board is one of the things that draw me to it every day. Or as Jerry Springer would say, "Be good to yourselves; and each other."

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