How can people be soooooooooo UNGRATEFUL????? - Page 3 - Big Big Forums

Nikkole · 02-19-2003, 05:23 PM

Yes you did reply to my post, I have seen her posting what a scam artist I love the email me if we have a trade post then when I do you ingnore so many times I can't count! I also like how everyone thinks she is so wonderful. if she was why did she rip me off for $15.00?
Oh yea she also plans to start selling again in a couple of weeks..
LOL

Tigerseye0420 · 02-19-2003, 06:37 PM

I will come out and post. I am the person she is referring to. I did email her and thank her. She says i did not. I did, I do not know if she got it and i am sorry if she did not. She made a great xmas for my son, as my husbands family didnt help out with xmas for my son at all. She also sent some things for me that were wonderful.

i DID NOT beg for anything!! She offered to send me some things and she kept offering other things as well even ciggarettes because we both smoke. When she told me she wouldnt be able to send everything i told her not to worry about it that anything she could send would be fine. I never once begged her for anything. She kept saying she was sorry for not getting everything to me sooner and i kept telling her to take her time. I understand how things are. I am very grateful for what she did for me and Nicholas. I am sorry that she didnt get the email or if she did then chose to ignore it?

As far as Nikkole. I posted in FSOT to make good on any trades i hadnt got out. I will be sending your things out by friday. I didnt do this on purpose but with the way things were here my mom came and got me to stay with her for a month in Michigan. I did not get back until the 8th of February, i had planned to be back by the end of January which is why i originally stated the items would be sent by then. My emails were lost which is why i posted in FSOT.

I am sorry about everything and I will totally understand if anyone can not understand, but i would think that one time or another we have all been in situations like this in our lives. And i know that alot of trades with other users have been delayed even longer than this due to circumstances.

So I know there is one other person i have traded with that i am trying to contact but i do not have her email or user name...so if you see this then please email me so i can get your items to you as well.

Jessica

ldavern · 02-19-2003, 07:19 PM

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I am sorry about everything and I will totally understand if anyone can not understand, but i would think that one time or another we have all been in situations like this in our lives.

I understand

scifiwoman · 02-19-2003, 07:22 PM

Sorry, you can at least say thanks when someone goes outof their way. I too had a hard year and a very nice person here sent my son something for christmas. I never got it. (probably lost in the mail)

But I thanked her for the thought anyway. It was a kind and caring thing to do. Not many people even care anymore these days. Its refreshing to see that there are a few who still do care.

Dolly<3 · 02-19-2003, 09:03 PM

I sent Tigerseye something before Christmas b/c I wanted to. She ended up not getting it but, SOMEONE did (it had delivery confirmation). I don't know what happened, but I offered to resend it after Christmas, and she was totally sweet and said not to worry about it. She wasn't begging or anything. She also mentioned that people at BBS were really generous and kind, and I could tell she appreciated everyone a lot.

I don't know what happened in this situation, and I'm not even gonna guess, but I wanted to share my experience w/her as a person.

Peri · 02-19-2003, 11:38 PM

Reading this post made me feel bad. Back before Christmas, I made a post in a thread about what to do when you couldn't give your kids a nice Christmas. I had two people ask me to email them. Honestly, I didn't know what they wanted, I thought they wanted to talk. I hadn't made any friends on BBS up to this point and, since I wasn't asking for help, just moaning and groaning, I didn't realize they were going to offer help. I was tickled to death and very cheered up when they replied to me that they wanted to send some things. One other member posted that she had several extra things lying around that she couldn't use, so I emailed her inquiring about them, with every intention of using my paypal to buy some of the things from her, or at the very least pay shipping for the things.

What ended up happening was one of the nicest experiences I've ever had. One of the people who asked me originally to email her, Melodyjl, sent me a box of assorted girlie things (I have four girls) and she even put in a few things for me. I was super appreciative of this, because I know that she was having a difficult Christmas herself, and I thought it very sweet she would share what she had with me. She and I emailed a couple of times, and I thanked her in email.

The other person was the one I wrote to about the things she had extra, Aunt2Makayla. She was a bit of a sneak, asking me what sort of things my girls liked, claiming she was going to look and see what all she had. Well, she ended up literally "adopting" my family. She and her husband sent us several boxes of things. She went out shopping for my kids and bought them several gifts each, even ordering a doll for my youngest from Amazon because she felt like she wasn't getting an equal amount of gifts. She put off buying a present for her own daughter to do this for my daughter. She sent me gifts, too, and even included a very nice bottle of Armani cologne for me to give to hubby. She sent us a very nice breakfast basket that was loaded with stuff that came in a beautiful wooden basket, and then after Christmas I received yet another gift of a sausage and cheese box. Heck, she even included wrapping paper so I could wrap the gifts for my kids! I was bowled over by this, because it seemed every day for a week I was getting a huge box from this girl and her husband, and I could NOT stop crying the whole week. Not tears of sadness, mind you, but of relief and joy and happiness. She and I exchanged a few emails, too, in which I thanked her.

I guess I didn't post this before publicly because, ashamedly, I was a little embarrassed to admit I'd gotten help from anyone. But then reading this thread made me realize that no one is going to look down on me for that, and that these gals deserve a huge public thank you for what they did for me and my family. So I wanted to thank Melodyjl and Aunt2Makayla for giving my family a wonderful Christmas. Without you two, we wouldn't have had anything. I've lost touch with both of you, but it doesn't mean that I don't think about you all the time and appreciate still what you did.

Because of some of the posts I read about people being upset that the person they sent something to didn't bother to respond at all, I wanted to also add that there was one other person who said she was going to send some things. I know that she had some things happen unexpectedly, so I don't know if she did or not. I didn't receive anything, (and that's TOTALLY okay, believe me, my family was blessed *tremendously as it was) but I just wanted to post it here, because if she *did send something, I didn't get it, and I don't want her to think I am an ungrateful, selfish person. I did appreciate the thought and the offer, very much.

Anyway, I'm done rambling now. Again, I just wanted to publicly acknowledge my family's "Christmas Angels", because I guess I hadn't really realized that it's nice to feel appreciated. I'm sorry for that Melodyjl and Aunt2Makayla. You guys are the best, you're truly sweethearts. (((( Melodyjl )))) (((( Aunt2Makayla ))))

Tigerseye0420 · 02-20-2003, 01:29 AM

i DID thank her more than just yeah thanks!
I appreciate everything that everyone has done for me and my family on BBS...alot have offered kind words when i needed them the most etc. BTW thank you again Mandy

shelhop · 02-20-2003, 05:46 AM

Emotions are running so high on the boards lately. And in what seems like a very wishy-washy opinion, I agree with several different views on this. Because it's not cut and dry.
Do I think a person should say Thank You when someone goes out of their way to help them? Yes
Do I think that if no thank you is received that the person is ungrateful or "scamming" them? Not necessarily.
Do I blindly think that all people are sincere and wouldn't ask for help if they didn't need it? Absolutly not, but who am I to judge?

cjc5263 is right! What goes around comes around. So please don't let bad feelings keep you from helping in the future. Hotwheelstx (like so many others here) obviously has a heart made of gold, or she wouldn't have offered to help in the first place. Tigerseye0420, I don't know you, I don't have the right to judge you. I do hope the two of you can work things out so there's no bad feelings between you.

Nikkole · 02-20-2003, 10:07 AM

I myself don't mind helping but I would like to know that you got my items.
Like the baby clothes I sent that girl I felt hurt that I went out of my way to help and I did not even get a thank-you or email to let me know she got them.
As far as me not understanding, I do I have my own problems my 2 year old son has asthma after having a what I thought was a cold for a month ,I almost got a divorce after being married for 5 months and thats just for starters not to metion my husband works 24-7.
I know alot of people here have problems And I sympathize but as far as being late on a trade I myself have been late I'm not an angel, I should not have to flood you with emails to get a response or get so mad I wanna report you to bad traders list.
It take seconds to say hello so and so came up, I will keep in touch about our trade.
I would of been more then understanding.
But to email me twice in January and a few days ago about an unfinished trade from December, I'm a little upset.
You say I'll send you your items at the end of January, it's now the 20th of Feb could you of not emailed me to say there was a delay or something came up?
I'm the most understanding person but when I get strung along I tend to loose my understanding and patience...

Aunt2Makayla · 03-10-2003, 06:09 PM

"How do you know that a person is truly in need?" my husband asked me as I was packing up my Santa boxes, and so did many of my friends. My response was it didn't matter. There are those scam artists, even on this board. I have heard the stories. I am blessed ! I work only because I want to,my family has enough to eat,we pay our bills each month. I feel that it is important to help people! The government doesn't help with presents for our kids. I think that is is just as important for a child to feel loved as fed. I also think that it is vital that we show support for those that just need a little help once in awhile. The families that my family helped never needed to thank me. Many did, while a few did not. I got my reward on Christmas morning knowing that a family had breakfast,and a few treats for them under the tree.
The people here at BigBig are always looking for that great deal. I found that deal. I get far more that I can give. Kindness is one he** of a freebie!
I am off of my soap box now. You can all go back to you your regularly scheduled activites.

socks1211 · 03-10-2003, 06:27 PM

well now i am going to put in my 2 cents
i recived a package for brooke from sandytrap and i thanked her all the clothing was very nice as me and hubby liked all of it i really appreciate the presents i got for brooke even though it was after christmas i am sure brooke will love them too when she can start wearing the clothing
thanks again sandy
i wish i could help her out now but things are still a little tight as soon as we get back on our feet i will send something to her