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really upset
my boyfriend(if i can actually call him that) wants to have a3some or 4some. i really dont want to share with anyone. im really confused he says ther has been no one else but me.but he gets these sometimes dirty text messenges on his cell phone.but says they just go to aa meetings together. she was a friend with benifits. but no longer.anyway i set us up with the guy. know this guy is only after him.will not talk to me just texts him.says i set it up. know why would i set my guy up with anouther man or anyone else for them to take him away from me.now he wants us to do a female i dont want to.i cant get him to get that thru his mind.im not comfortable with it.and im really scared he will cheat on me.he really hasnt given me a reason to really think that. just the text messeges from his aa female friend.
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05-04-2009 02:00 PM
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I would say the chances are pretty good that he will, if he isn't already, cheat on you. Him continually trying to convince you to do something that you are just not comfortable with is a good indicator that maybe he isn't totally happy with his sexual situation or has totally different taste than you.
I guess some would say, to each his/her own, but I am a firm believer that the bedroom isn't to be shared with anyone.
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I would lose a lot of respect for anyone who pressures me to do something sexual that I am not comfortable with. If they kept being persistent after that, there would be an 'ex' in front of our relationship description. JMO
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sounds like something is wrong in the relationship, time to sitdown and have a heart to heart, find out what is really going on here and explain your feelings on the situation to him
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I have known people that get involved in situations like this and they have never seemed to end well. If you are not all for it, then run!! You will end up hurt.
There is no way in hell I would put up with another woman sending my hubby dirty texts. I bet he is messing around with her. Cut your losses & get out your pole, there are plenty of fish in the sea!
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IMO something is totally wrong with the guy. I would dump his sorry ### on the side of the road. He has no respect for you or your relationship. Good riddance to that garbage.
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I hope and pray you have been having protected sex with him, because it sounds like he is a whore who would sleep with anyone with two legs if he thought he could get away with it. It is time to dump him and then go to your local Dr or health department and get a full STD panel run, sounds like he might be bisexual and you have to worry about HIV/AIDS and hepatitis.
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Yup I agree. If he TRUELY 100% loves you with his whole heart he would NOT pressure you to do something that you have made clear you do not want. DO NOT give into the pressure and if need be dump his sorry A because you deserve to be with someone who respects you and your feelings!
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I bet he is cheating on you already...You need to stand up for yourself don't let him or anyone else pressure you into something you do not want to do. What about STD's and HIV?
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I agree with the others. Many many many if not all men, fantasize about having 2 women. Its in their genetics I guess. But most men leave it as that, fantasy. Some might even ask for one. But MOST drop it after the first NO or HELL NO. as far as the dirty texts go, from a supposed aa member, over my dead body. There is only room in a relationship for 2 people, not any more than that
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I know I shouldn't ask...but are you saying you are already had a 3-way with 2 guys...your BF and another? Wow...that is just TMI for me.
But, I agree with everyone else here. You should never have to do anything sexual that makes you uncomfortable. His unwillingness to consider your feelings tells me it is all about him...and you deserve much better. Kick him to the curb!
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