Thread: Can I have this prostitute arrested?

Without going into a long story, I just found out that our life savings has been taken by a stripper/hooker. I have all the emails with them negotiating prices ($1,000 a pop!, no wonder he's so broke now) and pictures of her doing lines with a dollar bill. Also emails about him taking trips to Mexico to buy speed. Can I take this to the police or will they just laugh at me?

Originally Posted by DonnaWV

I don't have any advice for you, but I am sorry this is happening to you.

Thank you, I am sorry it is happening to me and to our children. I don't know what to tell them. She is a year younger than our son, he just sold his car to pay for algebra classes to pass the test to join the Army, but his dad had to drive across the state this weekend to pay for servicing the car he bought for her so her warranty didn't expire. He is spending the weekend at the whore's apartment we are renting for her. Gosh, our kids didn't need college did they? He is paying for her to attend classes at Berkely, he's been checking into student loans the past week, we do need to get our girl educated! Our Dot will just have to fend for herself, no culinary college for her! My realtor friend checked and he hasn't refinanced or given her the house yet, but it's just a matter of time. I checked the bank accounts and they are pretty much drained. He's been withdrawing 3,000 to 4,000 every time he sees her. He's been seeing her since last April. We are not married, were at one time. I have been with him 26 years. Excuse me, I have to go throw up again...

Oh my gosh I am so so sorry. I honestly do not know what the police can do. I would suggest talking to a lawyer but if you're not married it could make things more difficult.

Oh sweetie I am just so sorry. If I could hug you I would, real tight.

Originally Posted by magenta

Damn. I have no idea about an arrest. But I would want to kill him!

I am sorry you are going through this. I have no real advice. Just stay strong and don't beat him to a pulp.

Nope, don't worry about me physically beating him to a pulp, I weigh 100 and he is close to 300 with a violent temperment. I am going to hit him though, where it really hurts. He doesn't know it yet, but come Fall he will be paying to send our daughter through the Culinary Institute of America. He will also make sure that our son has whatever he needs to go out on his own and start his life independently. He had better not come near me though - I guess I don't have to worry about that, he rejected me almost two years ago when he started hitting the strip clubs and hiring online whores. Apparantly I no longer meet his tastes or requirements - barely 21 with fake double D's. It's fine by me, he is having some kind of health problem hes going to Kaiser for, very secretive about it, prostrate or kidneys, now I have very good reason to believe its an std. They were emailing about how great it was to *** on cocaine without a condom. Can you imaging having sex with a whore without a condom? Someone pinch me please.

so so sorry this is happening to your family. I'd have to bet that he needs to think about putting something, what he has left, aside for child support. Probably the best advice is to get the legal advice needed so your children at least get the support they need for their futures. Your son sounds like a bright, intelligent, ambitious young man. Kudos to him for giving up the extras to get his pre-requisites needed for his future.

I'm sure you know this already, but although the savings is depleted, you'll always have your children; not so sure your ex-husband can say the same. Someday, he'll realize and regret it but by that time, it will be too late.

sending positive thoughts your way.

Originally Posted by tunisia

so so sorry this is happening to your family. I'd have to bet that he needs to think about putting something, what he has left, aside for child support. Probably the best advice is to get the legal advice needed so your children at least get the support they need for their futures. Your son sounds like a bright, intelligent, ambitious young man. Kudos to him for giving up the extras to get his pre-requisites needed for his future.

I'm sure you know this already, but although the savings is depleted, you'll always have your children; not so sure your ex-husband can say the same. Someday, he'll realize and regret it but by that time, it will be too late.

sending positive thoughts your way.

There is an attorney in the next county that specializes in 'Marvin' cases. California does not recognize common law marriage, but palimony suits are allowed. I have been saving all the paper trails for the last couple years cuz I knew something was going on, I never ever dreamt in my wildest dreams that it was whores though! I figured he was hooking up with some bar fly. We have been together since 1983, except for 4 years, I divorced him in 1991 and came back in 1995. I never legally changed my name, I have used his surname since we married in 1986. The house we live in was bought with the proceeds of a house that was basically given to me for $50,000 in 1999. We put it in his name with the promise that he would put me on the title in 2000 when it was refinanced. He reneged. I fixed up the house and sold it in 2006 for $316,00 and we bought the house we are in now and apparantly have been keeping up a mistress with the proceeds I worked so hard for. I honestly don't know what to do, I am in shock.

Originally Posted by vicky122

Wow how sad. So you don't check your bank accounts that often to know it was coming out like that? You could print out the emails and show the police. I would say put a freeze on the bank accounts but since he drained them that wouldn't do any good. Police can't do anything if he is paying her rent and school and apartment sounds like more of a girlfriend then anything if he is doing all that. I hope this house is in your name since you know what he did the last time. You been knowing this for two years watching your money go out of the bank account?

Of course not, it's his bank account, everything is in his name! I didn't dare pry into his business knowing that I could be out on the street in a second. I am disabled and have to rely on a very limited income. I have furnished his houses and paid for every blanket or dish here, I am the one that is in credit card debt for paying for the kids clothes, prescriptions, etc when he wouldn't. I am the fool that made his finances secure because I trusted him. I thought he was a good guy, so did others, my mom and my best friend are just as shocked as I, they thought I had lost my mind when I first told them. He kicked me out of his bedroom a couple years ago, fine by me, he got really freaky, obsessed with losing his hair and always wears dark sunglasses, he doesn't want anyone to see his eyes. Comes from a family with a lot of schizophrenics and frankly, I am scared of him. So i figured screw it, I am not a young or healthy woman, I will just live out my years at this house I love by the lake and let him do his thing. He would take off for weekends and come home telling me that he was at his buddies and didn't want to drive cuz he was drinking. I honestly had no idea that he was hooking up with online whores and paying strippers for sex. And yes, she is strictly a whore, he met her through an online site for prostitutes and she was stripping at a club an hour away from us. I have read all the emails, from the beginning when she was this poor student supporting her mom with the health problems, and now it is just demands for more money. He apologized to her for not meeting her financial requirements, begged forgiveness and yes, he agreed, $1000 is not too much to ask for a bj. He is hooked and she is going to take everything that we have worked for. Everything is printed out and forwarded, a friend came over and took all the print outs for safekeeping in case something happens to me, she knows the whole story and so do a couple of other close friends and my mom.