Thread: Bad weekend

OK, it has been a bad weekend around here.

Friday night, my ex-h calls my soon to be 18 yr old son after us not hearing from him for the past 17 1/2 years.......

On his cell phone.......

That is on my mom's plan.......

WHERE he got the number is beyond me, but he SAYS he will pay our gas and the hotel bill if I will bring my son to Georgia. Yeah, Im still waiting on his half of the special shoes my baby needed and the judge ordered him to pay when Anthony was 2 yrs old.


Saturday, I am working, my mom calls, my uncle has just died. It was not unexpected, but still bad. I get done working, head to my moms to get my children since she was keeping them so I could work and my DH calls. His mom is too weak to get out of the chair and he has to go over there to get her a glass of water. I throw a conniption and tell him to pack her out to the ER. I call my mom and tell her I will be after the kids as soon as I can get my MIL settled. DH is a wimp and wont stand up to his mommy(hes 62 for God's sakes) so she doesnt go.I throw a fit and tell her if she wants to die, thats her perogative, but she best be telling us what she wants and where the important papers are. She actually tells me something with my DH sitting there. I get home, call my mom, my mom and dad have left to go to my uncle's house to sit with my aunt by marriage and the kids/grandkids. My moms sister is there with my kids. She says when my parents get home she will bring my kids home.

My call waiting beeps, its my sister, FREAKING OUT. Somebody stole her wallet with EVERYTHING in it. Her money, her food stamp card, her kids medical cards, all the social security cards, her license, EVERYTHING. She wont get paid again till November 14 and her lights will be cut off by then. I call my mom's cell at my uncle's house and tell her whats going on. She calls my sister and says she will give her the money and pay her lights, so thats good, but now she has to take a day for the funeral and a half day to get things replaced. She just missed two days for court cause of her soon-to-be-ex. My aunt FINALLY gets my kids home at 9 pm. She also brings my late grandmother's walker for my MIL. I take the kids and the walker to my MIL.

I go to my mom's today for lunch and half way through, my MIL calls and she is NOW ready to go to the ER. I cant leave the kids cause of everything happening with my uncle and I have nobody else to keep them today. I get to the ER and my mom calls, they are headed up to get the kids and take them home with them.


My MIL has end stage congestive heart failure......she refuses to discuss it, and as long as she is of sound mind, there is nothing we can do about it. She can manage her own care.....or lack of.


I called my mom and she said to leave the kids and just pick them up at the funeral home tomorrow night. She is going to take them shopping and buy them funeral clothes.


Now, I have to take a half day Tuesday for the funeral, which I have no problem with, but my boss will FREAK because we are WAY behind at work and my helper is quitting this coming Friday.


Now, my stupid computer is acting ugly. I cant even use my mouse to highlight to copy and paste. Can ANYBODY tell me how to fix this? I cant control anything else in my life right now, but SURELY I can control this.

WOW Girl. HUGS AND PRAYERS!!!

Sorry to hear about your uncle. Keep your head up. Prayers are with you.

I had a weekend like this when my brother died. The following weekend was my sister's wedding. It was insane trying to plan a funeral and still keep things on for a wedding. We also had major problems with my parents and my sister-in-law getting along just to plan the funeral. Somehow, (I couldn't tell you how, other than through alittle help from up above) we got through it. Things for me usually happen in threes and hopefully that is not the case for you. Things will get better in time. In the meantime, take a nice bubble bath and relax. Let your mind think of the things you enjoy in life. It might only last for a moment but it can relax you alittle bit more than what you were before the bath. You could also take a walk and focus on the things you in enjoy. My thoughts and prayers with you and your family!

cpbaby, I sympathize with you so much. But don't do as so many of us do and take our anger out on our husbands. If your husband is 62 and his mom is dying of congestive heart failure try to help him through this situation. Your uncle is dead and your mom is upset. I get that and I understand about the kids and where are they and where will they be in an hr and who is caring for them. But my sympathy has to go to your husband. At his age he is beginning to feel his own mortality and he is helpless to help his mom as she is working just to keep breathing. It is a terrible way to die for all concerned.
Of course she didn't call him for a glass of water, she called him because she needed him to be there with her or she needed someone. Since you were kind enough to do the things you have done for her, just last a little longer because if she is in end stage heart failure , it won't be long.
What happened with your son? and your x wanting to see him?
Please do not construe this as criticism. It is not meant to be. And I understand that all these problems are difficult and all happening on top of each other makes it almost too much to handle. Hang in there.

Ah, I never even thought of it as critcism, not a problem at all. Thanks for responding.

This weekend, SO FAR is much MUCH better, but I was beginning to wonder after last weekend. I went into work on Monday and told my boss that I would be leaving an hour early that day and at 11 on Tuesday. I could see his mouth open and THAT look on his face, he was ready to blow and I explained my uncle died and I had to attend the funeral. He closed down right quick and gave his condolences.

HOWEVER, right before I left on Tuesday, we found out that $1500 of t-shirts I had screened for a client were every last one WRONG. It came down to my word against the salesman's word about what I was told to put on them. Since the salesman is my boss's brother, I figured I was fired for sure. He actually took responsibility.......shock shock. He never uses email, prefers to call and tell us things over the phone, even if we email him first. I emailed him and told him that from now on, I would not start on any project until I had an email I could print out and put in the clients file detailing my orders. He emailed back and agreed. Shew........


Im looking for a job though, pretty hot and heavy. After the week before when my boss through a coat at my head when my back was turned, I have figured out that I cant stay here much longer.

Wow..and I thought I had a bad week the week before last. On Tuesday my 17 year old daughter wrecked her car, Wednesday my husband was at his niece's house looking for someone while driving and ran our truck into a stump.had to get a new bumper, Thursday my 20 year old son's brakes went out and had already went into his rotars, Thursday night my oven door came apart when I was checking on sons fries and when it did that my oven door shattered all over my kitchen..had to get a new oven. Friday took same son to doctor with a large knot on his neck..some kind of neck mass having to go to a surgeon ( he thinks it may be infected lymph nodes and put him on z-pak, hopefully that is all it is as the other doctor told him it could be cancer ).

Things like this happen to us every year I just stopped and said Thank You Lord that you allowed me to have extra time at work to pay for these things. I am thankful that no one injured and hopefully son will be okay..he is suppose to leave for the Navy Feb 5.

Lean on God he is always there...