Thread: MY turn to vent and whine re: spoiled siblings

I have a little brother, to sum it up he is so spoiled rotten that that he practically doesnt even have to feed himself, everything is literally done for him, he has no responsabilities at all while I am ALWAYS the one left picking up the slack. End of my vent

(((hugs)))
I understand. I am the oldest of three. I could/can do nothing right and my little brother (the youngest) can do nothing wrong. He lives half way across the country from us and mom still pays most of his bills. She says nothing about him doing drugs, smoking, drinking and living with his girlfriend. She wouldn't leave me alone for five minutes with my DH when we were dating, even though we were sitting the the family room where anyone could walk in, and checked my breath everytime I came home. Surprised she never made me take a drug test.

. I could/can do nothing right and my little brother (the youngest) can do nothing wrong.

WOW we must be related

I should stay out of this thread since I am the "spoiled sibling" LOL

I don't borrow money or live off my parents, but growing up, my sister hated me because I was the "baby" and spoiled.

We are all over it now..... but mom loves me best! LOL

Get outta here, Buttrfli! No spoiled kids allowed! lol

I'm the oldest and two of my siblings (brother, 19) and sister (24) still live with my mother. Neither pays rent, helps with groceries, does their own laundry or ironing or any type of chore around the house. Neither repays the loans mom has given them. My mother is LOW income. It pisses me off to no extent.

Guess there is one in every family. My older Brother can do no wrong, I think Mother thinks the sun rises and sits in his behind. His children are her Grand Kids, but she doen't treat my kids the same. Been like that all my life, don't guess it will ever change. She is on fixed income, and bought him a new 4-wheller, now figure that one out, because I can not.

I'm the oldest of 2. There's a large gap between baby brother and I. 17 years to be exact. While I was growing up I had curfews, dates came into the house to pick me up and meet mom, strict on chores, made good grades, college bound at 18. LITTLE BROTHER???? No way!!!!!

I'm now 43 and little brother is 26. He has 3 children, works with our mother, she pays his rent, gets him out of trouble, dotes on his every whim, whine. I on the other hand still to this day, get "lectured" for buying something that costs a little to much.

However, both of us don't live at home anymore. I live more than 20 miles from my childhood home (mom still lives there). Little brother lives less than 6 blocks from her. Mom doesn't have a car, takes the bus for transportation. Little brother doesn't/won't take mom grocery shopping, movies, out to eat, check on her, except at work. I on the otherhand am at her house at least 4 times a week to take her to run errands.

Little brother's excuse???.........he's the youngest, shouldn't have to be responsible for mom. I'm still scratching my head about that one.

We have 2 options here......little brother can be in the background and do nothing. I'll take care of mom. Little brother can disappear, not been seen, heard from for years. He's done the latter for almost 4 years. No one knew where he was AT ALL.

Love him to no end but, get a grip on life little brother, it's not a free ride. Well, it wasn't for me.

Originally Posted by funburger

maybe your parents expected more from you.

Don't know what else they could have wanted. I never went out without permission. I never broke curfew. I didn't even have an alcoholic drink until I turned 21, even then never drank enough to even get a buzz. I was a virgin when I got married...to the only guy I ever dated. I don't smoke or do drugs. (I am the only one of their children who can say the above statements.) I wasted four years in the college my mom wanted me to got to and get the degree she wanted me to. (Which, by the way, has nothing to do with the job I do now and everything with the job I did for 13 years and hated every minute of.) My bother dropped an entire semester of classes the day after the deadline for getting your money refunded and she paid for him to do the same thing the next semester. I dropped out of one class cause I knew I would not pass it and did so so she would not lose her money and she threatened to not pay for my next semester...until I didn't fight her on it because I didn't what to get that degree anyway. Growing up we had to do chores, which I think is a good thing for kids to do, to a degree. My sister and I had to pretty much do anything that would have been considered my stay-at-home-mom's "job". Like washing the dishes, taking out the garbage, one night a week we each had to plan and make supper etc. For each of these jobs we would earn 5-10 CENTS a job. With this money we were expected to buy new clothes, school lunches, school supplies, and anything my Mom considered a "want" instead of a "need". My brother on the other hand got about 10-20 DOLLARS a week and didn't have to do anything. She also paid for his new clothes, lunches, etc. No wonder he had so much money for drugs and alcohol. The tooth fairy liked him more too. My sister and I got 25 cents a tooth while my brother got 5 dollars. Now he is only 7 years younger than me and 4 years younger than my sister. We were all losing teeth during the same time period. OK, I think I have hijacked this thread long enough, but I do feel a little better now. Thanks for letting me vent.
PS. I do have to add that I do love my brother, although our relationship is strained. I realize he is the way he is because of the way he was raised. I also realize that I seem to have the most balanced and happy life of the three of us.