MY DD said I am mean!!!

**ezmoney163** · 05-12-2004, 02:13 PM

She really hurt my feelings. I try to do everything I can to make her happy but she insists on being irratable.

She told me I was mean because I told her she had to do her homework and clean her room. She was mad because I had all her school work in my hand and she tore it out and all the papers went on the floor, I told her if she is gonna do that then I do not want to look at her papers.

I also told her if I was so mean then she doesn't havbe to have a birthday party at the skating rink.

She says to me "You are a mean Mom" I about cried right there.

I would love for her to have to live with the Mom I lived with when I was her age.

Any of your kids say stuff like this?? Is it normal?? My mom would have beat me to a pulp if I even attempted to say something not so nice about her.

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**freeby4me** · 05-12-2004, 02:16 PM

No its normal. You have to remember that she's around other kids her age and they're all telling her how they never have to do homework, Or they only get to eat what they want (Kids tell lies about all sorts of things LOL) So she's sitting here and you're telling her to do the homework and she wants to go play so of course you're "The mean mom" But hey, Be mean and have smart well mannered and good kids or be "The nice mommy" And have kids that do whatever they want! You're choosing the right path!!!

**Shann** · 05-12-2004, 02:17 PM

Honey, every kid says things like that! I wouldn't let it bother you, just think, in a few years it'll be i hate you and i wish you would die and things like that. Of course they are not nice and they don't really mean it, but it's something kids do, i remember saying things like that when I was a kid. I hope you feel better.

**catssass** · 05-12-2004, 02:20 PM

If I had a dollar for everytime my kids have said "I hate you" or "You're Mean" I would be RICH! I always know that it is said out of frustration, guilt(on their part), anger or they are just tired and Mom is someone safe to take it out on, it is perfectly normal and I don't ever take it personally, we always talk about it after the situation has passed and they do appologize and I even have said I was sorry if it was something I caused, it is part of being a family....

**MsLynn** · 05-12-2004, 02:27 PM

when my 10 year old son says that, I tell him "you haven't even began to see mean yet, but keep it up and you'll see the true meaning of the word MEAN" and the longer the keeps it up the more chores he finds out he's doing WITHOUT allowance. hehehe, so tell your daughter she has it great.

**annie169** · 05-12-2004, 02:40 PM

LOL...I tell my kids, Yep, I'm mean. I'm the Mean Old mama, but I"m your mom, so DEAL WITH IT.

**hotdoglove** · 05-12-2004, 02:42 PM

another thing i am not looking forward to from my girls but i know it'll be happening before I know it!!! cheer up ez!! Hugs!!!

**tiffany21** · 05-12-2004, 02:44 PM

every kid says things like that I get that from my 13 year old son

you are a great mom.

**rlynn411** · 05-12-2004, 02:53 PM

My daughter is 9 and I hear how mean I am almost daily. Doesn't even phase me....many times I tell her thats okay I don't much like you right now either. And she's aware I mean her behavior and not her. My favorite is when she tells me she hates her life.

They don't mean it when they say it, just their way of of blowing off steam. Don't let it bother you.

**janelle** · 05-12-2004, 05:33 PM

Cngratulations mom, you are doing a GREAT JOB. It's the parents that have the need to always please their children who end up with spoiled brats who can't get along in the world.

I like what John Rosemond says about it. He says to tell them, "Yes, I'm a mean mom. I mean it when I say something to you". Then follow through and also be thankful you are not a step-mom. Then you can't follow through cause you only have the title but not the authority.

**DivineMsDi** · 05-12-2004, 06:24 PM

"mean mommies" care enought to set rules and limitations....take it as a compliment. Yes, it is what kids say..

If my son called me mean, I would cry..then he would! Then he would say "Sorry MOM!" in his cute way.

You are a good mom, try not to get upset. Maybe later you can explain to your dd it hurts you when she says these things.

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