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WHATTA JERK! Four weeks and you are supposed to be done grieving over the loss of your father? Obviously this person hasn't ever lost anyone close to them or they are incapable of loving deeply.
I lost my father 6 years ago and I still feel the pain. I hated him most of my growing up years...but we became close toward the end of his life.
I lost my mother last year. (In fact...last week was the one year anniversary of her death). My mother had been suffering alzheimers so her passing was such a relief. I don't think I was grieving at the time of her passing.
Now...I'm able to remember her as she was most of my life...and I'm missing her so much. I think of her every single day! I don't think there will be any day that I don't miss her.
Never argue with an idiot. It will bring you down to his level and he’ll win because of experience.
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10-14-2003 11:39 AM
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Whoever told you that is an ignorant, insensitive clod!! My mother died in 1988 (ten days before Christmas). My brother was killed in 1996. I still grieve for them both very much. Some losses become easier to bear with time, but the hurt never completely goes away. You do what you have to do in order to cope; don't worry about what anybody else says.
{hugs}
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I lost my father 22 years ago when I was only 17. To this day I miss him and cry on occassion. The pain gets better and it does not stay at the top of your mind forever but it never goes away.
The person who told you that is an idiot! Everyone grieves in their own way. If you need to cry or be mad or confused or what ever that is fine just do it and don't let anyone tell you it is wrong!
(((HUGS)))
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My Aunt Chrissy dies in the mid 1960's and I still feel that she is with me.
My Aunt Doris died about 15 years ago and she is in my mind at some point every month.
People that you love and care about never really leave you. It does get easier with time but there are still moments when I will be talking to my mom and Doris or Chrissy will come to mind and we still cry a bit over them. I think it's because we loved them and they were so special to us.
I would much rather that someone thought of me from time to time after I am gone than to forget that I existed in 4 weeks.
I'd rather laugh with the sinners than cry with the saints.
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I lost my husband just this past June, I know the pain you are feeling. Don't ever let anyone make you think that you are taking too long in grieving. I had alot of trouble the first month, and then things seemed to be better the second, but the third month was by far the worst for me, I think it finally dawned on me that he was in fact not coming back. So anyone that thinks you should be over it by now is crazy! Take your time in greiving, just don't let it consume you and remember to take care of yourself as well.
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{{{mylaton}}}
my grandpa died Jan 3, 1996 and at my wedding (renewal of vows)Aug 4, 1998 I lit a candle in his honor since he couldn't be there. Several members of my family (including my now sil) couldn't understand why I did that. They said the candle was to be lit by hubby and I and to symbol our unity. Hubby lit the candle to honor his grandparents.
To this day I still think about my grandpa and wishing he could give me advice and help me through my rough times.
Heck, I'm still grieveing Dale Earnhardt. A fan wrote a tribute poem to Dale and one line says (as if Dale was talking) As long as you remember me, then I'm not really gone. I say that line over and over to myself when I'm missing my grandpa and Dale.
like father,like son...winners of the DAYTONA 500!!!!!
BIG BIG DALE JR FAN I've got it bad!!!
So many laps...so little time
I rather be racing!!! 
CAUTION!!!!Known carrier of racing fever 
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I lost my Mom almost a year ago. Some days are better than others and some days I feel I shouldnt be having a good time if I am. I hear it gets easier with time. My Uncle said to me a week after Mom died I cant believe your Dad is still crying over your Mom. I walked away from him but I quess it all depends on who is asking questions how quickly they expect ya to recover. Some people expect ya to be done and over it within a week and others KNOW that it never goes away. My Mom was 62 when she died. Her Mom died when she was 12 she never quit missing her. So thats what I think when I think I need to get over it. Sorry going on and on. I will think good thoughts for you and so VERY sorry for your loss
~~Debbie
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That person who said that to you must not have loved anyone and lost so they would not no what to feel. I lost my dad in 1981 when i was 19. I still hate the day he died 12/8. i wish i could just hide at home and cry. but i have to carry on. my husband and daughter know just to leave me alone on that day. My dad was my world sinc emy mom died that day i was born. He married again when i was 5 but i never liked the witch. i have two half brothers that hasn't had anything to do with me for the past 10 years because of that witch. i just wish sometimes my dad was still here and could have met my daughter and husband. sorry so long
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the person who said it to me I had become really good friends with so I took what they said to heart. I have been there when they have needed me. Thanks for the support everyone has shown me and I am glad to know that I am not crazy.
Personal quote: "What if I try, do my best and still make a mistake?-Count on it. Try anyway."
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To my father who has made me who I am and who is my best friend. I love you so much.
I love you to mom.
To my father you are my guardian angel (died Aug 25th,2003 at 4AM). You might be gone but you are forever a part of me and in my heart.
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I am sorry for your loss! It does get easier over time, but I still have days where all I do is cry. My brother passed away 12 years ago, at age 12, and I still miss him! We were 13 months apart, and best friends. I always wonder what kind of person he would have been, and now all I have are the memories of the time we had together. It breaks my heart to know that my neices, or the children I will have, will never get to know such a wonderful person. Do not let anyone tell you that you should be ok. It takes time, and everyone is different. It is obvious that the person that told you that, has never lost anyone close to them. I am sorry that I took over your thread.
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(((((((((((((((mlayton))))))))))))))
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you! I think it's different for everyone. Personally, I lost my Dad 3 1/2 years ago. Some times when I think of him it doesn't hurt, other times it will sneak up on me & feels like a knife going through my heart. Time does make it better.
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