In a mess (cont.) {adult subject}

[lizabeth527]

I posted a few days ago and now I can't find the thread again, so I'm re-posting to get your feedback. Thanks to those that replied!!
I am in an on-going "affair" and I'm having trouble determining and sorting out my feelings. I feel that I am falling for the lover but I'm not sure. I think I'm losing my mind and I honestly can't say how I allowed myself to get in this situation. Before this, I was 100% against anything remotely close to cheating or breaking vows---so that's why I don't understand how I got where I am now. What happened to me? I've been on the "other side" and I know how truly painful that is!!!!!!!!!!! How could I be a part of something that could cause so much grief???

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[lassss]

I dunnno that to say hon...just think about how'd you feel if your hubby was the one having the affair, how betrayed and used you'd feel. Think about your priorities in life, do you have kids? think how this would effect them if it all came out. Is it worth losing your hubby, your reputation, respect from others? Just some things to thing about. Good luck in your decision

[BigLyd1]

I don't really have any answers but since you said you were on the "other side," maybe this is your way of dealing with the pain and anger of it and wanting someone else to have to deal with it.

[Victorious]

YOUR OTHER POST

I will keep you in my prayers that you make the best decision.

[AngelGrim]

I truly think you need to think about what that other person feels do you want her to feel like you did, not trying to be mean but maybe it is revenge. It is like when I was angry, if dh did something, I would try to do it back to him in a meaner and worse way. Just a thought. You need to really talk to a counselor or pastor. Maybe even a parent if you are able.

[ezmoney163]

I think you need to talk to a counselor. SOmeone who will be able to help you through. In all honesty, what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Well that is not true, you know how bad you felt, how do you think you hubby will feel and the wife of this other man feel. I do not know what else to say but I hope you do the right thing. If it is something that is ment to be, I think you need to break free from all prior relationships and then go on from there. JMHO

[schsa]

Therapy is a great way to sort out feelings and problems. Whatever is happening in your marriage it is going to end up a bigger mess if you don't take control and do something. You need to be making some decisions and you can't make them on your own. You are too emotionally involved to be objective. A good therapist can help you by being objective and making you see what is going on in your life.

[PeggySue]

if ya need to talk email me ok.... good luck