Thread: Is it me or is this tacky?

Dh has 4 sisters, two are pregnant now. The one is due in April. I have been waiting to get an invite for baby shower. I got a text message last week from her telling me when it was. Last night I got another text from another sister asking me if I were coming cause the rsvp was yesterday.

So she sent out invitations to her baby shower through a text message. The one sister said that she only sent text to immediate family members. So she couldn't have given them to us by hand? It just seems cheap and tacky to me. I can't wait to see what the baby shower is going to be...

Anyone else think this is tacky or is it just me??

Yes, I really do think it is tacky. Last fall, I received text invites to a child's b-day party and one to a bachlorette party and I felt both of those were tacky. Texting invites for anything other than a booty call are a no!

Definitely tacky. Plus, did you receive the invite from the sister who is having the shower? The ultimate in tackiness is hosting a shower for oneself! Whomever hosted the party should have sent out invitations...even to family members.

Def. tacky. We throw huge bday parties at the park for my kids and everyone gets a real paper invite. Granted my immediate family like my mom I hand her hers, but everyone else gets mailed.

Tacky with a capital "T"

I once had a person text me about an ad I had in the paper

It is tacky to do it by text, what if you couldn't receive text messages? But, I have in the past sent an email or just given a phone call to immediate family members for my daughter's birthday party. I just don't feel the need to send them paper invitations.

I guess im not of the norm here...I am not a phone person, so i normally dont call anyone...including my friends or family. I post a bulliten on myspace or facebook n who wants to come can and who doesnt doesnt need to feel obligated to sense i dont send out invitations and pay for stamp and spend a lot of time making/adressing/ stamping/ mailing envelopes or even going from house to house person to person hand giving invitations. its just how I see it, all are welcome to come, but dont feel obligated to because I gave you this invite personally.

Yes it could be called tacky. But wouldn't it depend on how close you are to her? When I would have birthday parties for my kids, my mom and sister didn't get one unless they wanted one for a scrap book or something. It would also depend on the cost of the invitations and how many in a package etc. If I invited 8 kids plus my family, and I didn't want to buy a new pkg I would invite by phone probably. Is it possible you don't like this sister in law? That seems to be the case many times when we get irritated at small things like this. I don't know if a text message is considered adequate or not. From the above remarks, I would say no. But a phone call would do in my opinion. The fact some one else knew before you indicates you didn't get your message. Did you?

It wouldn't bother me at all. Most of my friends do things this way and if it's easier & faster; well, why not?

Maybe its just me, but I don't think immediate family members need to have a formal invite to anything. Especially if you have a huge family. Sending out invitations can be expensive when you have a lot of friends and extended family. I'd much rather not have a stamp wasted on me when I already know whats going on and I toss the invitations 2 seconds after reading them anyhow