photographing the dead

**buglebe** · 02-22-2010, 10:04 AM

Do you have an opinion and if so, what is it about photographing the dead in their casket? I was cleaning out a drawer and found pictures my sister in law made of my mom in her casket. I wish she hadn't done it. I remember my dad was upset about it at the time. When she gave me some, I didn't look at them and just shoved them in a drawer. I do wish I hadn't looked at them.
Mom looked beautiful but I would prefer not to have that picture in my memory. Do most family members do this, make pictures in the casket?

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**pepperpot** · 02-22-2010, 10:11 AM

My mom used to do that. I don't think it's a bad thing, I just don't think it's for everyone. If it is done, I also think it should be done very discretely.

I did not take pictures of either of my parents, that was not deliberate, I just didn't think of it at the time.

For some it can be comforting. Te each his own.

**jasmine** · 02-22-2010, 10:48 AM

My ex MIL took pictures of her late husband, mother and aunt (and who all else I don't know about...) It is something she does not display, and VERY few people knew about, she keeps them for her own personal purposes.

I really can't say if I would ever do that of a loved one or not.

**mosdata1** · 02-22-2010, 11:00 AM

My mom does this. I don't, I prefer to remember the people alive & look at pic of them doing something they enjoyed.

**newwiccan** · 02-22-2010, 11:45 AM

I couldn't do it. When a friend's 4 year old passed away a few years ago, she took pictures and she posted them on her Myspace. It was a little strange to me but I guess it helped her.

**ilikefree** · 02-22-2010, 11:58 AM

I don't think I would ever do that, but I can't say for sure. Like mosdata1 said, I'd rather remember the person alive. My grandma does, however, have pictures of my grandpa (who died before I was born). They were in a car accident and she was in the hospital during his funeral way back when so someone took pictures for her.

**Mini** · 02-22-2010, 12:49 PM

My friend took pictures of my mom in her casket for me(I forgot my camera and she came later) although she only took a couple of them and we didnt make it a big deal. We have several photos of family members in their caskets that various family members have took but none are displayed theyre kept to themselves. I dont think theres anything wrong with it and frankly I could care less whether other people like it or not. Some people/families just need to remember and others would rather not its personal preference.

Maybe its a southern thing? lol

**DreamWarrior** · 02-22-2010, 01:14 PM

One of my cousins did this when her 6 month old son passed away. She tokk the pics in case she ever had another child, so that child could see that he/she had an older brother that passed away.

She did have another child who survived and is now 18 years old.

***3lilpigs*** · 02-22-2010, 01:27 PM

IMO, it's tacky. I could never do it, and I don't want any.

But to each his own.

**Faithfully** · 02-22-2010, 01:41 PM

Not for me either. That is why I'm getting cremated, I don't want anyone to see me after I die, so burn me up the sooner, the better.

**freeplease** · 02-22-2010, 01:44 PM

My SIL did this and sent them in an envelope to us. She knew my little one liked to open her letters, and the first thing she saw was her dead Grandpa, in his coffin. Suffice it to say, she got an earful from both me and my DH over that one. We told her we didn't want any photos when she took them, and then she had the nerve to just mail them.

She was just very lucky we lived in another state. Very lucky.

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